Married/Sex question. Normal for me to feel this way the whole time during sex? much much TMI, sorry

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I'm married, sexually I only have one guy that is my husband. He is my first, and my only sexual partner. So please excuse me for my ignorance in sex.

Sex feels damn good. He he kiss alot during sex, he very caring in bed. I do vaginal orgasm during intercourse. I enjoy sex with my husband, no complain.

Here is my question below. This been on my mind, I always been wanting to ask this, but I'm kindda shy.
Please read below. I want to ask, it is normal for me to feel this way the whole time during sex? I wonder if what I feel is normal or not? TMI below..

Despite his 'down there' it just Too Longggg, like ridiculously long in length.
BUT sex feels damn good, it like he took me somewhere and bring me back. I mean I know I'm in bed with him, but it feels so good that I completely don't know where I'm at anymore.
It hard to describe, but like I completely lost it, I don't know where I'm at anymore. I don't know my surrounding, I don't even know that I'm in bed. ALL I KNOW and ALL I FEEL is his 'down there' he inside me and his thrusting.
Until he he ejaculate, he stop thrusting; that is when I get bring back and know that I'm in bed with him, lol

okay, let see how to word this another way. I understand that sex it the mind and the body.. And I do feel his body, I feel his 'down there' he inside me and his thrusting. And it feel so good that I completely lost it--to the point that I don't know where I'm at, I don't know my surrounding, I don't know I'm in bed. ALL I know and ALL I feel it his 'down there'.
When he ejaculate, he stop thrusting; that when he bring me back.. And I start to know the surrounding, and know that I'm in bed with him.
I understand that sometimes orgasm can be so intense that it make you feel that way.. BUT this is Not just during orgasm only, this is the during the WHOLE time during intercourse when he inside me.

And he the one that do all the work, I pretty much just lay there and he do all the work.. But afterwards I just want to sleep, I drift to sleep afterwards, it is normal?

I know this probably make zero sense.. But that is what I feel during sex, I'm just scare that there something wrong with me. I always wonder if I'm normal or not? He my first and I only sleep with him. So I don't have experience with anyone else for compared, what I know is just based on what he do only.
We a Vanilla couple, just the traditional sex between a man and a woman. I don't know why I feel like that the whole time during sex, it is normal?

Sorry, I use the word 'down there' instead of 'p'.. It just that I find it hard to write out the full 'p' or 'd' word out. Even IRL I can't find myself brave enough to say the "p' or "d" word. I guess I'm just shy when it come to sex, I'm sorry.

But now I am, since there posters in here clearly say that it NOT normal to be 'out of it' during sex. Read the previous pages, there posters said it not normal. So yeah, now I'm a bit worried

But from what you say you are not actually "out of it", it's simply that all you're aware of is the fact that you are having intercourse. Which is absolutely fine. Stop worrying and enjoy it.

Jeez Chilli, that is REALLY offensive.

Op I quite often lose the plot when I'm having sex, to the point where I don't know who or where I am. So is normal for me.

All men are like this

Fgs people give her a break
Apart from the awesome sexing there isn't anything out of the ordinary about this.
Op, your experience is unusual but nothing to worry about I would say.

I'm really fed up with all the troll hunters and casual racism on this thread.

It's actually not that unusual that people from Asian and other ethnic backgrounds have very limited experience of sex and struggle to use terminology to describe sex and sexual body parts, as they have often been brought up to believe these words are dirty and that everything related to sex is wrong. All the OP wanted to know if it was normal for her to experience this 'disassociation feeling' during sex and some posters here have been vile and mocking, which must really help if you are struggling to even talk about sex I'm sure.

And I've reported your posts Chilli.

I don't see why I have to lie about my ethnicity on the online forum. What benefits do I get out of lie about my ethnicity? I'm Chinese so I say I'm Chinese.
I don't know if there any Chinese or Vietnamese posters here in mumsnet, because the Chinese/Vietnamese population in UK is much less population than compared to in U.S
But if there anyone Chinese here, please tell them come and talk to me in Chinese. I be more than happy to have conversation with them in Chinese language.

I don't believe in magic penis, lol
I don't know if it the connection between two people, like emotional attachment. Maybe that enhance the sex more?
And he does thrust and kiss at the same time, I don't know if that is a part of why it feels more good?
I'm confuse too okay, that is why I have this thread.

In my Chinese culture, children grow up know very little about sex; parents don't talk about sex to their children in my culture, it just wasn't a topic to be discuss about between parents and children. Going to school, sex education were very limited, it nothing like in the western culture school sex education.
And I got married late in life too, I had zero sexual experience prior, I really don't know what the normal sex suppose to feels like.

I really don't see anything in my post that sound across like it a joke or snarky at all. I mean I can't stop what everyone thinks, but I know I'm serious ask for advice.

I'm serious when I ask do men feel their wife orgasm?
Because my husbadn he said he can feel my vaginal orgasm. He said he can tell/can feel when I orgasm.
And I feel embarrassed that he can feel me orgasm. I dunno why, perhaps I'm still shy.

In some culture, oral sex is considered not common.
But then oral sex in UK and USA is common.

Like in China school, children are not educated about sex like how in USA is.
China parents really don't talk to their children about sex, sex is Not a topic where China parents be talking to their children.
I'm telling the truth, I have nothing to be scare of.

I lost my virginity at age 29, it ridiculously late I know, but this is the truth, I don't see why I have to be ashamed of it to hide it?

It's nothing to be embarrassed about, especially with your husband.

I've reported your post as well Chilli. Really fucking unacceptable.

I really don't see anything trigger or drama in my thread. My thread is not about rape, it not about abortion, it not about sexual abuse, it not about miscarriage.

I'm really trying to understand, that is why I ask for help explain what dissociate and 'out of it' meaning.
I even ask the question do verbally abuse children grow up become dissociate during sex?
I was NOT sexually abuse. My mother was controlling, verbally abusive, belittle me, emotionally abusive to me. She very critical, but in China, critical mother is common.

I'm trying to understand the roots cause to dissociate.

A case, surely, of 'I'll have what she's having'? This thread has cheered an old 'make love not war' hippy right up, two people are having mind-blowing sex, what's not to like?

A man knows when you are having an orgasm because he can feel the vaginal wall contract. This is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about.

The question is do you know when you are having an orgasm or are you so 'out of it' that you don't know what's going on?

This lead me back to what exactly is the meaning by "out of it"? I ask this in page 3

I do feel him, I feel his 'p' he inside me, I feel him thrusting. I feel him kiss me at the same time he thrust. That is feel right? Does that means I'm "out of it"?

What I don't know is where I'm at anymore. Like I don't knwo my surrounding, I just know the "feel" that his 'p' giving me. If this make sense?

I can tell when I orgasm, I know I have vaginal orgasm.

I never have children before, and he is my first, perhaps that make me more sensitive to his 'down there' ?

I would use the term 'out of it' to mean you don't know what is going on, like if you are really intoxicated. This doesn't sound like to me what you are describing. It just sounds like you are really caught up in the moment and can't focus on anything but the sex at the time. As I say, if you are both happy with your sex life and in your relationship I really wouldn't worry about it.

No, his being your first wouldn't make you more sensitive down there. Or not having had children. If anything I'm more sensitive down there now I'm old and a mother. One of the few benefits of ageing.

it sounds like youre dissociating during sex. I get that too sometimes, when feelings get too intense, its like im not even there properly

I dont think its either normal nor abnormal. I just go with it

Thank you Ms. KitKat1985,
Yes, it like I'm so caught up in the feeling of what his 'down there' give me, that I just completely lost it. What he doing it just feels really good.

When he ejaculate, and stop thrusting and pull out. Then I don't get caught up in the moment anymore. Because his 'p' is out, if this make sense?

But the thing about 'caught up in the moment, it like orgasm, it in the moment.
But this moment I feel throughout the whole time during sex, as long as he still inside me and thrust.
I'm just scare if it normal for me to feel it that long.

What dissociating means? Can someone please explain that to me please, pleaseeeeeeeee

im going to take you at face value, because really, who cares if you aren't being truthful.

Its normal during orgasm for your husband to feel it as when you orgasm, your vaginal muscles contract in a spasm like fashion.

No, not everyone can achieve orgasm through intercourse, but some women can, and if you can, great!

Its also normal, to an extent for you to lose awareness of anything other than orgasm at point it happens, and in the little bit leading up to it when your body is just getting to that point when orgasm is imminent. Its about being lost in the moment.

Nothing you have said sounds out of the ordinary :)

and if his penis is giving you pleasure, then yes, its also normal to be focused entirely on that!

Sounds pretty good to me