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Blow jobs!

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pinkmango222 · 16/08/2024 17:32

So I've been divorced a number of years and am late 40s. I've dated a huge amount since my divorce and am basically having a really fun time, with no desire to settle down again.
So, here's the thing... does anyone actually get turned on by giving blow jobs? I am happy to give them, but they don't give me any fluttering's down below! The men I have slept with all bang on about their exes hating blow jobs but on the flip side, they profess to ADORE spending hours going down on a woman.
What are your thoughts?

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jubs15 · 17/08/2024 08:41

I enjoy giving partners oral as long as they a) are clean, b) don't push my head down, c) don't expect me to keep going forever, d) don't cum in my mouth and e) reciprocate.

bedtimeisthebest · 17/08/2024 08:54

I had a partner once who hated me going down on her yet loved to give me a BJ.

I was disappointed as I love going down on someone and I did always feel guilty as I felt I was not being equal

DixonD · 17/08/2024 11:50

bedtimeisthebest · 17/08/2024 08:54

I had a partner once who hated me going down on her yet loved to give me a BJ.

I was disappointed as I love going down on someone and I did always feel guilty as I felt I was not being equal

That’s a shame. I love it so never understood why some women don’t like it - maybe it’s fear or maybe for some it feels too intense?

I can understand you feeling guilty. My husband loves doing it and sometimes he seems to prefer it over everything else. I sometimes have to beg him to stop so I can return the favour.

fourelementary · 17/08/2024 13:11

I love it with DH… especially from soft.

DixonD · 17/08/2024 14:11

fourelementary · 17/08/2024 13:11

I love it with DH… especially from soft.

I’ve only done this once and I spent the whole time worrying it wouldn’t get hard 😂

Only took seconds in reality but it was stressful!

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pinkmango222 · 17/08/2024 15:36

Thanks for all of these answers. I totally agree with being turned off by my head being yanked forward, men who think you should gag on their cock and as for swallowing cum. No bloody thank you!

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niadainud · 17/08/2024 18:27

Itssamemario · 16/08/2024 20:33

A classic. Along with, "I've never came from a BJ"

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What sort of illiterate men do you go to bed with?

EnergeticTigerDad · 17/08/2024 19:57

My wife often initiates them and has always swallowed, so I guess I'm lucky! In fact she did so on our first date. She was a virgin when we met but I assume she'd had some experience with BJs before me. I don't mind, it's kind of intriguing.

Passmetheaero · 17/08/2024 22:00

Be honest……. do men really like going down on women? I’m so self conscious when men do it to me I can’t relax.

everywhichway · 17/08/2024 22:09

Passmetheaero · 17/08/2024 22:00

Be honest……. do men really like going down on women? I’m so self conscious when men do it to me I can’t relax.

Yes, a lot of them do!

MySXforumnn · 17/08/2024 22:09

Passmetheaero · 17/08/2024 22:00

Be honest……. do men really like going down on women? I’m so self conscious when men do it to me I can’t relax.

Yep, I genuinely love it. I've done it on it's own with no expectation of anything im return. It features in 99% of our sessions, and I feel like I'm missing something if it doesn't happen. Guaranteed for dw to cum that way.

Belfastdave · 17/08/2024 22:14

I love a lady to sit on my face while sucking Mt cock

Bobbotgegrinch · 17/08/2024 22:16

Passmetheaero · 17/08/2024 22:00

Be honest……. do men really like going down on women? I’m so self conscious when men do it to me I can’t relax.

God yes.

At the risk of sounding like one of the hairy handers that hang around the sex topic, I absolutely love it. One of the only disappointments I have with my current sex life is that like you, DP gets self conscious about it, so we don't do it all that often. As a result she has to be really really turned on or a bit tipsy to ask for it.

Josette77 · 17/08/2024 22:20

Passmetheaero · 17/08/2024 22:00

Be honest……. do men really like going down on women? I’m so self conscious when men do it to me I can’t relax.

Dear God Yes!

Some men Love it. I'm bisexual and I love it. Vulvas are gorgeous and sensual and soft. They are very erotic.

mnmnddddd · 17/08/2024 22:21

GreyCarpet · 16/08/2024 17:39

The men I have slept with all bang on about their exes hating blow jobs

Don't believe them.

That's a manipulation tactic.

They tell you how their ex never would so that you prove to them that you're nothing like their ex...

Yeah. All men are manipulative, lying, misogynistic, sex obsessed bastards. Every last one of them. Not one of them has a single redeeming feature and they're all crap in bed. Right, ladies? ✊️

Or ...
I think for some people, it's less about enjoying the act and more about enjoying giving your partner pleasure. My jaw gets tired before I want to stop, but that doesn't mean I'm not still enjoying myself.

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 18/08/2024 00:35

For me there’s something of a turn on having it in your mouth and looking directly into his eyes.

BrianWankum · 18/08/2024 07:35

Love giving head. Anywhere from just a tease or until orgasm. I have come a couple of times just from that.

And my current boyfriend will go down on me for ages, making me come several times until I say stop. So yeah I think he likes it.

StarlightLady · 18/08/2024 07:56

Many years ago, I gave my first blowie behind a restaurant in the Tuileries Gardens, by the Louvre in Paris. A mix of risqué and posh 😀. My sister says there should have been a blue plaque 😂.

aCatCalledFawkes · 18/08/2024 08:16

Passmetheaero · 17/08/2024 22:00

Be honest……. do men really like going down on women? I’m so self conscious when men do it to me I can’t relax.

He tells me he does and he does it every time we have sex, sometimes we just do that and he doesn’t ask for anything else.
I get it makes you feel vulnerable because it is one of the most intimate acts someone can do to you, but if he’s happy and you trust him then there good reasons to try and relax a bit.

StarlightLady · 18/08/2024 08:20

aCatCalledFawkes · 18/08/2024 08:16

He tells me he does and he does it every time we have sex, sometimes we just do that and he doesn’t ask for anything else.
I get it makes you feel vulnerable because it is one of the most intimate acts someone can do to you, but if he’s happy and you trust him then there good reasons to try and relax a bit.

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I have no problem in relaxing. I need to relax regularly!

everywhichway · 18/08/2024 09:23

StarlightLady · 18/08/2024 07:56

Many years ago, I gave my first blowie behind a restaurant in the Tuileries Gardens, by the Louvre in Paris. A mix of risqué and posh 😀. My sister says there should have been a blue plaque 😂.

I bet you drove him inseine. 😉

Steve788 · 18/08/2024 12:53

pinkmango222 · 16/08/2024 17:32

So I've been divorced a number of years and am late 40s. I've dated a huge amount since my divorce and am basically having a really fun time, with no desire to settle down again.
So, here's the thing... does anyone actually get turned on by giving blow jobs? I am happy to give them, but they don't give me any fluttering's down below! The men I have slept with all bang on about their exes hating blow jobs but on the flip side, they profess to ADORE spending hours going down on a woman.
What are your thoughts?

My wife doesn’t enjoy giving a blowjob but I love going down on her, massive turn on seeing her enjoy it.
I think I’ve only had one ex who used to put a lot of effort into giving a blowjob and it was mind blowing

Steve788 · 18/08/2024 13:18

Passmetheaero · 17/08/2024 22:00

Be honest……. do men really like going down on women? I’m so self conscious when men do it to me I can’t relax.

I love it! Such a turn on seeing how much pleasure a woman gets when you go down on her.

Day99 · 18/08/2024 15:40

🙋‍♀️ and mostly swallow too 🤷‍♀️

MovingonfromMartin · 18/08/2024 17:31

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 18/08/2024 00:35

For me there’s something of a turn on having it in your mouth and looking directly into his eyes.

Absolutely! Then seeing his eyes rolling and his - I'm enjoying this quite a lot - face

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