ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 5

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity.

Maybees, feel free to scream. But you've been so good at serenity recently, what can we do to help? Talk to me

he's gone

Just feeling my emotion just now lots of tears ,this too will pass ...just really overwhelmed cant believe this is happening tbh

Why are men such tw**s. At least his stuff got wet . I'm going to find some angry songs now.

Ok now I am glad I cant do music thing that almost made me cry.

Maybees please dont be angry but I thought you had been on your own with dcs a while - was I wrong ? Is it he has gone further afield ?

Dont want to pry still bit unsure of how many questions MNers expect to be asked

Ah God, sorry just logged on. Maybees so so sorry to hear things going badly for you atm. Take it one step at a time, allow yourself to feel the pain & remember this too shall pass. Keep ranting.

Getting, agree the ring on wedding ring finger gives out wrong message. Won't fit on my right hand so will check if I can get it resized afterall.

Tea, sorry to hear your xh not being much help financially . Unfortunately think a lot of them are the same when the go. Mine started out paying v generous maintenance but gradually reduced it down & now I get one fifth of what it started out as!

he left about nov then back then gone def by boxing day them completly lost touch then mad drinking spree lots of selfish immature stuff too boring to post since easter but i guess he wants his marriage to work hence a bit of charm here and there, but still wants to be single ie live elsewhere,,,,basically after everything else i told him id had enough so thats that ,he said just be patient things will work out .....i am slowly going mad ....hence clothes in the garden

Maybee's

My solution at this point is sleep and I feel more in control by morning, my other option is alcohol but considering your H's problems with it, you may have a total aversion to it right now.

So sorry

have any of you got a deed of seperation drawn up? h and i are thinking of drawing one up?

any experience?

maybees big big hug.

Tea, a good nights sleep is always a good remedy . Thanks for advice on spider (hasn't re-emerged yet I think!) & ring.

sorry about spelling trying to eat a korma and type at the same time

You're not going mad Maybees it's just a real strain living in a situation where things aren't right and the stakes are high. Or at least that what I've felt. Whatever happens with him you need to keep on taking good care of yourself. Get out in the countryside tomorrow I think plus some personal pampering

Armbow, I'm in the middle of legal separation being finalised. Has been a v slow process for me (not helped by xh submitting zero documentation!). Hope you're feeling a bit better & that your headache has passed.

Legal separation? Not divorce? I thought with your H starting, you'd be wanting a divorce. Or am I getting confused?

Hi Tea, where I'm based you can't get a divorce until you've lived apart for 4 yrs. Most people here don't bother getting a legal separation & just wait the 4 yrs. You are right that I want to be completely separate from xh hense the legal separation. Small consolation is that I first separated from xh 2 yrs ago & even though I took him back briefly my solicitor is working from the original date of separation so I'm half way there for divorce . Legal separation should be finalised in a few mts so the divorce is only a rubber stamp after that .

Wow that's rubbish! Had a letter from Solicitor, he's agreed to petition and they're drawing up the Decree Nicsi now. Whatever that means???

Thanks ladies i remember in Jan asking for a clean break.....instead i got the long slow death version ,tomorrow i am cleaning for house buyers that will view my house on sunday i am goin to cry to glasvegas again "do what you want when you want" , thats him and nobodys goin to tell him what to do ,its like he walked out felt a bit guilty but then thought... long lies... no tears from the kids ...no chores to do ...,i miss my familly but i wont let them go yet just needs a bit of space ....

Beautiful has posted a sad thread here

She needs some dumpling love.

Thats nearly 8 mths of space ........time to tell the prick to fuck off now

Maybees sending you a virtual hug (()).

or a hi 5 depending how you look at it startin,

Make that a hi 5 so

Ladies you're all prob in bed getting your beauty sleep but had to post anyway as I'm so excited. After reading beauty's thread I've just signed up to Match.com & sent my first ever wink . Worse is that as I've no credit card I charged it to my mother's so will have to explain charges to her

OMG I'm actually talking to a man live right now..........

wishing you lots of fun Startin'

Personally i have managed to uncurl from foetal position wailing scenario and will attempt to get to bed now ,Chin up tits out x