ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 5

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity.

I hope it's ok with everyone but I started another one...........

and I wasn't sure that Starting's suggested name ......... "The All New Road to Getting Laid for the Recently Ditched" would work for the more serious dumplings

Ah Happy & I was so looking forward to seeing "The All New Road to Getting Laid for the Recently Ditched"......... Will just have to be No6 so, surely we'll deserve it by then .

We could always be like one of those TV programmes that has spin off series..

recently laid
recently eaten chocolate
recently lost serenity
recently watched Nadal's bottom

must go to bed now

but before I go, thank you to all those that have given me strength and serenity over the last few days

circumstances affected my progress with DS this week so my plan has changed a little - work in progress

I liked the 'getting laid' idea.

What I feel in need of, although I had an 'encounter' a couple of weeks ago. Problem is I've always enjoyed sex, that wasn't a problem in my relationship with exh, so I miss it.

Any tips?

Also I had a date with a guy last week, first since H left, (apart from above ONS), and don't know how I feel about it. Nice guy, didn't really fancy him, so do I go with it and see what happens or call it a day?

How confusing all this is, I haven't dated in 28 years!!!!

hi everyone.

not in a great place today. feel really weepy and have got a tension headache.

feeling very sorry for myself.

Party , don't know how to advise you sorry. At the moment I can only dream of such a situation.

Armbow, sorry you're not feeling so good today. Did you say you were seeing a counsellor, sorry I can't remember. That could help you through some of this I think. It's natural too that you're going to feel weepy sometimes. Can you stay with those feelings for a while and then think of something to do today that will make you feel a bit better. What do you really enjoy doing? Coffee and a catch up with a RL friend, walk in the park, pampering, would any of those things help. Or just rant to us that's fine too

Happy I am pmsl at . Dd has just asked me why I am laughing so much .

Armbow, sorry to hear you're having such a crappy day . It's v early days for you so you are bound to have them. Agree with everything Happy suggested & remember it will pass. Eventually the good days will far outweigh the bad ones.

Party, another jealous one here about your dilemma . Maybe go out with nice guy once more & see if there's any possibility at all or maybe see what it is in him that doesn't attract you.

Happy, hope things are heading in the right direction for you. Keep the faith. I'm keeping our vigil going for now....

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Trivial questions..........

1 If you hoover up a really big spider & keep hoover running for a few mins do you think it kills spider?? Hoover has been confined to spare room until I get an answer to this.

2 Have a beautiful ring that xh gave me that I used to wear instead of my wedding rings. Haven't worn it for past year & from what I remember it can't be made bigger. I was thinking of going to a second hand jewellery shop or antique shop & seeing if I could swap ring for another one. Was talking to someone about this today & they said I'm mad that I should keep ring & wear it on my wedding ring finger (have necklace & earrings to match). They said the trend now is that a lot of separated people still wear a ring on their wedding finger?? Is this true, I'd never heard of it?? It's going to be hard enough for me to ever meet anyone new with three dc's in tow so I really can't afford to be giving the message that I'm not available by wearing a ring on my wedding finger if it gives the wrong message...........advice please

Hello starting

Spider will be dead I imagine !!

How odd you should post about your ring dilemma I too have a lovely ring I replaced my wedding rings with and took off at first because of painful associations but would now happily wear but for reasons you suggest I dont.

Well I have never heard of this trend and I mean how would it work - sure these arent single girlfriends telling you this to keep you out of the way

I dont know but provided I dont have to sell it to raise cash I will probably start to wear it , apart from anything else the time I am spending on my new BF MN I think it will be a handy deterrent from all those utter twunts out there

Ahh there you all are

My friend saw a spider crawl out of the hoover after I'd buy one of these

Also I moved my wedding rings to my right hand when things were over. I do not under any circumstances want anyone to think I'm happily married etc. Nor engaged. Yes I sometimes feel shame when people look at my small DCs and then glance at my wedding hand. But people who judge me based on not knowing the facts aren't worth knowing. I'm having to learn to stop thinking about what others think of me. It's a hard lesson for me. I'm actually tempted to sell my engagement ring, as my H isn't supporting me very well at all. The other thing is some people put a ring on their wedding hand when they have no intention of getting married and aren't engaged. Just because they have had children with their partner and want to show their taken. IYSWIM? So personally I'd say ignore this trend

Hmmm confused myself with that long tirade now.

Anyone fancy a DJ night tonight? thinking on it....

I went for it. Ladies, it's time to sing. It's been a tough week so let your hair down and come over here.

musc night

DJ Happy yep my worst week since exh left in New Year but somehow you keep waking up and getting on with it !

Whats a DJ night ?

I have confession for months after split I would scrutinise the left hand of women to see if they were married or not. I needed to know I wasnt only woman on her own and now it bloody turns out they had all been dumped too they had just been chatting to Startings friends

can i just say didnt wear my rings when i was married and def goin to sell them now life as i know it ie house job and marriage have all gone in the last 24 hrs or going soon so feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment hs belongings are in the garden and its pissing down here will put my name down for a house on monday and dry my eyes...... this too shall pass

Tea I posted on a thread last night that Maybees started for us . Am quite new Maybees will find us wont she?

I think I will go back on it and tell her we are here or is that silly ?

Actually what am I talking about if I found this thread then the spider in startings hoover could find it

Hope you are having a nice positive day Maybees

Ahh Maybees thats freaked me out

My first x thread

Have my ring on my right hand but took a while to move it.

Maybees , hope you're ok, god what a cr** week we've had.

Getting, follow the link and all will be revealed

So sorry Maybees saw your name didnt read posting properly

Whats happened , do you want to talk ?

DJHappy thankyou thats made me smile but also how fantastic to know how to do that

Chairmum are you ok ? Busy with your lovely baby I expect ?

Also sorry to lower the tone of all you Dumplings lovely posts but tonight I would happily trade serenity for a lottery win

I just have to think its all happening for a reason getting thanks for asking think its so much easier when you dont have to upset dcs routine guess ive been trying so hard to protect the kids but now they will have to change their wee worlds too,we always rented a house but landlord is selling and i have x3 viewings on sunday.Hope h has picked up his stuff off the grass by then

Woman at the bank also advised me to buy lotto ticket.

I didnt laff

My rage at H is overwhelming me as we speak .