How common is it for men to like giving oral to women?

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I’ve slept with three men. None of them have even tried to give me oral. One said he had with a previous partner and didn’t like it. The others didn’t even try. Am I unlucky or is this normal? Well I know it’s not normal, but is this wildly out of the norm or only slightly out of the norm?

And for the men answering, I kind of think you will skew to the ‘yes I love it’ side, but you’re already showing your interest by being on this forum. So how about other men you know? Do they like it?

Women - what shall I do? I kind of feel it’s becoming a dealbreaker. With current (fairly new) man I’ve mentioned it a couple of times briefly, out of the bedroom. I feel like I don’t want to ask in bed as maybe he doesn’t want to (fair enough) and I’d rather a man wanted to do it, and asked ME rather than me asking HIM.

I think you're right. Sounds a bit creepy to talk about how no hair encourages them 🤢🤢

I disagree with it being creepy. It's unnecessary detail yes, but the fact of it isn't creepy. There's the argument I see on here a lot that hairless women look like prepubescent children but I really disagree with that. The 2 are in no way alike and I think there's something wrong with people that think that.

I just wish that guy would stop posting about his wife!! That is creepy 😂

I didn’t realize it was your job to police the forum, and I am that sorry my contributions did not meet the superior standards that you hold for the Mumsnet sex board.

I know.. grim. Notice how it's this section that attracts all the men 😆

I was thinking this too.

I don't know where these guys that don't like giving oral come from. I love doing that. Hell if a woman, say a friend of mine called me and wanted just that... I'd be there with my head burried between her legs till she says stop

I think the responses from men on here are always going to be skewed, this is a sex forum, predominantly for women where men will want to show how amazing they are.

Realistically, I'd guess its a fairly even 50/50 split in the real world.
On here, probably 95/5 split.

Never/Rarely for ONS ( can't actually remember the last one i had actually! )
Never until a few sessions into a relationship
Only if SHE wants it/likes it/enjoys it
If they aren't particularly clean down there then it can put a man off for life
Full bush is less likely to have me between their legs as often
Sat on my face is bliss!

I'd say in my experience it's about half and half, men who love it and men who don't love it, but some will do it if asked. Men who are good at it however, they are less than 25%.

Luckily, my partner loves it and is amazing at it though, and his enthusiasm for it is such a turn on. In fact the first time we slept together he gave me oral for ages first, and made me orgasm multiple times that way before we had piv. He knows how much I love it and always prioritises my pleasure. He's a keeper for sure.

Man here, I love it, i'll message direct😂😂😂joking. Not something I have ever discussed with anyone else tbh, but completely unable to understand how anyone wouldn't enjoy it.

I've met one man who didn't ever attempt to and it was a deal breaker. More men can't get enough of it. But I love to give too so fairs fair.

Dammit I'm single 😳🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

Female here married 10 years, my husband tried a couple of times at the start of our relationship I was 21 (and apart from my first teenage boyfriend who tried to do it briefly to me) he was the first man to try and give me oral stating a couple of times he loves giving oral he was 5 years older than me so had more experience... However I could just never relax enough to enjoy it so I just told him I don't like oral 10 years later he hasn't tried again but over the years the conversations has came up via a TV show or movie with it happening he has mentioned how I don't like it.
Am I missing out? Should I let him try again?
I feel like after 2 kids I'll be even more uncomfortable though as I'm paranoid I'm different down there now (2 Episiotomies during child birth.

Men really don’t care what you look like there , a vagina is a vagina and to us they all pretty much look the same. It’s the pleasure on the recipient’s face and the vocal tones given out that make men enjoy it. If I was with a partner who didn’t like it, I wouldn’t go down there , as it takes the enjoyment out of it for both parties.

Please don't worry about the episiotomy scar. I am with a new partner, Despite being late 40s/ early 50s we are both very comfortable with our bodies and communication( he has never had kids) I pointed the scar out, he said he could barely see it, he was interested in a science sort of way as he had never heard of the word before. Then went back to telling me how beautiful and delicious I was. Let him have another try , you have nothing lose.

I don't really notice my wife's episiotomy scar. You have to look carefully to see it. And besides the position of my face close-up against her vulva means I cannot see it while in the oral act.

“Am l missing out?” - Yep, definitely!

As to what you look like, you look like a woman; be proud!

As l’ve said on these forums before, and been criticised by some men, l would not consider having sex with someone who would not go down on me.

For me I’ve had guys that literally lap it up and stay down there for ages and I’ve also had men who have never ventured there. Speaking to male friends the only reason they have given for not wanting to do it is because of bad experiences with a past partner (hygiene) etc or because the experience they had was with one that was not so pretty shall we say. I can kinda liken it to me as a person who loves giving BJ’s I’ve been put off after experiences with shall we say unclean guys (cheesy) but even after that I’ve always at least tried with new men and if I enjoyed doing it I would carry on doing it.

I absolutely love giving oral to women its my favourite foreplay, i would happily rather give then receive,
Its a incredible turn on to me to see, hear, feel and taste the pleasure im helping to create with that women😋

I personally love going down on a woman. The pheromones intioxicate me and I love having such a direct contact and control of her pleasure and orgasms. I'm waiting for her to one day wake me up by riding my face.

I’d not consider going down on someone unless they went down on me so I see your point. It would possibly be a deal breaker in a relationship unless the sex made up for it.

Nobody but nobody crosses the boudoir threshold until this one is sorted out. If someone wants to share my body these are the rules!

Noted 😉

I love going down on my wife and seeing the pleasure she gets from it is a massive turn. She’s asked me a few times why I love it so much and that’s always been my answer. She’s been with about 10 men and she said I’m the first to love and want to do it. When I asked my mates most of them wasn’t into it and only did it if they had to return the favour.

There nuts
I absolutely love doing it.
Haha natural goodness

@SomethingStrangeWill ”There nuts
I absolutely love doing it. Haha natural goodness”

For me, I love that he loves doing it, but the slow intimate ecstasy as his tongue works its way around every bit of my vulva is just exquisite”. My first ever bf was older and much wiser than me and when I first experienced him do that on our first night together I thought I was going to pass out and was a lovely introduction to sex….a memorable first time.