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Blow jobs!

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pinkmango222 · 16/08/2024 17:32

So I've been divorced a number of years and am late 40s. I've dated a huge amount since my divorce and am basically having a really fun time, with no desire to settle down again.
So, here's the thing... does anyone actually get turned on by giving blow jobs? I am happy to give them, but they don't give me any fluttering's down below! The men I have slept with all bang on about their exes hating blow jobs but on the flip side, they profess to ADORE spending hours going down on a woman.
What are your thoughts?

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everywhichway · 18/08/2024 18:03

More tea Vicar?

spamandeggs · 21/08/2024 22:19

I used to give them out of a sense of duty but now I'm nearly 40 I'm actually loving it . I've been with my DP for 20years and I just feel like I can finally let myself go lol

Uglyandgrumpy · 22/08/2024 12:46

I love them. I think she does too.

MovingonfromMartin · 28/08/2024 23:51

StarlightLady · 18/08/2024 07:56

Many years ago, I gave my first blowie behind a restaurant in the Tuileries Gardens, by the Louvre in Paris. A mix of risqué and posh 😀. My sister says there should have been a blue plaque 😂.

Suddenly remembered this when watching the opening ceremony tonight. Quite why my brain used space to remember this and not what I went upstairs for I will never know!

Agiftandacurse · 29/08/2024 07:14

I love them. Either with me kneeling in front of him or me on top in 69 position. Sometimes the thought makes me salivate!

I've never been with a man who didn't actively love giving and receiving oral (I think I'd question his sexuality!!)

BeenThere101 · 02/09/2024 21:51

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ThisOchreLemur · 02/09/2024 22:36

I love it, talking with some girlfriends from my home country most of them love it too, maybe is cultural?

ThisOchreLemur · 02/09/2024 22:37

Agiftandacurse · 29/08/2024 07:14

I love them. Either with me kneeling in front of him or me on top in 69 position. Sometimes the thought makes me salivate!

I've never been with a man who didn't actively love giving and receiving oral (I think I'd question his sexuality!!)

my two last exes dind't like giving oral sex.. but they both loved receiving it.. very selfish.

BeenThere101 · 02/09/2024 22:39

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EnergeticTigerDad · 03/09/2024 04:17

ThisOchreLemur · 02/09/2024 22:36

I love it, talking with some girlfriends from my home country most of them love it too, maybe is cultural?

Interesting idea, what part of the world?

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 03/09/2024 07:21

@EnergeticTigerDad ha, why are you asking? Fancy a trip? 😂😂😂

Ibloodylovetea · 03/09/2024 15:09

spamandeggs · 21/08/2024 22:19

I used to give them out of a sense of duty but now I'm nearly 40 I'm actually loving it . I've been with my DP for 20years and I just feel like I can finally let myself go lol

Me too. I used to do it with my ex out of a sense of duty, but now I'm in my 60's & remarried to a lovely man who treats me like a princess I've discovered that I enjoy both giving & receiving.

EnergeticTigerDad · 03/09/2024 19:08

MoreCardassianThanKardashian · 03/09/2024 07:21

@EnergeticTigerDad ha, why are you asking? Fancy a trip? 😂😂😂

Haha, cultural literacy! And my wife comes from an immigrant family (but I don't know about any special cultural BJ preferences, just her own attitude to them). But if one were single, this is better than travel advice from Rick Steves LOL

Confusedscottishdad · 03/09/2024 19:34

Don’t think there has been a man ever who has knocked back a BJ however what I would say is equally enjoy reciprocating maybe even more so

Acesup6995 · 10/09/2024 20:27

I am different from most guys but I don’t really care that much about receiving blow jobs. It feels good and my wife is good at it and I don’t say no I appreciate when she does it even though it’s usually only for a few seconds but it’s not like a big thing for me. To be honest I have never ever climaxed from getting a blow job, like ever in my life. Several girls took it as a challenge a few as an insult a little but just never been able to get there that way.

How I am wired though oddly enough is I have always been absolutely addicted to going down on women. Love love love giving DATY oral pleasure that is my happy place. It’s not just like that I am a giver I genuinely enjoy it and get a rush off it myself more than anything else. I have always been that into doing it.

Unfortunately my wife may be literally the only woman I have ever met who says she does not like a guy going down on her and never has. She has barely even let me try to go down on her like maybe a combined total of five minutes in the past 10 years so I’m like a starving man in the desert missing it so bad. It’s all in her head cause when she was drunk one time I went for it and her body responded till she got in her head about how gross it was to her receiving.

So I feel like I’m in one of the weirdest positions of any guy. I would a million times rather go down on her than her go down on me but she’s like the only girl alive that won’t let me. And she is willing to go down on me but it’s not like something she loves and it’s not something I am dying for but it is nice to see her give a little effort for me. The thought counts you know.

Lucy25 · 11/09/2024 16:04

Tartantotty · 16/08/2024 20:34

totally overrated by internet, porn etc. Blow jobs (for women and men) have to be given when the 'taker' is super clean. Women are turned off by cheesy dicks and men can't stand fishy vaginas.

🤢Fishy vaginas are because of an infection.

Candyfloss99 · 11/09/2024 20:51

If none of his exes liked giving him one and he actually admitted to this then that's a massive red flag!!!

bedtimeisthebest · 12/09/2024 07:40

@Acesup6995. I had a partner in the 90s who made it clear from the start that I was not to go down on her, even though she enjoy giving me a bj.

In the almost three years we were together, only once did I get to do it, as she said I could 'as a treat'

Truthbetolddd · 14/09/2024 06:03

For me if a guy has no foreskin it’s certainly a chore. I do enjoy giving them but the guys d1ck has to be nice with a nice foreskin. If they have that then whilst I might not get overly excited whilst giving one I do however get really turned on when they are close to cumming and especially whilst they are as I love licking and sucking on the frenulum and rolling my tongue around it as they are doing it. I will say however I detest deep throat I just can’t do it lol

Claire903 · 14/09/2024 08:59

ElleintheWoods · 16/08/2024 19:13

Ha. Ok, I’ll bite. I really enjoy it. (Maybe not beyond the 5 min mark or so though!)

When I have a crush on someone, in my head I imagine going down on them over any other sexual act. It’s nice, you feel like you have complete control over them and their pleasure for a few mins and they can’t resist you.

And it turns me on in the sense that if used as foreplay, you can imagine what’s going to happen next while going down on them and work yourself up for the main event.

@ElleintheWoods I can relate. Love the power, like I'm in absolute control and feeling it swell from soft to hard.

However really depends on the man. Some I really want to do it, others I don't. With my ex husband it felt like a chore. Because I didn't like it I wasn't confident. I'm with you on the time though, 5 minutes can feel like a very long time!

Talktalksauce · 15/09/2024 07:27

depends on cock really … sometimes the mere sight makes me salivate. I like to play with myself while I suck and sometimes we cum at the same time doing this and he regularly finishes in my mouth after full sex. I get asked where I want it so I dic(k)tate. He is amazing at oral so I’ve had mine first.

Acesup6995 · 16/09/2024 17:07

bedtimeisthebest · 12/09/2024 07:40

@Acesup6995. I had a partner in the 90s who made it clear from the start that I was not to go down on her, even though she enjoy giving me a bj.

In the almost three years we were together, only once did I get to do it, as she said I could 'as a treat'

Man I wish my wife would see it as a treat she could give me to let me go down on her. I’ve tried that idea telling her it would be the best gift she could ever give me, perfect gift to give me for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Hannukah all 8 days, kwanza, weddings, bar mitzvahs, Presidents’ Day, it’s the gift that just keeps on giving. But she has just totally closed her mind to any possibility of liking it. When I try to go for it lucky if I even make it down there for a second before she shuts me down. Last time I got to go down on her for any length of time was 2019 after a friends wedding she was drunk I went for it. Her body was reacting well but after few minutes she got all in her head about how gross it made her feel. I’ve told her how badly I miss it and her response was I should be with somebody else then. It’s honestly a problem between us cause I literally feel depressed a little that I’ll never get to go down in a woman ever again. What I wouldn’t give to taste a woman again. She is literally the only woman I ever met that says she doesn’t like it. Didn’t even think such a thing was possible.

Fab1988 · 16/09/2024 21:12

I do love it actually. I love the reaction from him, and I really enjoy doing it. Flutterings, perhaps not, but it does really turn me on.

valentinka31 · 16/09/2024 23:18

It absolutely turns me on, I adore giving blowjobs and could for hours.

valentinka31 · 16/09/2024 23:19

PS
Obviously only with someone whose dick I love, and who I love. But I wouldn't be giving anyone else a blowjob anyhow.

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