Sex icks

[Silverbook]

A friend (yes, honestly) had the hilarious (for us, traumatic for her) experience of a guy getting down to the deed and saying “missile incoming” at the split second before penetration. I think she deserves an Oscar for keeping a straight face. Instant sex ick!

Whats yours? Mine is anybody who thinks it’s acceptable on any level to keep their socks on.

Please say she then declined further sexual activity 🤢

😄 omg, what an awful man

I have no words 🤢. Absolutely gross.

Oh god.

Someone I knew experienced a man performing backyard oral and then kissing her immediately afterwards. She didn't see him again.

Well if you and your pal are in the habit of having sex with comparative strangers is it surprising you come across gross and off putting behaviour?
They don't have any obligation to respect you other than comply with obtaining consent so why should you be surprised at their behaviour otherwise?
You and every one else are entitled to have sex with whoever you want but surely off putting behaviour must be par for the course .

Where in the OP does it say the guy was a "comparative stranger"? For all we know they could have been dating for months before this took place, or been friends for years?

Regardless, how long in your view do you have to know someone before you can guarantee there will be no "off putting" behaviour during sex? Anyone who has spent a bit of time on these boards knows that plenty of women are dealing with all sorts of "off putting behaviour" from long term partners and husbands!

Oh no, OP didn't put "lighthearted" in the subject so now the fun police are here

Jfc, calm down Mary Whitehouse

But they might not have been strangers - you've just completely made that up. I'm not sure how you'd know before having sex that someone would think that was a normal and not at all weird thing to say. Even people who sometimes say slightly weird things (not offensive, just a bit of an odd sense of humour) don't necessarily say them during sex!

I think it’s probably a post from missile incoming man himself actually.

Comparative strangers?!

My socks on reference was my husband!

The Missile Launcher had been dating my friend for months. Her first relationship after a 15 year marriage.

Not that that matters in the slightest as neither leaving socks on or making the joke of “incoming” are related to being disrespectful.

This is the only explanation for an otherwise bonkers post.

I think I’d just laugh if someone said that to me? I don’t get why you’re all so offended?

Because she refers to him as " a guy. "
She doesn't sayDH/ DP/ bf or even fwb.
" A guy" implies a random person with no meaning in her life.
I get what you say about horrible behaviour during supposedly loving relationships. But I assume if that was the case here OP would not have been presenting it as a joke.

Reminded of the Oz joke, foreplay being "Brace yourself, Sheila".

Well if it's your DH and the socks and you have talked to him about the socks but he still does it that is disrespectful in my view.
As for the " incoming missile" that type of trivialising remark doesn't come from nowhere. It is representative of an attitude to the person you are having sex with.

The Missile Launcher 😂

What an odd, nasty judgy post. Where has the op said it was a casual encounter? Surely you don't know what someone is like in the bedroom before you do the deed? You could be dating someone for a year then still get the ick when you finally sleep together

Sex as such.
🤢
Honestly.
Fortunately, I don't have to engage in it.

I think I take issue with the fact that if the boot were on the other foot and the guy was laughing at and discussing his woman partner and how they acted during sex and describing the sex to their pals - as realistically happens- then the woman quite rightly would feel upset and betrayed. Because as far as I'm concerned the sex act between 2 people is a private act.
Therefore I feel a woman discussing what her and her sexual partner got up to in bed with her pal is also a betrayal.
And OP putting her pals sex life on a public forum doesn't seem her place and is also a betrayal of confidence

I would have laughed so hard at that he would have been ''laughed out''.
That is ludicrous!🤣

Wow the fun police are on form today.

I didn’t think I’d need a huge amount of context for a lighthearted post.

To redeem my husband, the sock incident was a few months after we met and just to reassure you, I didn’t feel disrespected.

Missile Man was saying at an attempt at humour.

My post is clearly lighthearted rather than about feeling disrespected or attitudes to sex.

This has the makings of a brilliant, funny thread. Let's not let the constipated Sunday School teacher spoil it.

Worse, it's the kind of person who marries the first bloke they shagged from the local pub when they were 18 and instead of thinking 'how lovely this has been my experience, and how great it is that other people will lead different lives sexually' like a normal person, thinks that any kind of casual sex is a moral failing and men will treat you badly because you sleep with them. Meanwhile their Gary hasn't tried to give them an orgasm in 15 years except on birthdays.