I dont give a toss what shes promised me, she,d know full well ive got a family and yes, id have something to say about it, just like i would anyone else who caused my family pain and distress, in whatever way.
Other random people hurt us, hurt our children and our familys.
Do we ever say ah well, they never promised us anything so their not accountable if they knowingly break into our house / mug our kids / steal our car/ make our lives miserable ect cos they never promised us anything.
What sort of logic is behind the idea that a woman who gets into bed with someone elses husband is not jointly accountable for the break up of that family?
Would you not hold me responsible if i broke into your house, distressed your children, and disrupted their lives on the basis i never promised you anything?
Bollocks.
And Jodie, yes, people can be tempted away, its a common theme on these boards. Often when affairs are discovered and analysed it is often down to something within the cheater that caused the affair,, depression, vulnerabilty, low self esteem, inability to resolve problems , whatever, its hardly the wonderfullness of the new woman, who usually gets dumped like a hot turd when wife finds out.
People love this idea that if he wasnt happy he wouldnt have done it because it makes them feel better and makes the cheated on person feel like shit.
The thing is, if you hold this beleif that men wouldnt do it if they wasnt happy, do you also beleive that if you had such a man, youd better keep him happy, otherwise he will have an affair?
Op if this isnt a wind up, your not better than the wife, nor more funny or interesting nor do you have a better tasting fanny. You are available and a sordid cheap secret, thats it.