I know where OW works and when she is on shift - shall I go and humiliate her?

[ShouldiOrNot]

Fors -
I can see what she looks like
She can be made to look small and seedy
I can humiliate her by throwing a £10 fee as H obviously didnt pay her for her services
She will think twice about knowingly having sex with a married man again, hopefully
It will wind H up when he knows I know her and have confronted her
If all goes well my dc will know that to commit adultery has consequences

Againsts -
May be thrown out of the shop
Um....may lose my dignity or not get any words out above a squeak with anger

would you? I am tempted and have nothing to lose, and seriously it may make her think again.
H has been kicked to the curb and humiliated too btw so dont think i am just blaming her, im not. It's just she took something that did not belong to her and why not tell her?

Over to you jury ............

No, you will lose your dignity
Play it cool

no,though tempting maintain your dignity and the lofty high ground

Against: you will look like a mad woman
she may punch you

No.

Get angry with your DH and keep your dignity. Rise above it.

Please don't do it, Lord knows I have been tempted to confront OW who ' took something that did not belong to her'

Maintain your dignity and self respect, she has taken everything else don't let her have this as well.

No. She didn't cheat on you.

He did.

Glad you've got rid of him. Hope you're ok.

I wouldn't.

Keep your dignity.

They won't care, it won't make her think twice, she will feel victimised and tell everyone what a nutter you are.

How will your dc know that to commit adultery has consquences? Are you planning to take them along on this visit?

If you go to her workplace and make a scene it is highly likely the police will be called.

Ime everyone gets what is coming to them and so shall she but it shouldn't be from you.

The only person you will humiliate by doing that is yourself.

No, don't do it

And though both he and she have behaved like utter shits, no person "belongs" or "does not belong" to another

You will just look like a bitter, spurned woman...not good

Another no.

Just don't, you will regret it.

She didn't take anything - your H was the cheating twat. He went willingly. And you will look ridiculous and pathetic.

It's him you need to deal with.

do it.... ONLY IN YOUR HEAD THOUGH!

Listen to the advice here, the best revenge is living well. Rise above it. He's not worth it. You are bigger and better than that!

Na

Also it will only confirm to her the lies he has undoubtedly been telling her - that you are mad, unreasonable, bitter and twisted, and THAT's why he had to have an affair with you. She won't feel humiliated, just superior

Right, that's a pretty solid yes then!!

Your dignity is your silence.

But really - if you were the OW wouldnt you feel embarrassed to be sniggered at and told "i always wondered what a slapper looked like" in front of your colleagues? Especially if you thought you had got away with your behaviour? I would, but maybe I am giving her too much credit

She'll probably just look you up and down and say 'Now I can see why he doesn't fancy you anymore'. She's not very nice. You know this. Plus her colleagues will be her friends, why would they have any sympathy with you?

Or
"Really, dont you look in the mirror every day? Oh, I can tell that you dont."

oh darn it you bloomin lot maybe I'll just lurk by the frozen peas and look mad mildly interested

But you'll be putting her in a position where she'll have to front it out for her colleagues, so you probably won't even get the pleasure of seeing her look embarassed.

You could always get a couple of friends to go in there and whisper, point and giggle, then leave without explanation?

Yes I am evil and I am coming to terms with this

Nope. Everyone who witnesses such a scene will think, and may even say, 'Blimey, no wonder the bloke cheated on that spiteful madwoman, what a loser she is.'
When you say you've 'humiliated' your H as well, I trust that means you've dumped him. Because if you've actually humiliated him in public but expect the relationship to continue, I wouldn't hold out a lot of hope for it: wanting someone to remain with you so you can punish them forever is pretty toxic.

I definately WOULD. But I'm like that, I wouldn't hesitate actually.

No. You will make yourself look ridiculous. Just stick to doing it in your head.