I thought I'd been reading too much Mumsnet!

[Shaz10]

But it turns out I was right, he is having an affair. Claims to be in love with her and not me. Shit shit shit shit shit.

So sorry

oh no what a pig!

So very sorry. Tell us about it and we'll try to help. Have you posted before about this?

Thanks all. No, never posted about it. Didn't want to say it out loud and make it true. I'm so gutted, I love him so much but if he doesn't love me that's it, isn't it?

Our son is 11 months old. My poor little baby.

So sorry

he is a fuckwit

Ick ick ick ick. I'm going to try to get some sleep, might be back later. You're all ace.

I'm sorry Shaz10

Rest up. Take care now.

Oh God, Im so so sorry. . I know exactly how this feels, having gone through something somewhat similiar last year. 11 month old baby? you poor think. What a complete dick (sorry). What happened? do you feel like talking it out?

Hi, I'm back, that didn't last long.
It's someone from his work. I suspected for ages but didn't want to confront him, because if I was wrong there was no way back. I didn't expect him to say he was in love with her. And he 'loves me like a friend'. Such a kick in the teeth. I'm crying and crying and crying. He's still in the house, sleeping in the spare room. I feel like I don't want him to leave because he will go to hers.

He even went on a date with her with my son. That's what really got me.

Aaaaagh, I thought we got on great. I feel like such an idiot. My poor boy. My poor, poor little boy. It's not fair. He's not been here a year and this happens. Oh god.

How on earth did he go on a date with a baby? How horrible for you.

I ripped one of his suit pockets, and really want to cut a hole in the crotch of all his work trousers but want to avoid being bitter. It's not easy.

I know where she lives. I really want to go round and punch her in the face but I'm trying not to deign to acknowledge her existence. In my head I'm making it worse by not giving either of them a reason to dislike me. A twisted revenge.

I also went into our online banking and put nearly all the money out of our joint account into my own account. Left enough for the mortgage. He doesn't know how to use our online banking.

Shaz so sad for you

dearprudence they went out for the day while I was at work. He told me he'd bumped into her at the place they were at. Turns out he'd been seen, although they didn't know enough to tell me, which is fair enough I think.
My best friend works there. She is ready to be horrible.

poor you.

he sounds weak and you sound very strong, even though you might not feel it right now.

you've obviously got your head screwed on, so keep on keeping on and you might be surprised at what happens in the end.

He is weak. I saw him sitting there and I wanted to get so angry, but it was like shooting a bunny rabbit. But I still love him, I feel disloyal writing that.

Good...whatever you do, do not lower yourself to her level by doing something silly or nast. Keep ypur dignity, although its so hard when all you want to do is scream and rant and pull all her hair out.
Stay strong for your DS...and remember, you are worth so much more than this fuckwit. He has no idea what he is losing.

Agree with bananalover.

Keep strong.

Aw you are all brilliant. Thank you bananalover. My son is just wonderful, I tried to leave tonight but didn't want to disturb him because he was asleep, ended up coming back. I do trust husband with my son, he's a great dad. Well, almost.

so what are you going to do Shaz10?
Sorry for you

I don't know. I think he's leaving. I don't know when. What can I do? He doesn't love me, there's no way back from that as far as I can see.

so sorry for you, its a horrible feeling like you've been physically kicked isn't it, just remember that the grass is rarely greener on the other side and he will probably regret his choices either very soon or at some point in the future

focus on your son and the love you have for him

I feel like it's the end. I put on loads of weight after having my son. I have a scar from the C section and a scar on my breast after abscess surgery. I feel destroyed.