ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 5

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity.

Starting

Ah Maybees wishing you serenity for tomorrow . Hugs

Serenity to accept the things i cannot change

Oh that was v exciting . Have cut off chat now, treat em mean to keep em keen . Actually the men on Match look far more suitable for me then anything I've seen on the other sites . Will as always keep you all updated........

starting keep us informed with the juicy gossip.

H having kids for the day today so i have to busy myself.

hi to all - hope you are ok this morning maybees

Armbow hope you have some nice things planned for yourself today. It's prob v hard handing them over when the breakup is still raw but you'll prob be glad of the break as time moves on. It's the thing I find hardest is having no time away from dc's!

Was like a woman possessed last night . From time I logged onto Match to time I had signed up for a 6 mts subscription was all of about 3 mins am not normally impulsive! Actually shelled out £80 for this . However this could explain why the calibre of men seems to be better then the fishy place . I am alternating between wanting value for money & not having the motivation or inclination to actually go on a date!

Maybees, hope you're feeling a bit brighter this more.

Morning all

Am hellbent on keeping serenity til Monday, let's see how I go. Found out other day that in Bald Eagle's 'confession' to DCs he had omitted to tell them that the affair had been going on while he lived here. I thought he'd told them already but sounds like vagueness prevailed. Well, the truth is out now, I had choose whether to maintain the lie or not and I chose honesty. for DCs but I can't keep covering up for Baldie.

Maybees, I hope you're feeling a bit better today. We have sun here and I hope that sun has made to it to where you are.

Happy you are not old, your a rock chic ffs! Getta grip, there's enough out there that'll put you down, you are a young, sexy, vibrant, now single sassy rock chic .

You did right to stick to the truth with dc's. It was bound to come out sooner or later & they wouldn't thank you for keeping his secret.

Really hope serenity lasts for you till Mon

My ds is going to be fibe (five) soon & he wasks me things (asks). oh I so love the cute versions of words that young dc's use.

Thanks Starting, I feel good being a rock chick but will feel better if WE GO TO GLASTONBURY. Love the kidspeke, in my house it's mostly, f* off you are embarassing and can you go out so I can have some friends round

Hmmm Suffolk, I think I know where that is

Armbow, a new start sounds like a good idea. To celebrate my new start I have just bought a tent . Although I keep it to myself I have been lurking on the camping thread for some time.

Quick name change ,goin to sollicitor Monday,another day of revelations .......

Hope to carry maybees positivity through into my new life

fiesty

so true rizzo,so true ....

Blimey, I'm scared of you now! But good to see that you've posted the Survivor song. Serenity will return I just know it - you're a strong, kind and good person and the good times will come.

On a different note, DS is now upset and angry about OW and is saying he doesn't want to talk with Bald Eagle and the wh*/not going round to see him etc. Advice please ladies, at the moment I am saying to him that I know XH didn't do a good thing, but that sadly these things do happen and have. Also saying that XH loves him and that none of this affects that.

I'd let him calm down. He'll soon go back to seeing his dad again. Judging from other threads I've lurked on they do go through stages (if older) of wanting to see them and not.

Does your Ex H know you've told him the truth? Is he likely to kick off about it or deny its true to his son?

Sorry things are so so pants Maybee's, what were the revelations?

Just all lies tea lied about everything,all lies ,lied thru counselling ,i suppose im just in shock think it is narcissism invented a whole new world and spoke of it when he was with the family ,all made up.ffs

Thanks Tea - yes I told XH what had happened and also offered him the chance to tell other DC himself. He said he thought he had told them already - now that's funny isn't it, I guess not the kind of thing he would remember is it and left me to tell other DC.

He should make friends with my H then Maybee's. He lied to me about everything he possibly could to hide affair, then after we separated he spent 5 months letting me try and win him back and save our marriage, as he let me believe the affair was over, and it turned out it had never ended at all. So he was having his cake and eating it. I felt like such a fool for trying so hard to save our marriage and let him see the children lots, when he was taking advantage of my good nature and all the while shagging the OW and had no intention of coming back

Come on.... Spill missus, tell us dumplings everything x

Maybees, Bald Eagle wasn't honest in counselling either - it must be a guy thing. Honestly what is the point of going to counselling if you're not going to tell the truth? Cannot understand why they do it at all

All I can say happy is

Sending you strength lady, as this is another spanner in the works your end x

No counseling with my H but he told the most ridiculous lies about being blackmailed by the police to hide affair and then changed the story to having to do drug runs, told even his best mate the story. Such cr*p. I think he told the lies so much he actually started to believe them himself. 5 flaming months of bull before I forced the truth out of him like a worm on a hook and realised he was never moving back in again.

its cool ,it was just so elaborate ,the thing is sometimes i would confront him and he could convince me it was my paranoia but all the time telling me how much he loved me and wanted to save the marriage wtf truly didnt think he had this in him it is all classic lundy bancroft ,at least i was familiar with this but it is still shocking ,he has such a massive sense of entitlement it is unbelievable.all about going to the pub ffs he s a daddy .basically he kept involving someone in the lies ,and i would mouth off to them in a text.last nite they phoned me and told me the truth.i followed my instinct and found where he really lived ,right next to the pub.....wonder if he ever did buy a banjo

Ah yes, I had the "paranoia" thing. Strikes me Maybees that the banjo praps should be bashed on his head.