Dh's wanking habits

[BummyMummy77]

Let me preface this with making it clear I have no repressed issues regarding dh having the odd hand shandy before I get an onslaught of martial advice insults.

So when I'm away with ds anywhere, I always come back to dh's soggy, crusty tissues, boxers, t shirts on his side of the bed. I thought it was kind of funny, kind of gross and kind of disrespectful but I'm sure I do plenty of irritating things too. Nobody is perfect. actually I don't and I am.

Coming back today from a night away with ds who's 2.5 and sleeps in the same room as us I am annoyed. And a bit disgusted. Next to ds's bed where dh clearly slept (it is a lot more comfortable than ours to be fair) is a LOT of crusty, spunky tissues.

Aibu to think this is pretty nasty as ds could, and did get hold of them before I noticed and because he did it in ds's bed?

Am I being silly being pissed off about it? It's pretty fucking rude to just leave it there too for me to pick up like Dobby the fucking jizz elf I'm thinking.

I don't think I'm particularly prudish but maybe I am!

[Feelingworriednow]

How would he feel if you left a used sanitary towel on the floor next to the bed? Still natural bodily fluids so no different really, bet he would be horrified!
His behaviour is disgusting.

[livinginabox]

My H leaves wank tissues around the bed, in the bed or wherever for either me or our cleaner to dispose of. It's rank and disrespectful.

Have the same issue with him leaving skiddies in the loo and refusing to clean up after himself.

We've had the same conversation time and again over these things and I've realised now it's comes from a deeply ingrained sense of entitlement and crappy attitude towards women. Most people would be totally mortified and never do it again. It's a total turn off.

[TutanKaDashian]

Leave some used tampons out.... That'll teach him.

JOKE

Yes, that is so gross. Just the fact he leaves it there for you to clean up is bad enough.

[BummyMummy77]

So in lower voice exchange he's just told me he's really really sorry he left the tissue there and that was disrespectful but he doesn't see anything wrong with where he did it. He pointed out that we had sex on the sofa (once, months ago) and ds sits there so I'm just as bad. Is it?

[ScrambledSmegs]

Do you live somewhere that has a dry climate, OP? In the UK we're advised to not sleep on mattresses that are directly on the floor as it can lead to damp and the mattress rotting. I presume no such issues where you live.

[ExtraHotLatteToGo]

I can't even look at him. Am I getting over wound up and being ott?

In a word, yes.

He had a wank, you all sleep on mattresses on the floor in one room, it makes no difference which mattress he was lying on at the time. None. People are making it sound like there was some sordid reason he was 'in your son's bed'. FGS it's just another, more comfortable mattress, on the floor, in the same room.

It's cum, not acid. Yes, it's LAZY that he left the tissues there, but no more horrible than if he had a cold or had used them to clean up something he'd spilt.

This is all getting way OTT & winding you up, it's bloody ridiculous.

[Snazarooney]

Dobby the fucking jizz elf is AMAZING!

[ScrambledSmegs]

I don't know if it's wrong. It's just rather weird that he actively chose to wank in his child's bed rather than his own. I think my DH would feel pretty revolted at the thought of doing similar. Obviously your DH is able to disassociate effectively.

[BummyMummy77]

Thanks extrahot. The pervert comments were starting to freak me out! I'd still rather he hadn't done it in ds's bed though. Having said that, I really don't think he thought anything of it being ds's bed. I would have but I guess men are different. I am fuming about leaving them lying around though.

Where I live is extremely dry in the winter and very very humid in the summer. I'll flip them tonight!

[AnyFucker]

Ah. That's just reminded me of that infamous MN quote.

"It's semen, not bin juice"

That was a happy MN day.

[BummyMummy77]

I'd have been more angry at bin juice I think.

[BummyMummy77]

I wish this wasn't in the sex topics.

[AnyFucker]

Bummy, report your thread and ask them to move it back if you wish.

I don't think it belongs in the sex topic either. It's got fuck all to do with sex. I think your husband's antics are quite the least erotic thing I have read since, ooh, the last dirty jizzer thread.

[imwithspud]

That's fucking disgusting, made worse by the fact that he did it in your child's bed!

The fact that he just leaves used tissues for someone else (aka you) is just lazy and disrespectful. I've never found 'evidence' of my dp wanking in the 7 years we've been together.

Leaving your used sanpro by the side of his bed seems to be fair game to me.

[Dizzybintess]

Dobby the fucking jizz elf LMAO

[BummyMummy77]

He says it's just natural fluids and it's not that big a deal. And that he's meant to be wanking more to help his sperm health (we're having fertility issues.)

These things are all true it's the smug way he's saying it I take issue with.

I've just wiped one of ds's very blue/ black stinky/sticky (think whole tub of blueberries yesterday) nappies on his windshield and car seat. Fabric too.

I realise this is very disgusting and unhinged and I'm ashamed to say that after years of managing to hold it down my temper has gotten the better of me. It was something like that or start yelling in front of ds and I don't want to be that person anymore.

I have to say dh's face is a picture though and if he doesn't leave me instantly I think he may have a whole new level of respect for me. Or just have the image of me frantically and furiously smearing our son's poop over his truck in his head forever.

[BummyMummy77]

What's a sanpro?

[timegate]

We have two rooms with double beds, one of which is in DS's room. Since his birth, both beds have been used interchangeably by us. If DS comes into our bed, DH will move to his bed. For a few months when DS wouldn't settle, DH or I would sleep in his bed. We've also had sex many times in his bed because he likes to have his day time nap in our bed. And I don't find that weird at all, as that bed is a double and was our bed before anyways before he started using it.

So I don't think it's weird that he used your child's bed, as it's just a bed, and your arrangements sound similar to ours? If however DS had a toddler bed or a cot bed, yes I would find that very weird.

[BummyMummy77]

Christ don't everybody start saying it was fine now!

[BummyMummy77]

How do I bring this to the attention of mnhq? I feel really uncomfortable and creepy this being in the sex threads for some reason.

[AnyFucker]

Report your own thread

[AnyFucker]

I have done it on your behalf. I assume lots of other reports have been made and moving the thread to the sex topic was as a result of them. Seems a strange solution to me.

[LynetteScavo]

I've just wiped one of ds's very blue/ black stinky/sticky (think whole tub of blueberries yesterday) nappies on his windshield and car seat. Fabric too.

Did you actually do this?

Sorry, I'm having trouble getting my head around this thread

[WellErrr]

I've just wiped one of ds's very blue/ black stinky/sticky (think whole tub of blueberries yesterday) nappies on his windshield and car seat. Fabric too.

Really?

If so, that is fucking disgusting.