Oral sex...advice needed [blush]

[truoddsox]

Sorry for the graphic topic but I really want some advice.
DP and I have been together for nearly 4 years, and this is something I've never "given" (for want of a better word) him. I'm a bit shy when it comes to initiating anything sexual, which he says is silly as he's always up for it and enjoys what I do.
Anyway, I feel bad for not doing it but I just don't know how to initiate, I'm worried about hurting him/gagging etc. Can anyone offer any tips/advice?
BTW - he doesn't force the issue or even mention it - this is just me wanting ro "reciprocate" occasionally, iyswim.

Have you ever tried humming while his willy's in your mouth? I read it in a magazine. In RL, this got responses varying from "Oooh!!" to "were you trying to say something?"

no not tried the humming. but i guess that would be like a vibrator so makes sense.

will have to try it later.

poor DP gets used as a guinea pig for MN so often, he has such a hard life.

Anyfucker if you have an aversion to the toothpaste idea have you ever tried an Alka Seltzer up your fanjo?

I kid you not, pretty amazing.

Or rubbing some marmite on the clitoris. Makes it all warm and fuzzy.

oh fgs, what is this ?

Fanny Cradock's kitchen ?

marmite, you either love it or hate it...I hate it and it would look too much like 5 day old menstrual blood for me...

Use a flat tongue and lick all the way up from underneath his balls up to the tip, wiggle your tongue in the urethra, ditto with his frenulum. The thing with giving oral is, you've got to really like doing it, if you approach it like a diseased rat you have no chance .

For the best BJ, have him stand up in front of you - he'll feel all dominant (I sit on the bed and wrap my legs around his so he can't get away! )
Alternate between hand and mouth, lots and lots of saliva helps, and if you think gagging may be a problem, press 2 fingers to your inner wrist to overcome the gag reflex - or wear sea sickness bands .
Having him grab your hair and use a bit of "force" adds a certain frisson too - projectile vomiting due to his "exhuberance" however, doesn't .
A hand clamped around the base of his shaft will prevent him going in too far if he gets overcome, nuzzling and sucking of balls goes down well in this house too.
Don't forget his "cut lines" - the lines where his legs join the torso, a very sensitive area, licking and sucking nipples on the way down works well to get them going.

Durex tingle lube tastes nice and is gently minty.
I used to have a shocking gag reflex, a toothbrush would make me retch - I can practically deep throat now, it took plenty of practice but it's basically relaxing your jaw and stretching your neck.

Practice makes perfect!

Alka seltzer? MARMITE?

Just NO. [biscuit}]

am teasing you btw, bbm

I like the naughty stuff as much as the next bird

Don't think i have laughed so much in ages

is everyone else too young to know who Fanny Cradock is ?

except you, mal, I know you are as ancient as I am

Me Neither.

Fanjo??!

Oh Mal, my fellow bj adviser along with mamazon. No one else was constructive like we were.

i know wwho fanny craddock is.
i think.
marmite on theh fanjo sosunds a bit sticky to me.

oi, brahms, some of us are do-ers, not talkers

I talk and do.

The fact that I've had zero sex of any kind yet this year is neither here nor there.

Mr Mal is "indisposed" and likely to vomit if I , and I quote - " jiggle up and down on top of him".

He'd better be bloody up for it when he gets home from work later!

I need a damn good seeing to - my rechargeable batteries can't keep up .

All tingle type lubes burn. Keep them away.

I can recommend man stood against the wall, woman kneeling down as a good position for oral sex, especially since it makes sure he has something to lean against while his mind is elsewhere...

Malificence, I just arf at the thought of you getting all dressed up in your sexy outfit: stockings, suspenders, high heels, basque, grey travel-sickness bands from Boot's...

The best "tip" I was ever given is not to try and suck the whole thing . . . just suck the top bit while wanking the rest.

There is also a masturbation technique - which I need to google tomorrow - which a man cannot do for himself. You use two hands in a circular motion - will look it up in t'morning.

ah, it's back to "choking the chicken" again...

do come back, BS

Hey truoddsox.

Firstly, if you really don't like the idea of giving a blow job, don't do it: it doesn't feel good for someone to do something intimate to you that you know they're not enjoying.

But if you do want to give this a go (sorry - haven't read all posts to check), here's an old thread with plenty of tips.

I love giving head and have no disappointed customers - but FWIW get my knickers in a twist with hand jobs, as most of my exes were circumcised and it's just, well, different.

And I love it that there were 69 messages so far when I read your message!

We've never had any burning from durex tingle lube and I slap it on in buckets the heat version was a tad warm though.
The play/feel lube tastes just as nice though, if you have sensitive bits.

Perhaps I should patent rubber or leather cuffs with hidden anti-sickness pressure pads?

You can also get a small oral sex enhancing "sleeve" for a bit of added oomph, it's a bit shorter than a standard male masturbating sleeve.

tmi, but hubby says "thanks!"

sleeve ?

Mow cop - love the name.
I can almost see it from my house -

lol @ mowcop

if only my DH knew how much he has MN to thank...

Sleeve - little rubber/silicone tube, either closed or open ended - use with lube.
Lovehoney sell them.