Mens’ reaction to breast implants

[em2001ily]

Just wondering if any men on here have ever been out with a woman with implants, or if she got implants whilst you were together, what you thought about it?

@Gymbunny2025 brvause when I joined this site - I haven’t been on it long - I didn’t think the demographic was as old as that… it is called “mumsnet” after all, and mums can be 20s/30s.

I didn’t think there’d be 70 year old men 😅🤦‍♀️

I was referring to the men who post on mumsnet only. Lots of young women on here ☺️

How do you know they post on Mumsnet only??

Many years ago if I had been asked to express a preference in breast sizes, I would have said that I liked bigger ones. I have been with a woman who has really small breasts for the past 23 years and it did not take me long to realise that breast size is of no consequence whatsoever, even in the initial stages of attraction. If a man has a relationship with a woman based solely on her breast size, then there are problems, in my opinion.

Just before I got together with my current, small-breasted partner I bedded a woman who had implants. Her breasts did look rather good when clothed, but when undressed it was perfectly obvious that she had had breast augmentation. I didn't find them and the underlying insecurity over her breast size very attractive to be honest.

@em2001ily you are totally stuck in your own head and yet still looking for validation from others. It’s pointless. Many (most?) of us just don’t agree with you at all. I fundamentally do not agree that “Basically, all I'm trying to say is that women want to be found sexy”. You’d be much better off interrogating why you believe this rather than passing it off as a fact and justification to get implants. By all means just get implants if you want them. Why not??? But ALL you care about is what men will think of this one part of your body. Will this really actually change anything? Is this happiness?

I’m very much on the side of the OP - it’s nothing to do with validation from others, but everything to do with being seen to be desirable and attractive because we like how that makes us feel. I exercise and look after myself, using moisturisers and body butter, nice aftershaves - women notice and pay compliments often.- I don’t require that validation, but it really makes my day - and I love doing the same.

And I’m very happily married to a gorgeous woman with enhanced breasts!

@xpc316e Not all women who get breast implants are ‘insecure’ in themselves overall, they just don’t like one part of their body, because they think it isn’t sexy to men and they want to be sexy (whether they admit that or not). They don’t believe that they are ‘less of a person’ because of their small breasts… but they would rather look good.

Just out of interest, if you preferred bigger breasts when you were younger, what did you think when you saw your partner for the first time (or early in your dating) when you were younger? Physical attraction is important and that’s fine.

@ISpyNoPlumPie ok, I should’ve been more spécific about my choice of words in my posts.

I want to look sexy, and I think many (not all) women do too, and I think breasts are a part of physical attraction for men.

Yes, I have come to an internet forum asking for strangers’ opinions - I’m not asking anyone to validate or otherwise a choice to get implants or not, I just wanted opinions/anecdotes

Not all men find breasts physically attractive

But you get opinions and then ignore all those which tell you breast size doesn't matter in terms of attraction sexiness, despite everyone on this thread saying that and the majority on the previous thread too. So you aren't looking for opinions you are looking to validate a choice you have pretty much already made. You don't need validation because your assumption that larger breasts are sexy for men is incorrect and basically everyone agrees with that other than you.

Sexy isn't a tick box exercise, it's nebulous and complex.

It's your body your choice but if you want to do it anyway, why ask anyones opinions?

I'm wondering if a significant ex has made you feel this way about your boobs @em2001ily ? I had assumed you were much younger than 30 and didn't have much experience with men!

I realise I’m in the minority here but I love them. Personal preference but I think they usually look better, look great in clothes and undressed. Of course there will be bad examples but I’ve always liked the slightly fake look.

With respect, there are plenty of bits of my body with which I am unhappy, but I have not resorted to being surgically altered, because I am not under the illusion that my life would be any better if I were to do so. My use of the word 'insecurity' may have been wrong as far as you are concerned, but I do feel that any sum of money spent on a boob job (or any other surgical procedure) might be better spent on counselling in order that the person might end up feeling happier with what they had in the first place. I write as someone whose former wife spent a large sum on a facelift to combat what she saw as signs of aging. She wound up looking younger, but was no happier with her life in general afterwards and she still retained all the worries she had about my potentially running off with a younger woman. Plenty of people who undergo surgical procedures to remedy what they see as defects in parts of their bodies do not gain any lasting satisfaction and simply go on chasing a dream by having yet more surgery. I would call that behaviour insecurity, but I can understand why you might differ in opinion.

On the subject on attraction when I first met my current partner, I can remember being bowled over by other aspects of her appearance and character that I paid no attention to the size of her breasts. I can recall that she was wearing a pair of clean, white jeans and as I followed her along a corridor, I thought that she had a very cute backside. Once we had our first date, I was so smitten by her beautiful personality that aspects of her physical appearance simply did not matter. That is still the case nearly a quarter of a century later.

Tell me more about- I’m a man and have never encountered another man who did not admire the amazing female form!!

You’re making a whole series of assumptions and judgments there, you don’t speak for me.

The OP wants to look and feel good, a woman that men take notice of - there is nothing sexier in a person, female or male, than one who takes pride in their appearance and who strives to make the best of themselves …..

What a tragic view of sexual attraction. Nothing sexier huh? Are you making “assumptions and judgements”?

As for being “a woman that men take notice of”, how goddamn sad.

I thought the vast majority of straight men found them attractive. Obviously some are more into them than others though

My apologies to you and the OP, I should have said the majority not everybody.

As for the rest of your post, I also said

It's your body your choice but if you want to do it anyway, why ask anyones opinions?

I asked peoples’ opinions because people will have them and I’m curious. I was br asking people to tell me whether they think I should or shouldn’t get implants, just what men thought of them.

I hope all the answers here and on your other thread were helpful in one way or another.

@em2001ily
"Hm ok but men are very visual and like something to look at."

Well I'm a man, I'm visual and I like something to look at... but what I specifically like to look at is small, natural boobs. I don't think I've ever seen fake ones that looked right. They're invariably too big and aren't a natural shape. It looks like someone stuck a grapefruit in there and all of it is either above or below the nipple rather than behind it.

OP the problem here is that you seem literally incapable of acknowledging that there could be any men who actively prefer small breasts (despite quite a few explicitly saying this on the other thread). I do get it, I've wished in the past that mine were bigger too, but you're torturing yourself over something that simply isn't the case. The men who happen to prefer small ones aren't compromising or overlooking the breasts because they find other things about the woman sexy, the small breasts ARE something they find sexy. Unfortunately if you can't get your head round that concept then you are always going to feel inferior and yes maybe implants are the way forward for you, but bear in mind that a lot of men do express a strong preference for natural breasts over implants no matter what the size, so you may just be replacing one problem with another.

I've met women with and women without enhancement.

The two sexiest women I ever met had the smallest natural boobs.

I know this isn't what you want to hear and it's not what you're asking but I need to say it because of what I went through.
I had implants for 16 years and had them removed a year ago and I would caution against getting these.
I loved them and I had an excellent surgeon. They fluffed and were a great size. Mine did soften but they were still very firm.
The thing was I didn't realise that my health slowly started tanking and I ended up with a host of 'autoimmune' conditions.
I became sicker and sicker and eventually realised that it was my implants that were doing it. I was bed bound for two years. Breast Implant Illness is a real thing and the medical world is still gaslighting women that they are safe. They really aren't. Please just join a BII group on Facebook and have a read of some stories before you take the plunge. Virtually every woman becomes ill eventually. It's only looking back I realise what was going on.
I absolutely love my boobs now, I was really lucky that mine turned out well after everything they went through and they are somehow better than before I had them done. But they will need to come out eventually and it's more money to get them out than it is to have them done. It's not an easy op and you don't want to go through what some women are going through. As I said I am lucky but I have seen photos of some poor ladies after explant and sadly sometimes it isn't a pretty sight. The main thing is they are now healthy.
Love your boobs as they are, they are part of you. If you have confidence in your body and love yourself as you are then any decent man will find that sexy.
I wish I'd known that back then.

My DH has experienced all three 'sets' of boobs I have had (before, with implants and now) and says he loved my first boobs, enjoyed my second boobs but he much prefers my new boobs.

Pay no heed to Tristan. He thinks he should get the Victoria Cross for making a Sunday roast.