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Blow jobs!

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pinkmango222 · 16/08/2024 17:32

So I've been divorced a number of years and am late 40s. I've dated a huge amount since my divorce and am basically having a really fun time, with no desire to settle down again.
So, here's the thing... does anyone actually get turned on by giving blow jobs? I am happy to give them, but they don't give me any fluttering's down below! The men I have slept with all bang on about their exes hating blow jobs but on the flip side, they profess to ADORE spending hours going down on a woman.
What are your thoughts?

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valentinka31 · 30/09/2024 13:04

Fs365 · 29/09/2024 23:03

No- it’s your use of language

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My use of language was deliberate and conscious. Some people would get it.

I was trying to get across that what you say is physically unpleasant and repellent is not so for many others. But no problem. I'm sorry you can't feel the beauty.

Fs365 · 30/09/2024 20:22

valentinka31 · 30/09/2024 13:04

My use of language was deliberate and conscious. Some people would get it.

I was trying to get across that what you say is physically unpleasant and repellent is not so for many others. But no problem. I'm sorry you can't feel the beauty.

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At what point did I use this phrase ?

what you say is physically unpleasant and repellent

Kerkyra2024 · 30/09/2024 20:43

Fs365 · 30/09/2024 20:22

At what point did I use this phrase ?

what you say is physically unpleasant and repellent

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You may not have used the particular phrase but you heavily imply it

valentinka31 · 01/10/2024 11:33

Fs365 · 30/09/2024 20:22

At what point did I use this phrase ?

what you say is physically unpleasant and repellent

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you said that a sweaty vagina is not a pleasant place to be.

you said your gf being drunk wanting oral and being sick was repellent - somehow the wanting oral got all mingled up with the drunk and sick, the whole thing sounded v bad.

you said to someone something along the lines of well even if your partner gives you oral then you don't think he actually likes doing it, do you.

and more.

As a woman, I would find it unbearable if a guy did it just out of a self-serving sense of omg do this then i can f her. That is horrible. I'm starting to feel actually genuinely sorry for you. Everything sounds so mechanical and orgasm-focused.

You've used enough imagery to make it feel overall as if women should be ashamed of themselves and for wanting/liking oral done to them. It's female body shaming really.

Thanks then to all the guys who have spoken up with their opposite opinions to yours.

Fs365 · 01/10/2024 19:10

you said that a sweaty vagina is not a pleasant place to be.

^^ And I stand behind that , a sweaty vagina is not a pleasant place to stick your face.

i bet you feel the same about men , im sure you don’t like a stale sweatyv penis either

Just because you don’t like another persons opinion- it doesn’t make the opinion less valid than yours

valentinka31 · 02/10/2024 17:19

Fs365 · 01/10/2024 19:10

you said that a sweaty vagina is not a pleasant place to be.

^^ And I stand behind that , a sweaty vagina is not a pleasant place to stick your face.

i bet you feel the same about men , im sure you don’t like a stale sweatyv penis either

Just because you don’t like another persons opinion- it doesn’t make the opinion less valid than yours

I wouldn't mind a sweaty one, but I probably wouldn't be having sex at all with a guy who didn't love and therefore look after after his own penis. Having said that, if I was with a guy who was clean but just had been in some situation that meant he hadn't been able to wash, then I also wouldn't mind. Because I would love him so I wouldn't care, I'd still want him.

Sweat doesn't put everyone off. Tbh it quite turns me on.

Kerkyra2024 · 02/10/2024 17:36

Just some general sweatiness I can deal with. I love giving my DP blowjobs and it helps a big deal that he keeps himself very clean so there is no unpleasant taste so will blow him any chance I can get. He does not demand I do so either in any way

Mxflamingnoravera · 12/10/2024 10:29

Giving can always be made more fun if you use a toy such as womaniser on your clit whilst giving a blow job, I find it makes me super turned on and the blow job is then part of my own enjoyment. Try it! See if it changes how enthusiastic the bj is given and received!

And yes, if you're the kind of person who gets turned on by giving pleasure it's something you are likely to enjoy, if it's just done out of a sense of reciprocation it's unlikely to be much of a turn on for either of you.

StarlightLady · 12/10/2024 10:58

Mxflamingnoravera · 12/10/2024 10:29

Giving can always be made more fun if you use a toy such as womaniser on your clit whilst giving a blow job, I find it makes me super turned on and the blow job is then part of my own enjoyment. Try it! See if it changes how enthusiastic the bj is given and received!

And yes, if you're the kind of person who gets turned on by giving pleasure it's something you are likely to enjoy, if it's just done out of a sense of reciprocation it's unlikely to be much of a turn on for either of you.

I’m enthusiastic but couldn’t do this. I clench my teeth when stimulated and the repercussions don’t bear thinking about.😳

IcyLilacZebra · 16/10/2024 07:46

Love giving them to my dh we've been together 7 and a half years and its still the best

Imthescottishconfuseddad · 16/10/2024 07:54

I love giving and receiving oral sex not too many guys going to say no to getting a blow job I wouldn’t imagine

valentinka31 · 16/10/2024 20:18

Imthescottishconfuseddad · 16/10/2024 07:54

I love giving and receiving oral sex not too many guys going to say no to getting a blow job I wouldn’t imagine

that's the thing.. giving and receiving. You said it.

TicklishBeaker · 12/11/2024 14:21

I think a turn on is a bit much, but I definitely get enjoyment from giving him pleasure. It's a bit like a starter......
I know the main course is next. 😄

everywhichway · 12/11/2024 15:47

Well, I'm happily in both the giving and receiving camps too!

Angela59 · 16/11/2024 07:55

Takes me back to my newly separated days
Mid eighties, 23yrs old, RAF Brize Norton, captive male audience lol

TheDeftSwan · 16/11/2024 17:05

I only want it if she loves doing it….you can tell when they do. The moaning during and the attention.

I really like giving it and often initiate so maybe why I get t returned with gusto

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