Srtraw Poll - What's wrong with sleeping with somone on the first date?

[Janos]

I think if you want to and feel comfortable, what's the big deal?

It still seems to be a bit taboo and I'm wondering why.

Interested to hear other people's thoughts anyway.

Nowt wrong with it morally, but tactically it's not the best move if you're hoping for a relationship - ime, anyway.

i don't feel comfortable with it. Thats quite diferent from saying that others couldn't /shouldn't do it - or infering that becuase i don't i feel superier in anyway. I don't.

I am sure that if i kicked dh out on his arse tomorrow, that i wouldn't engage ins exual activity for years.

Depends how good you are

Absolutely nothing

there's nothing wrong with it.
it's a bit risky though, as you might end up being a one-night-stand.
but then that could happen if you didn't sleep together too.
i think you should take it as it come and if you want to do it, then go for it!

See I've actually done this myself on several occasions and had a thoroughly enjoyable time of it and actually it's refreshing to see people either agreeing or being non judgemental about it.

However it's not my experience 'IRL' - people seem to be more judgey. Maybe we are just a liberal bunch?

depends whether or not you want a second date with them, ime. If you're not bothered, then why not? but if you think there might be something in it, I would hold out.

In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?

I have had three longterm relationships that started that way, so I don't think you are doomed to dumpsville if you do it. We are all human.

me and DH did - never felt lust like it

that was 13.5 years ago so it obviously didn't put him off

if he's that keen he's not going to not want more - he still does

BoF - you are getting repetitive! Did you copy and paste that comment?

tw, I reckon BOF and VT are up to summat

May I just add

Each to their own, all part of life's rich tapestry!

gah

Yay, I agree (with everyone )

Glad to hear it BoF!

Nothing wrong with it at all if both parties want to. If one or both is the kind of person who is not happy to have sex unless s/he feels a deep emotional connection, then its not such a good idea simply because you're not likely to get a deep emotional connection on a first date.
However, if you have been led to believe women should withold sex againt their own desires in order to obtain 'respect' and for the man to agree to a 'relationship' try asking yourself why you want to have a relationship with a sexist moron who thinks that women are either sluts or 'marriage material' anyway?

...reader i married him.

Nowt wrong with it IMO.
Slept with my DP on the first date (practically dragged him back to mine!).
Was the first time I'd ever done it and the chemistry is still there in bucket loads one baby and several years later!
Not saying it's the same for everyone but who makes the rules anyway?

though deffo use a condom unless you want Annie Fitch disease.

I did it with my DH and we had our first date a couple of days later (when I next had an evening off work, I ought to add).

9 years, one baby and only a handful of nights apart later, I don't think it was such a bad idea...

Yup, I also got DH to 'walk me home' after our first date. Admittedly we'd known each other for a couple of years and there had been a lot of vague flirting before then, but it worked out fine for us.

Another one here where a one-night-stand (that's all he was meant to be, I wasn't looking for a relationship) turned into a marriage. We celebrated our silver anniversary this month.