Dh's wanking habits

[BummyMummy77]

Let me preface this with making it clear I have no repressed issues regarding dh having the odd hand shandy before I get an onslaught of martial advice insults.

So when I'm away with ds anywhere, I always come back to dh's soggy, crusty tissues, boxers, t shirts on his side of the bed. I thought it was kind of funny, kind of gross and kind of disrespectful but I'm sure I do plenty of irritating things too. Nobody is perfect. actually I don't and I am.

Coming back today from a night away with ds who's 2.5 and sleeps in the same room as us I am annoyed. And a bit disgusted. Next to ds's bed where dh clearly slept (it is a lot more comfortable than ours to be fair) is a LOT of crusty, spunky tissues.

Aibu to think this is pretty nasty as ds could, and did get hold of them before I noticed and because he did it in ds's bed?

Am I being silly being pissed off about it? It's pretty fucking rude to just leave it there too for me to pick up like Dobby the fucking jizz elf I'm thinking.

I don't think I'm particularly prudish but maybe I am!

[Thebookswereherfriends]

Every time he leaves nasty stuff out stuff it into his pilowcase. Maybe he'll get the message. Massive disrespect though, who is bringing these vile men up that they think that sort of behaviour is ok?

[ABloodyDifficultWoman]

george - did you mean to say FUCKING? No need for the silly little * that disguises nothing. You can swear on MN.

[BummyMummy77]

Well he probably wouldn't be all that bothered by cleaning up sanitary towels if I'm honest. He's pretty laid back about that kind of stuff. When I was having ds he was scooping out my little poops from the birthing pool without flinching.

And he ate one of my placenta pills.

So maybe he's just so down with bodily functions he clearly doesn't see it as a problem. Still doesn't excuse doing it in ds's bed though.

[AnyFucker]

Sex topic?

How does this belong in the sex topic ? It's to do with spunky tissues, not sex.

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

You're having your period?
Excellent.
Dump your used stuff on his side of the bed (as long as toddler is elsewhere)

[BummyMummy77]

Sex topic?!! Really?!! Ew.

I suppose it is but that's made me feel even worse.

[footballwidow12]

YANBU - that is absolutely minging!! And just to add my two penneth I think it's really disrespectful that he is so obvious about his Tommy Tanking habits! It is on a need to know basis and not something his DW should need to know! Tell him to wank elsewhere!!

[BummyMummy77]

Ok ds is waking up. Need to put on my lovely Mummy face rather than my embarrassed, angry and disgusted Mummy face.

[PacificDogwod]

This does SO not belong in the Sex topic, quite quite likely in to the Relationship one

For record, YANBU, Bummy.
Hope you get on ok.

[LadyMonicaBaddingham]

That's absolutely vile and I would be putting in his fucking dinner, never mind his work bag or whatever. Still laughing at Dobby the jizz elf though. You are a comedy genius, OP

[SarcasmMode]

How does he feel that his son actually touched it?

Doesn't he feel disgusted with himself?

Beyond vile.

I'm on your behalf.

[SarcasmMode]

How does he feel that his son actually touched it?

Doesn't he feel disgusted with himself?

Beyond vile.

I'm on your behalf.

[Floggingmolly]

What's a placenta pill? or should I remain in blissful ignorance?

[SarcasmMode]

Flogging some women choose to get the nutrients that have remained from the placenta put into pills. Some say it's good for health.

I wouldn't personally but different strokes.

[Floggingmolly]

Oh.

[george1020]

Bloodydifficult, Thanks for the unsolicited advice, some people don't like swearing or reading people swearing. Don't know why it worries you if I put a silly * in there or not? But I'm sure you'll get over it.

[green18]

It's just plain disgusting that he doesn't clean up after. You gave somehow not reacted in the past to this and now he thinks it's ok to leave crusty tissues around. Gross!

[EnjoyTheSimpleThingsInLife]

The worst thing about this is him wanking in your child's bed. I would be fucking fuming.

[AtSea1979]

So disgusting. Will DP come home tonight?

[dobbythefuckingjizzelf]

Next time he is cracking one off ask him if he needs help, take the deposit discretely in the palm of your hand and dump it in the coffee you make him a few minutes later, then ask him how gross being in such close contact with it once he has finished his drink

[BummyMummy77]

He's come home and is acting like nothing has happened. Obviously we're not going to have it out in front of ds (which is clearly what he was banking on and is why he came home early from work while ds is still up.)

Is there nobody that thinks this isn't that big a deal? I'm trying to keep calm and it is taking ALL of my resolve and anger coping techniques not to punch the twat in the mouth.

Last time he left tissues lying around I may have been a bit too jokey about it as well as saying it was gross and disrespectful. I wanted to seem all 'down with it' and not make it a big deal or shame him. Big fucking fat fail that was clearly.

I can't even look at him. Am I getting over wound up and being ott?

[Mummyme1987]

Nope. Not ott

[WaitrosePigeon]

You are right, it's grim.

[Mummyme1987]

I wouldn't be able to even look at him. There would have been a bag waiting for him on the doorstep. It's sick in his kids bed.