im shaking with anger just now and ive thrown dh out

[candyfluff]

he has a long standing problem with gambling and so after many years of putting up with it last year i told him if he goes in there again i will kick him out - the day started fine we all went out to the town to do some shopping and take the kids to the park,we split up to get things done quicker and said i will meet you at the park - he's a no show so we leave the park and the first place i look for him is in the bookies and geuss what the bastard is doing - feeding the fucking fruit machine
i tell him to leave now and he comes out for a minute then goes straight back in and continues to gamble
i go back in after a ten or so mins and gives him back my wedding ring and told him he will be locked out when he gets home
ive just put his bag out of the door
dont really know why im posting this other than to vent - feel so let down

[candyfluff]

hi everyone - i went to my appointment !! yay me
al sorted dh has moved in with some mates ,very tired and feeling more positive

[Doha]

Well done Candy have been thinking about you.

Today is a new start for you and your DC's.

[thumbwitch]

That's good news candy, well done! hope you get some good sleep and have a good weekend - then on Monday you can get back to working out how to keep him out of the house for good.

[candyfluff]

another question i wanted to ask - ive noticed that i have started to have a bit pf a stutter - has never happened before - do you think it could be stress causing it ? - i get half way through a word then start over ??

[Doha]

Oh l would think stress has a big part to play inthis and no doubt you have had an interupted sleep pattern which won;t help either.

Be kind to yourself over the next few days try and rest a bit and l am sure all will be fine

[thumbwitch]

tiredness and stress and just possibly a part of you is slightly unsure of what you're doing (see your previous couple of posts) and that is coming out in your speech.

BUT! Your uncertainty will pass as things improve for you and your DC; and your stutter will go away.

You might notice your hairloss increases a bit as well - that would be due to stress.

[CloudBustingForFelix]

Hi Candy

Just wanted to say a big well done for sticking to your guns, I know how difficult all of this is for your and your little ones. Please, please do not give in to any emotional blackmail from him. He is a grown man and more than capable of sorting himself out. If he had any intention of stopping gambling and sharing his earnings with you properly, you wouldn't be here in the first place. Continue to put you and your children first, you desserve it.

If he won't sign over the tenancy to you, speak to the council again about rehousing you, they have two months to get it sorted then, keep asking for help, involve womens aid too, you could argue financial abuse if he has been controlling all finances coming in.

I don't have much more to add to the super advice the others are giving you, but am still doing my cheerleading bit. I am sending the be strong vibes down to you. Don't give in, it will get better. Hope you and your dc have a lovely weekend.

[CloudBustingForFelix]

Oops you and your, not your and your.

Brain has already disappeared today

[Saffysmum]

Funnily enough, I was going to suggest what CloudBusting says - tell the council about everything, and see if they will rehouse you and the kids, I know you don't want to move, but it would be a fresh start. Keep strong.

[BertieBotts]

Candyfluff, how are things going?

[moviegirl]

hope all is well candy fluff - been searching for your thread.

hope you and DC have been enjoying the sunshine