Mens’ reaction to breast implants

[em2001ily]

Just wondering if any men on here have ever been out with a woman with implants, or if she got implants whilst you were together, what you thought about it?

Personally natural breasts of any shape or size would be my preference over "perfect" fake ones. Breasts are there for the biological function and the woman's pleasure. Those should be the main concerns

Hm ok but men are very visual and like something to look at. They do seem to obsess and drool over (big) breasts in our culture… which is fine they have a preference…. Good boob jobs actually look and feel quite natural nowadays, once they’ve dropped after 3 months or so that is.

What if you didn’t instantly know a woman had implants, then she told you?

I would not base my attraction to someone on their breasts. If I found out after that would not be an issue. Though I suspect false are fairly obvious to the touch especially. Not held any false ones to my knowledge.

Approx 25 years ago, I went out with a woman a little older than me, who had breast implants. They looked fine, but were solid to touch, perfectly round rather than natural shape and she had very little sensation in her nipples.

I wouldn't stop a girlfriend/spouse from having it done, but I wouldn't necessarily agree with it.

I dont know if they were dodgy, and/or not done very well, but they were not nice.

Maybe implants have improved, and are more natural nowadays, but I would prefer natural anyday.

You have had plenty of responses on your other thread about you not being happy with your small breasts and plenty of men, me included saying it to you that small breasts are not an issue for men (well, men who aren't twats anyway).

Respectfully, I think your issue will not likely be resolved with implants, certainly not in the long term, and again respectfully, I think you need to seek some counselling or therapy to come to terms with whatever it is that you are concerned about, as I fear that you won't find the answers you seek under a scalpel.

@MySXforumnn

I know you are trying to be kind and encouraging me to take care of my mental health; I appreciate that.

Just one thing: when men say small boobs "are not an issue", that still implies that they are not nice, that they are lacking but are just tolerated. Women want to be desirable and I think that's ok.

Not all implants feel like hard rocks - I think the saline ones used to?

In any case, I don't think I'm mentally ill, I just want to change one part of my body I feel is a flaw. I don't think 'perfection' exists and I'm not going on a plastic surgery spending spree, getting every procedure under the sun 🙄I'd just like to look sexy to most men, and not plain Jane or a vicar's wife type of look, which I think small breasts give...

But anyway, thanks for responding :)

Like I say, I haven’t felt an implant for 25 years so not sure if they are better now, but just going off my one and only experience.

I dont think you are mentally ill, and I apologise if it came across that way. Yiu can need some help without being mentally ill.

If you want to get implants, for you, then get them. You dont need to justify it to me, or any one else, either in real life or on an anonymous internet forum, but I get the feeling it won't give you the long term result you want.

Saying that small boobs are not an issue is not the same as saying they are not nice, simply that decent men will see you as desirable/sexy etc with any type of boob.

There are plenty of porn stars with small breasts so they definitely don't give off vicar's wife vibes. Big ones can be too in the way, and there are plenty of women who reduce them if they could.

I’ve dated women with implants and as said earlier I’ll take natural all day long. Fake boobs can be firm and sometimes look good in a dress as they sit up but my preference is real and natural in all it’s shaped and guises.

small breasts, larger busts it doesn’t matter - natural wins

If you didn't get the answer you were looking for from your other thread about breadth size, I'm not sure you're going to get a significantly different answer on this one.

I'd also try a different forum. The men replying to you on here (and it is men's opinions you want) are probably 30-40 years older than you. I'm assuming you're in your 20s? Or even just ask your friends irl!!

No offence taken 😱🤣

Hi OP,

I’m not a man but I am on the other side of the spectrum to you and have quite large natural breasts. The grass isn’t greener and they’re not all they are cracked up to be.

Every man will have a preference, but from my own viewpoint I’ve always thought small breasts look pretty in clothing and I wish I could go braless.

I’m sure you’re lovely as you are but if this will make you feel better then go for it. This should be for you though, not to attract men - you must decentre the male gaze from your decision to put yourself through something so invasive. Good luck !

I'm 30 :)

@Chonkadoodle Thanks for your post, and I do understand what you're saying about the male gaze, but at the end of the day, straight women do want to be desirable to men, just in the same way that men want to be desirable to women. I think women more so than men want to be found sexy though.

No young women wants a man to be wishing he was with another, bustier woman during time alone.

So I don't really think that a decision to get implants can be 100% just for oneself, but at the same time I would never encourage another woman to do it for a particular man.

I understand the point but generally I would wonder what unhealed part of myself is giving me this view.

Bigger boobs and being sexually attractive won’t make you attract better men, it might do the opposite. There are plenty of flat chested super attractive women, but I guess your viewpoint is based on your idea of beauty which won’t be shared by everyone.

What I’ve learnt about men over the years is that it’s quite easy to attract them but what keeps them interested is wit, intelligence and an engaging personality. I would rather fry my own head than spend my time with a man who was only interested in my boobs.

It never ceases to fascinate me how accommodating women are of the male gaze and yet men hardly do the same for us. We’ve been conditioned to believe they are “visual creatures” but their living conditions (and their socks on the bedroom floor) suggest otherwise.

@Chonkadoodle
Bigger boobs and being sexually attractive won’t make you attract better men, it might do the opposite.

I suppose it depends on how you dress and present yourself? There's nothing wrong initial physical attraction. That's what a lot of small breasted (we're not totally flat, there is a difference 😅) women who get implants want: they want to be found sexy initially, and not just seen as someone who a man has to 'get to know and like' to then overlook the 'subpar' chest....

I've heard similar comments before about big boobs attracting the "wrong" men, and I can see where it's coming from, but to be honest, I think that men who find a particular feature sexually attractive aren't "bad" men.... "Nice" men still have physical preferences, they might just be less vocal about them, or tell a girlfriend/date white lies about 'all boobs being great'....when in reality, the 'nice' men would still be more turned on by larger breasts.

Basically, all I'm trying to say is that women want to be found sexy, and it doesn't mean that we want to attract an idiot (to give credit to us women, I think we're pretty good at weeding out idiots, don't you?). Nice men need physical, sexual attraction in a relationship too.

I have to disagree slightly here. I’ve had a few conversations with various different men from this site and I’d say a greater proportion of the ones I’ve chatted to were under 40.

OP, if it makes you feel better in yourself go for the op. But don’t do it for a man.

As a warning, I know someone who had cosmetic surgery and although the result was ok, they didn’t like how their appearance had changed and went into a deep depression. It wasn’t a reaction she expected. Several surgeries later, she’s finally made peace with it but it’s a subject that is NEVER mentioned.

The high level of structural engineering you need for a bra when you are larger doesn't help cope with the back pain. Getting a humped back from 40 is not attractive. It doesn't stop boobs getting in the way of everday life, biscuit crumbs are itchy, you can't look down easily without bending over, and running is hell.

Buying into the porn idea of an attractive female with larger boobs doesn't improve your confidence and if anything is attractive in a woman it's confidence not big boobs. The men who are only interested in your boobs are not worthwhile.

No one takes you seriously, they think your brains got pushed out by the mammary glands and make nasty comments as you walk past. You are often the joke not the fantasy.

Why would anyone pay for that?

@AlexandrinaH the creepy men who DM unsolicited seem to be less than 40- they think mumsnet is somewhere to hookup with women 🥴

I'm pretty sure the majority who post regularly are 50 plus (and some are 60 and 70 plus!!). I just don't understand why a 30 year old would keep asking a very small group of older men for their opinions on boobs (when she's already decided anyway!!)

(Nearly) 40 year old man here;

Honestly? I could not care less about breast size. They have never and never will have any basis for my attraction to the opposite sex.

i also don’t care if boobs are natural or implants, but if my GF wanted to get implants I would tell her she doesn’t need them and advise her not to get them although I would never stop her.

I also don’t think it’s the case anymore that men like or want a partner with big boobs. Most won’t care; and those that do will generally go natural over implants IMO.

I know it's been said before, but this idea of men salivating over large breasts is just a humorous stereotype in popular culture. It doesn't reflect the variety of people out there. It's a bit like the idea of a 'man cold' or the notion that men are preoccupied with football and heavy drinking. Yes, you can find some people like that, but a lot of others are different.

Yes I can certainly appreciate the value of being the source of someone else's enjoyment. It extends far beyond sex too - it possibly contributes to people's desire to play music, act or perform comedy. All of these can be very rewarding, but there are tons of ways to do it other than cosmetic surgery, which is not without its risks and side effect profile.

As a woman who's had a number of same-sex intimate moments, implanted breasts feel firmer and appear to be worn higher on the chest in many cases than the natural variety. The scar tissue may not be obvious when viewed from the front but can be more intrusive for both parties when you start exploring the area intimately. There may be some (arguable) cosmetic 'enhancement' but there are disadvantages too.

My wife had a subtle augmentation done, completely off her own back. She always had a great figure and would often turn heads, but this gave her a real boost in confidence, which was lovely to see. And the funny thing is, most people had no clue that she’d done it! She looks a million dollars and has absolutely no regrets.

Your point about being attractive to the opposite sex is important;, I think the same; if you feel it would make you happy, go for it.

"A man wishing he was with another, bustier woman during time alone" - really, if that's how he feels he shouldn't have the privilege of being in your bed! I think you'll find men are just happy to be in bed with a naked woman, no matter what her chest size.
I think you have a very narrow idea of what being sexy is - it's not just the physically tangible. It's a twinkle in they eye, an essence, warmth, confidence, being an open & enthusiastic lover, a connection that happens when eye meets eye, not when eye meets breast. A woman who is trying too hard to be sexy - that is not sexy to me. I know not all men feel like this & some like the "cultivated" sexiness, but to me it's natural, you can't buy it, carve it, design it. It comes in all shapes, sizes & ages. I think Judy Dench is sexy! Purely because she doesn't try to be, but has a certain "aura" about her I find very attractive & appealing. (Well, 10 years ago anyway) But I'm older than you, & the messages your generation have grown up with in this hyper-sexualised society sadly go through to the bone.
(Literally in some cases 😅)

The under 40s I have conversed with actually are more polite generally than the over 40s. Just my personal experience; I’ve only encountered a few under 40 who are explicit about what they’re after and then instantly delete their account when you don’t comply.

The ones I’ve entered into messaging long term with have all been under 40, and have become good (online) friends with no sexual interaction.

You’re right though, there’s a lot of men of all ages who use this site to try and hook up with women (probably goes the other way too!).

That's interesting @AlexandrinaH do you mean these guys have posted on the sex forum? Or just messaged you? I've actually thought it would be nice to get some younger/normal men's perspective on things before on here!

IMHO the posters are in their 50-70s and usually long term married but sometimes into swinging or after casual sex and post on every post going hoping to get lucky 🥴😂. A few are also the married ones still hoping to get lucky. And the occasional divorced/desperate/bored man in his 30/40s but they will often be quite bitter