Srtraw Poll - What's wrong with sleeping with somone on the first date?

[Janos]

I think if you want to and feel comfortable, what's the big deal?

It still seems to be a bit taboo and I'm wondering why.

Interested to hear other people's thoughts anyway.

Mind you, I have hardly ever gone on any dates - I have just had sex with people when I (and they) wanted to, sometimes it's turned into longer relationships, sometimes I've never seen them since, no big deal either way.

Janos,

I strongly disagree with your post!
How can you justify sleeping with someone on the first date? Have you no respect??

are you serious?! why should she have to justify it to anyone?

and how does having sex the first date equate to having no self respect? it sounds like she just knows what she wants to me

Hmmm..cinderella, are you on a wind up or what?

No I am not janos. I think that it is totally unacceptable you find it ok to meet up with strangers and sleep with them on first dates. Where is you child/children whilst your doing this???

Lou your clearly just as bad as janos if you find this ok!

is that you mother ?

LOL, ok

Well, to tell you the truth I shove my DS in the cupboard under the sink with dry bread and water while I go out gallivanting with my fancy men.

Sorry, make that a fruit shoot and greggs sausage roll.

The fact you can even joke about that confirms what i orignally thought about you Janos.

oh clearly her child is taking pictures of it all as it unfolds

ffs

Well, that's me told. I'm clearly going to hell in a handbasket.

i clearly am, but i have no reason to apologise for my sex life or the fact i choose when to fuck someone

i dont see being the same as janos as an insult, quite the opposite in fact

at cinderella.

Face it- if a man doesn't 'respect' you if you have sex with him on a first date, he was never going to anyway.

It's just an out-of-date ruse employed by those who want to 'Keep Women In Their Place'.

I don't know any reasonable, intelligent people who still believe this.

I would have been all cats bum faced about one night stands years ago, thought that you had to hold out in order for a man to respect you. Followed this process and had two long term relationships with complete dickheads.

Met DP, in bed with him about 5 hours later, still together years later. I revised my opinion!

Oooh, cinders would hate me too. I shagged lots of complete strangers in my youth.

(Didn't have kids then, so no need to use the cupboard under the stairs.)

Oh, have we got a new pet troll?

I do hope, Janos, that you don't get a 'babysitter' or any such newfangled method of child rearing, because everyone knows that any none-mother who would willingly look after children is a paedophile - and the same goes for anyone who would willingly defile a Mother, that most Respected Of Beings.

You are surrounded by paedophiles, how dare you lift your eyes from your child's groin for a second. He will be instantly molested.

Shouldn't you?

Oh.

Well I used to hang around with a group of blokes and I know how they feel about women who sleep around (or on a first date, to them it makes no difference). I knew a girl who slept with every member of a band and then afterwards they compared notes with each other and tried passing her onto their friends.

I wouldn't do it because I want respect.I don't want to be the butt of a sex joke. If you want a bit of fun then buy a bloody rabbit, but if you want to be respected and well thought of then generally I would advise that you wait.

None of my male friends struck up a meaningful relationship with a girl who slept with them on a first date. The ones in relationships are in those with girls who made them wait.

There's also personal safety to think about and sexual health.

My personal opinion, but I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't want my dd doing it either.

Ah well. Everyone knows that Prince Charming is only fit for a bit of moony singing.

Now if DH had insisted on singing to me on our first date I definitely would've lost all respect for him.

The very idea......

I find you "ladies" "sarcasm" hilarious.
Maybe try being better role models for your kids instead of jumping into bed with complete strangers...??

The fact you even have to post a thread on this janos is laughable.

Rhubarb i totally agree x

I realise now that by shodan's musings I have just lost credibility as an intelligent, reasonable person!

Mind you, I think that men who sleep around are male slags that I wouldn't touch with a bargepole.

cinders don't you dare agree with me!

That's it, I'm changing my mind, I think sleeping around is great!

PMSL @ cinders

personally, if I ever catch anyone I know role modeling ANY sexual behavior, restrained or otherwise, to their child, I'd call the social services!