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Does a larger penis make a difference?

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Rosesareredd · 27/07/2021 09:20

My partner is average size (about 5 inches), I can only orgasm if we have sex in certain positions, on my back and legs up near my shoulders, or where he can penetrate me more deeply, accompanied by clitoral play.
I suppose it would be interesting if I was a bit fuller, whether it would make a difference to my orgasm. I’ve never had sex with a well-endowed man, does it make a difference to those who have?

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Inthesameboatatmo · 27/07/2021 11:57

I've never really found it does for me.
Some blokes with a massive dick think all they have to do is pound away like a dog with 2 dicks and you will love it.
Some women cant orgasm from penetrative sex at all .
Some women prefer a fuller feeling of having a man with a large penis but I always found it's not the wand it's the wizard so to speak .

CheshireDing · 27/07/2021 13:41

Depends how large I think.
DH is bigger thank average and that’s good for me.

I have seen a fair few penises and went out with a guy who had a really small one for a while. To be honest it was a disappointment because I couldn’t really feel much, BUT he was VERY handsome 🤷‍♀️😀

I also went out with a guy who had a huge penis, that was too much (and I enjoy a good one !) 🤣

ScottishZoe · 27/07/2021 14:37

Yes, they can't be lazy with it.

But a larger penis makes a difference to me at least 7-8" with decent girth is my ideal and I prefer a guy to have at least 6", but smaller can still do the trick.

@CheshireDing How small was really small?

PussGirl · 27/07/2021 16:43

Thickness is more important to me than length - too long & I get jabbed in the ovaries when doing it from behind & I like to feel the whole length, not for him to keep something back, as it were.

Current DP is about 6.5", nice & thick

Previous have ranged from 4.5" & slim - amazingly inventive owner though - to a huge whopper I privately called "the salami" that was pretty useless for sex really

B1rdflyinghigh · 27/07/2021 17:00

Id rather have girth than length. Average size is a perfect size. However, currently I would be happy with any size or girth..Grin

xpc316e · 27/07/2021 18:38

I have a cock of entirely average length and girth. Nobody has complained to the management about it and truth be told I wouldn't want it to be any larger. There is immense satisfaction (for me) in being totally inside a woman and I wouldn't get that if I had one of those huge dicks one sees in porn. Being fellated to a decent standard is also going to be a real issue for the bigger chap, so again you can count me out.

Beline4u · 27/07/2021 22:00

To be honest, I think it's about what you do with it and how you warm up (in a sense) It about the playtime and getting the senses going.

@Inthesameboatatmo absolutely accurate!

Halloaten · 27/07/2021 23:06

I quite like a smaller one. I can suck the life out of it, deep throat and all and the owner loves it I feel this then translates into a decent fuck for me. I currently have a H with a fucking massive one. He can find the energy to touch the bottom of a pint glass for the slags in the pub but it goes limp very quickly and he won't lick me out 🤷‍♀️

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 28/07/2021 04:39

It makes a difference in that it's more tiring and painful, once it's beyond a certain size.

My H had a big cock and when we were TTC I was so relieved when the consultant told us to only do it every other day due to his sperm count.

I have never particularly enjoyed piv though and only orgasm through oral. I have a couple of close friends who I've discussed this with and they both like big cocks so 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Rosesareredd · 28/07/2021 09:07

Thanks for the replies. I’ve always wondered whether it makes a difference, it seems it does for some but not all. For me though, the effort the man puts in before sex is far more important, someone who knows how to use his hands and tongue.

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Whatliesbeneath707 · 28/07/2021 14:09

It’s great to read the variety of replies to your question @Rosesareredd

Not wanting to derail the thread, but somehow it does bother me when we start to discuss/comment on penis size. Men, just like women cannot change the equipment they have! I am sure we probably aren’t doing men any favours by making them feel that their penis is inadequate or less than average etc. It worries me that we could be setting men up to fail by discussing this and does it lead to the psychological problems that we read about on here? As women, we are also not doing ourselves any favours either if our men feel inadequate/inferior in the size department. Please don’t think that I’m having a go at you OP, I’m really not. A size thread crops up on here quite frequently. I totally agree with @Inthesameboatatmo in that it’s not the wand but the wizard that’s important. Love that expression! I would think that certain activities (anal) might be better with someone who is not huge! I also often think we are all so individual/different in size/shape that hopefully what suits one person might not suit the other, so hopefully there is something for everyone 😃

j712adrian · 28/07/2021 14:23

@Inthesameboatatmo

“it's not the wand it's the wizard“

I’m dying here 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

j712adrian · 28/07/2021 14:30

@PussGirl

Re being jabbed in the ovaries, my ex W (who was not short in height nor in experience) used to shout in pain genuinely and ask me to be careful when my 5.5” long incher hit her in certain positions, so goodness knows how painful a longer “wand” could be….

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Rosesareredd · 28/07/2021 14:34

@Whatliesbeneath707 - My own partner is average length and satisfies me, so it’s not an issue with me, it’s more curiosity. I can see how it could give men a complex though but it’s not my intention, I can’t really ask people in real life, so guessed this would be an ok place to ask and as it’s Mumsnet, I assume the majority of users will be female and have the experience to answer questions openly. I also don’t think it’s wrong to admit that some may prefer a bigger penis, we all have a preference but doesn’t mean it’s any less/more satisfying and we will only seek out a certain size. As other posters have mentioned, it’s not all about the wand.

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Annoy · 28/07/2021 14:49

My dh has a big penis and it hurts in certain positions such as doggy.

StarlightLady · 29/07/2021 09:05

I’ve got to my 40s having played with my fair share! I would say that the ability to offer a celebration with skilful tongue work is far more important than size down below.

The girth plays a bigger role than the length.

Those with a particularly long penis need to learn (and some never will) that it is not all about pounding and the reverse pull back is as important, if not more so.

Too big can hit your cervix and be uncomfortable.

Pazuzu · 29/07/2021 10:29

Hopefully I'm a great wizard as frankly the wand is never going to win awards...

CheshireDing · 29/07/2021 11:40

ScottishZoe it was probably 4inches at most

me4real · 30/07/2021 02:48

Hell, yeah. It's more impressive to look at , too. But some women are more into receiving oral. I don't like the sensation of that, so decent penetrative sex is the most important bit for me.

If men are too big they have to keep themselves in check so as not to cause some/most women discomfort from bashing their cervix, though, if the woman doesn't like that all the time.

It's not uncommon for women not to orgasm easily though, so you might have the same issue of certain positions doing more for you wiith someone else.

ragnarson · 30/07/2021 05:44

Fairly large and pierced with a Prince Albert. I've had many times a partner has held legs closed a bit to keep me out from full length. It's a curse at times because a little extra vigor can be pain and bleeding.

cosmicbabe · 30/07/2021 23:04

Are you woman measuring your partners dicks? Lol. How an earth are you so precise?

Maggiesfarm · 31/07/2021 05:48

5" is fine. You don't say anything about the width!

Men with 7-8 inches are often arrogant, thinking they are God's gift to women.

Most women only orgasm in certain positions regardless of how big their partner's 'member' is.

As long as you enjoy your sex life, why worry?

namechangednorth · 31/07/2021 07:35

My DH is circa 7 inches and decent girth as well. I was worried when I first saw and felt it lol. However, he was experienced and gave me the most incredibly erotic introduction by massage and amazing oral. By that time I was really ready. The first time it certainly felt like I had been really stretched but OMG did I feel satisfied after. I described it to myself that I felt I'd had a really good "seeing to"

So my answer would be yes it does make a difference. Too big might not be as welcome and having a large cock doesn't negate the need for other satisfaction such as oral. I'm lucky that DH has and does it all

I guess if I ever had to re-enter the dating field a smaller one probably would be a disappointment.

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Rosesareredd · 31/07/2021 07:58

@Maggiesfarm - I can’t imagine all men with big penises are arrogant, yes I’m sure some will think their size is enough.
I am not worried, I asked if it made a difference during sex. Just a general question!

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Maggiesfarm · 31/07/2021 12:51

It makes a difference to some women, Rosesareredd. I had a friend who only ever wanted a man with a big one, the way she went on about it was actually cringeworthy. I understand you need to feel its presence but it doesn't have to be huge. Anyway she found one that suited eventually and married him when she was 50.

Namechangednorth - excellent!

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