Oh F*ck! What have I done? [sad]

[CompletelyShocked]

Namechanged for this.

After being treated like shit by men for all of my life, I finally met the man of my dreams 2 years ago on a dating site. He moved in not long after we met, we get on brilliantly, he adores my DD, his family have taken myself and my DD on as their own etc...

Our wedding is all booked for next year in Cyprus, lots of family and friends booked to come with us - brilliant, life couldnt get any better!

Until yesterday, for some reason, I put his old username from the dating site into Google - and up came a Transsexual Dating site. I tried to view the profile of this member on the site but had to register to do so. So I did. There's no name on there but hometown, height, starsign, birthday etc. all match with DP . I then sent him a message from my new account on there just asking how he was doing and why he didnt have any pictures on there. He replied this morning (after getting up for work) that he needed to be discreet and was a bit shy.

I have replied again but he's at work all day so not sure he'll get on to reply (if it is DP!).

I'm pretty sure it is though, my heart is racing. What have I done? What if it is him? How do i bring this up with him? Maybe I shouldn't have snooped? Please help.

How does it stop real people from posting?

I don't think it does that at all. It didn't stop you or me? In fact there were a few of us who this has happened to and a thread like this means I am able to share my experiences with others.

Move along , nothing to see is how I view stuff like this.

If I was a troll I would love the fury that some of the posters have for the hoax

Steve said he'd been doing this for about 6/7/8 years so of course he knows the entire list...I'm really sorry if you are not him, though.

Maybe someone on facebook can verify you are real...

Yes, fuck off Steve, some of us on here use MN as our lifeline. Sometimes we have to change our regular names depending on the type of ishoo we have. And people like you spoil it for the genuine ones.

I have nobody to talk about this with in real life so will now probably have to go and deal with it myself, no advice from people who have been there, nobody to hold my hand along the way, nobody to 'virtually' dry my tears.

Thanks for that - wanker.

To those who have offered advice already and shared your experiences, thank you. I really appreciate it x

CS - if you want to prove you are a regular, then namechange back, and then get the thread deleted and start a new one with those who have seen your real name before it was deleted, who will then verify to anyone new who posts that you are genuine.

I don't see any other way around it.

I have sent a facebook message out and hopefully will be verified that way.

If not, I shall do as you suggest.

It's shit that this has to be done tbh but I really need the advice/hand holding and so will do what I have to do

Can I just verify that completely shocked is real.....I have just received a message from her on fb.

Well done Posie. CS I'll get rid of that post of mine further down the page...huge apologies.

S, I wouldn't change your name....I can see who your P is from your fb profile and would just ask those who think you're real to offer support and those that think you aren't to leave the thread.

Trolls are shit.

fucking shift button keeps deleting capitals.

Yes, they are, and if it hadn't been for that one last night I would not have been so appallingly rude on this thread.

I am never that rude and was saving it up for him, CS you got it in the neck - have asked for it to be deleted.

flight

I don't think she has to prover herself!

If you believe her to be true (I do) carry on supporting,

if you don't, off you pop and hide the thread.

Why should she have to reveal herself to anyone?

so sorry CompletelyShocked - guess that's a new type of trolling - leaping onto a real thread and outing yourself.

arghhhhhh

SPB...wtf?

i lept in and believe steve was the OP
never occured to me he could be doing this on a genuine thread to stir up trouble - is that what you meant??
so now

Sorry CS, 'Steve' did this on quite a few threads, assumed as he said he was doing this again on this one he actually was the op.

What a sick fuck

Thank you so much Posie x

I didnt actually read what Steve said, it had been deleted by the time I came back to the thread! Did he pretend to be my DP then or something?

his post has been deleted because I reported it, it was the way i reported him iyswim.
Think it said something like "another £85. Thanks girls"

Seems he wants to derail as many threads as possible and ruin this section for everyone

He said something like 'that's another £80' he keeps posting ops (highly emotive ones) and then when he gets 'outed' saying he's 'earned' £85 (or whatever sum) from us by doing it, that he gets paid £1.50 a word or some such drivel and then he pretends to be a journalist Dani Garavelli. Or perhaps he is them??

This is the reason everyone went so mad, because a lot invested time in a thread last night that was also him (actually quite a few threads).

Have read the whole thread including the weird steve post- what a prat!

CS, how are things? Have you asked got any further forward with things? I think you have to collect more information first.

have a look here and also i'd started a thread about him in site stuff too.

Sorry op, as you were

Ok, I understand now, haven't been on MN for a few days so seem to have missed the Steve saga!

I might actually start a new thread once I have an update for you all...