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How common is it for men to like giving oral to women?

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SexBoardQuestions · 11/08/2023 17:39

I’ve slept with three men. None of them have even tried to give me oral. One said he had with a previous partner and didn’t like it. The others didn’t even try. Am I unlucky or is this normal? Well I know it’s not normal, but is this wildly out of the norm or only slightly out of the norm?

And for the men answering, I kind of think you will skew to the ‘yes I love it’ side, but you’re already showing your interest by being on this forum. So how about other men you know? Do they like it?

Women - what shall I do? I kind of feel it’s becoming a dealbreaker. With current (fairly new) man I’ve mentioned it a couple of times briefly, out of the bedroom. I feel like I don’t want to ask in bed as maybe he doesn’t want to (fair enough) and I’d rather a man wanted to do it, and asked ME rather than me asking HIM.

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myNewName21 · 15/08/2023 00:35

Marmaladejamtoast · 14/08/2023 23:11

It hasn’t proved your point though, if you’ve only experienced oral from the opposite sex.
Starlight is presumably bisexual which is why she made that statement in the first place.

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But starlight is only one person passing her opinion as fact, you would need to ask every bi women and then your answer

not just the opinion of some random woman of the internet

StarlightLady · 15/08/2023 06:57

I don’t want to hijack this thread and digress from the initial subject. Having enjoyed time with both men and women over the years, the point l was trying to make is that women have a greater understanding of how a woman “works” and can “read” another’s body.

With the male “decent” comparison, l did not suggest for one minute, that a man could not deliver “decently” (wrong word surely) with a woman.

Most women would not go with another women, that is true, but you may be surprised how many there are where curiosity gets the better if them.

I’ll leave this particular thread at this juncture because some clearly do not like what l have said; that’s fine by the way. I was just commenting from my own experience. ❤

Marmaladejamtoast · 15/08/2023 08:37

myNewName21 · 15/08/2023 00:35

But starlight is only one person passing her opinion as fact, you would need to ask every bi women and then your answer

not just the opinion of some random woman of the internet

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Which is why I said, how would they know a man was better and not a woman.
Reading the orgasm gap, lesbians and bi-women are more likely to orgasm than a straight woman who is having sex with a man maybe there is some truth to it.

rach971 · 15/08/2023 14:09

I feel your pain. My partner says he likes doing it but he never does it. Or if he does it lasts about 20 seconds. I can't help but think he isn't that keen and just doesn't want to say 🤦‍♀️

pinkcheesy · 15/08/2023 14:37

My ExDH hated it, because he had a tied tongue and was painful to stick his tongue out (I discovered this long after we were married!)

My first LTR in my early 20s loved it and was very generous to me.

Since my separation, I've had 3 ONS with younger men (I'm 52, they were 35-39) who all gave me oral before PIV and told me beforehand how much they love doing it (and they were all good)

Now in a relationship with a guy who literally can't stop making me cum 🤣 and the more I get the quicker it happens. He's not hugely skilful with his mouth but he's sensitive and can read me so it always works one way or another. I can orgasm by sucking his nipples if I'm already aroused enough. I suspect I've just got very lucky!!

I will never again be with a guy who doesn't do oral, it's a dealbreaker for me now.

StarlightLady · 15/08/2023 15:19

@pinkcheesy - Tied tongue? Really? It's not just about sticking your tounge out, it's about the lips as well.

I'm pleased you have found a lover (I'm in my 40s and still use old fashioned terminology) who can do the job properly.

myNewName21 · 15/08/2023 18:12

StarlightLady · 15/08/2023 06:57

I don’t want to hijack this thread and digress from the initial subject. Having enjoyed time with both men and women over the years, the point l was trying to make is that women have a greater understanding of how a woman “works” and can “read” another’s body.

With the male “decent” comparison, l did not suggest for one minute, that a man could not deliver “decently” (wrong word surely) with a woman.

Most women would not go with another women, that is true, but you may be surprised how many there are where curiosity gets the better if them.

I’ll leave this particular thread at this juncture because some clearly do not like what l have said; that’s fine by the way. I was just commenting from my own experience. ❤

It’s not that I don’t like what you said, more the way in you assumed your own personal experience was the de facto truth, rather than just your opinion,

StarlightLady · 15/08/2023 19:35

@myNewName21 - Hesitatingly engaging with you further on this one because I said that I considered the matter closed for the benefit of others, who might have valuable contributions. But as you have responded...

Isn't the whole subject strapline here based on personal opinion? I was merely saying that those with identical bodies have a better undertanding of each other. I still beleive that.

And as @rach971 has said 20 seconds does not do the job. Now that is a fact!

pinkcheesy · 15/08/2023 20:49

Actually I can cum in under a minute....

And yes, a tied tongue made it really difficult for him, regardless of lips. It makes babies unable to breastfeed properly so it's not that hard to believe. when he was born it wasn't routinely looked for and his mum bottle-fed. I only realised when our children had a tongue length contest with him and I realised he physically couldn't get it past his lips. When you look at the frenulum it's quite obvious. Extending it far enough to give good oral was painful.
(That isn't why we split up btw 🤣)

myNewName21 · 15/08/2023 21:55

@StarlightLady

we will have to agree to disagree then.

I know what my female partner likes & wants in bed because we have regular sex & we talk about what we (both ) like.

However I don’t believe that just because you also have a vagina you will automatically know what she likes and dislikes, in the same way that just because I have a penis I don’t presume to automatically know what every other person with a penis will like in bed 🤷🏻

it’s not like playing snap

CplT · 15/08/2023 22:03

Probably more down to the individual rather than what sex you are.

AuNatrel · 17/08/2023 10:33

I have a question about this. Is it common for men to be turned on by a woman's smell and taste when giving oral? My own partner has said mine drives him wild. I assume it doesn't normally have that effect for bi and lesbian women - or does it?

Chellybelle · 17/08/2023 11:21

AuNatrel · 17/08/2023 10:33

I have a question about this. Is it common for men to be turned on by a woman's smell and taste when giving oral? My own partner has said mine drives him wild. I assume it doesn't normally have that effect for bi and lesbian women - or does it?

It really does. Why wouldn't it? I'm into women sexually as much as any man.

myNewName21 · 17/08/2023 18:51

AuNatrel · 17/08/2023 10:33

I have a question about this. Is it common for men to be turned on by a woman's smell and taste when giving oral? My own partner has said mine drives him wild. I assume it doesn't normally have that effect for bi and lesbian women - or does it?

I would say yes & no at the same time, the smell can change at different times of the cycle, if the smell is a bit “strong “, that’s not so pleasant

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SexBoardQuestions · 17/08/2023 22:19

So what makes a more pleasant smell? Is it no coffee, no cigarettes, lots of water and fruit?

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nameitagain · 17/08/2023 22:34

CuriousD · 11/08/2023 18:25

It's the best thing in the world.

Men who don't do it are really missing out...big time.

Best thing? Better than penetration? Better than a BJ?

ChezzD · 17/08/2023 22:45

Most have given me oral without asking, particularly my kids dad is very assertive about it e.g. telling me to lay back and spread cos he wants to eat me. Only one who didn't was probably my worst.

Yeaaaaaayeaxx · 18/08/2023 01:45

I've slept with 18 men and only 6 from what I can remember have given me oral. I couldn't be with a man who doesn't like giving oral, it's my favourite thing over everything else 😂

StarlightLady · 18/08/2023 06:58

@Yeaaaaaayeaxx - That is a 2 thirds failure rate. I hope the failure rate drops in the future. I know that l have been criticised for it on MN in the past but l still think it’s right to have that “pre-point of no return conversation”.

myNewName21 · 18/08/2023 07:32

SexBoardQuestions · 17/08/2023 22:19

So what makes a more pleasant smell? Is it no coffee, no cigarettes, lots of water and fruit?

Personally I would say hygiene is important, a sweaty body that’s been dancing all night is not massively pleasant ( and I’m sure men are the same), and bit smelly, and personally I found the hormone changes throughout the month alter the strength of the smell, after a period has finished I find the smell is not so strong as she gets towards her next period it becomes stronger again a bit more pungent ( if that’s the right word)

myNewName21 · 18/08/2023 07:33

nameitagain · 17/08/2023 22:34

Best thing? Better than penetration? Better than a BJ?

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I would say eating ice cream is most certainly more enjoyable than eating a woman

Stoopidi · 19/08/2023 20:28

I’ve slept with 16 men in my life, 5 in the last 5 years, since I dumped XH. It’s only these 5 - all from OLD - that have given me oral. They were all good at it. My now DP is brilliant, he actively wants to do it and is so blooming chuffed at my orgasms! If I had my time again I wouldn’t have carried on with any man who didn’t have that level of enthusiasm. Lesson learned. Of course I’m happy to return the compliment 😊

BarryTaylor · 20/08/2023 15:29

AuNatrel · 17/08/2023 10:33

I have a question about this. Is it common for men to be turned on by a woman's smell and taste when giving oral? My own partner has said mine drives him wild. I assume it doesn't normally have that effect for bi and lesbian women - or does it?

Most definitely! I absolutely love giving oral to a woman and could very happily spend all day down there pleasuring her.

Anotherbloke1 · 24/08/2023 16:01

I love going down on my partner, she always cums and sometimes squirts, can feel it running down my chin. Before me she never liked it but I persuaded her to let me try, now she asks me to go down on her😛

Oldtadger · 25/08/2023 17:49

Best thing ever. Make it a pre-requisite for any partner. Get him down there making you feel good.

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