Blow jobs!

[pinkmango222]

So I've been divorced a number of years and am late 40s. I've dated a huge amount since my divorce and am basically having a really fun time, with no desire to settle down again.
So, here's the thing... does anyone actually get turned on by giving blow jobs? I am happy to give them, but they don't give me any fluttering's down below! The men I have slept with all bang on about their exes hating blow jobs but on the flip side, they profess to ADORE spending hours going down on a woman.
What are your thoughts?

@Fs365 please don’t feel you need to keep explaining to me. It’s true—some like it some don’t. I get what you are saying. Have a good day👍🏻

You may bet that they don't enjoy doing it but you'd be very poor poor very quickly if you put money on that bet.

Personally, I love going down on a woman.
I get very aroused by it and it's one of my favourite things to do.
I don't do it solely to please the woman.

It's fine that you don't like it but please don't gaslight us who do.

As a woman it's very obvious when a man actively enjoys something (and seeks out oral for his own pleasure for example) and one who is doing it out of duty for mine. Personally I'd only consider the former as a sexual partner. I wouldn't get aroused by someone doing something purely for my benefit and I can't imagine he'd be very good at it! The majority of men really do enjoy oral though in my experience.

Whether that also applies to men/blow jobs (getting back to the topic!) I have no idea! But as @StarlightLady said in my opinion too some sessions should only be for enjoying mutual oral sex.

hahaha honestly, Fs365, are you just posting this to be inflammatory and get people reacting? Are you really trying to say that no men like licking pussy, and that similarly, most of the women on this thread (not exactly a huge sample of the world population..) say they don't really like it but do it for the sake of their partner's pleasure?

No men like it?

My small-sample research findings disagree. My only experience is men almost begging me to do this to me. Some tbf actually literally begging. I can only think it's because they like doing it? Or do they adore me that much??

You don't like it, but that doesn't mean other guys don't. Ah and you haven't tried me so I guess you can't say for certain you don't like it.

thank you 😘

for giving an alternative male opinion that is respectful and celebratory of women. I mean, isn't that what sex is all about? Respecting and enjoying the other person? Understanding the unique privilege of someone else letting you get close to them? That's how i see it. Maybe I am weird.

Begging? Yeah right …, they are begging to have sex with you, not for any other reason, it’s self serving

I stand behind my comment, in the wider world most men would do this because they know that their partner likes it & not because they themselves actually want to .

Why would a man decide to post on a women's forum, with the purpose of trying to convince women that men don't enjoy oral sex (just because he doesn't) 😂😂

Fs365 you're right that men begging to do this is self serving - but that's because we do enjoy it. Hugely. Not all, of us obviously - and you're right that some dislike it and/or only do it to please their partners. But there are millions of men, including this one, for whom there's nothing more intimate & erotic when you're with a woman you really fancy. So I agree with Thorninhisside and valentinka31.

I know, l don’t get why this man is so insistent.Many posters have said, that’s his prerogative, if you don’t like it, it’s not for everyone.But still this person feels the need to argue his case, why
From a woman’s perspective, l would never ask a man to, give oral sex, it would only ever be, if he really wanted to and l felt comfortable.A man or woman would be able to tell, if their partner wasn’t enjoying oral sex, or didn’t want to.For this person to be saying he does it, but doesn’t like, it doesn’t make sense, why would his partner want him to, when he’s making it clear, it’s a chore, he doesn’t like it and finds oral sex dirty, which is what he’s eluding to.

I don’t enjoy going to the dentist- , but I go because I don’t want my teeth to fall out.
I don’t enjoy performing oral- but I do it because my partner likes iit - why is that simple statement so hard for you to understand?

It's not difficult to understand.

You don't like it. That's ok.

But please don't suggest that those of who do are only doing on sufferance .
That perspective is so demeaning to me. as a man, and so demeaning to the women that enjoy their male partners enjoying something so intimate.

I just don't get why you are so adamant that men only perform oral for their partner's sake and not because they actually get off in it themselves.

As I said previously, I love doing it. If my partner doesn't reciprocate, that's ok. That's her choice.
But I do it to her as much for my pleasure as for hers.

If she doesn't want me to go down on her then I won't.

That is so simple. Why do you not understand?

And thank you for your reply.

I always try to be respectful in any comment I leave.

I'm amazed that people assume that their perspective speaks for everyone else of their own "tribe".
Be that gender, sexuality, nationality, culture or whatever.

My experience, and my desires/fantasies/turn ons are mine and mine alone. I would never suggest that someone of a similar age and upbringing to me would share these. Nor should they.

It really irritates me that any man would try to speak for me or dismiss my perspective.

And to return to the original post, I think all we can ever do is to trust what our partner tells us.
If someone says they love doing x, y, z, then why should we disbelieve them and second guess them?

begging to be allowed into the hallowed sanctuary between my legs and not only be inside me but also lick me.

because it is so nice, I taste divine and they love it. Not a chore. A precious pleasure.

Really, I am not joking. They want to be able to do that because of the pleasure it gives them, as much as loving to give me pleasure.

ha yes I also don't get it. And so persistently repeating it. So I guess he must believe he is right and we are a pack of nitwits. ?

oh thank you, it's really important for us to know and hear this. Because views like Fs365 are so damaging and horrible, and not actually even a balanced and accurate reflection of the truth.

you must be a great actor then. What Lucy25 was saying was that surely your partner must feel you don't enjoy it?

and just because you don't like it, doesn't mean other guys don't. Sorry to be so direcr, but what don't you understand about that?

exactly

(sorry, I know I am posting a lot of responses!! 😅

yes exactly to this too

You are right. In my humble opinion : )

That’s what he’s trying to do, to put women off.He’s the only one who’s been really negative and it’s all directed towards women.

😂😂😂

Read the room, nobody cares what you think.

you see, Fs365, my perspective is kind of happy. I don't think yours is, it is all about how the most intimate part of a woman is not attractive. That's sad. Thankfully you don't speak for all guys.

No- it’s your use of language

And?