Srtraw Poll - What's wrong with sleeping with somone on the first date?

[Janos]

I think if you want to and feel comfortable, what's the big deal?

It still seems to be a bit taboo and I'm wondering why.

Interested to hear other people's thoughts anyway.

depends how long the first date is .

if its a first date that becomes a whole wkd in the bedroom.. midnight first day is 2nd date, morning is 3rd date.

so.. the morning after is 3rd date.

hold out till then for full sex .

personally though... from experience...having sex on first date most definately does not spell a one night stand.often results in a relationship too.

I don't really see it the same way.

If a man wants you just for sex, he aint going to have a relationship with you after he's got it. So you can either waste one night, or 3-5 nights dating before you're dumped, or he might give up after the first one which 'could' mean that YOU miss out on some fun sex!

One problem can be though, that if you have sex early and then regularly it is hard to tell whether you are in a relationship or a series of one night stands, but one can turn into the other and vice versa.

Personally I'd just do what I felt like doing at the time. Funily enought I didn't WANT to sleep with my DH the first time I went out with him, but maybe that was because I knew for sure that he would hang on. The others, - I guess I was just getting my kicks.

Nothing at all, IMO. You've got to find out if they're any good in the scratcher before you put all that effort in.

If it doesn't work out, at least you had a good time.

(I shagged DH before we went on our first date - couldn't wait!)

nothing wrong with it at all....we are now 5 years and 1 DD down the line and very happy.

Nothing wrong with it IMO.
It's not something I ever did (waited till, ooh, at least a 2nd date ) but if you both want to then why not.

If the chap just wants sex it's best to find out sooner rather than later.

My general rule was...
'not to sleep with anyone for at least 6 months after starting to go out'
I used to find that men like the chase. They were much more likely to want a relationship with you if you didn't 'put out' too early.
This does sound like something from the 50s, but it used to work for me
However, that was if you wanted a relationship... if you just wanted a night jumping his bones then go for it.

nothing wrong with it at all

i've had relationships that started in such a way

I did the first night thing with both recent long term relationships.

If a guy likes you - he likes you - and if he only wants sex, and you do too, then so what? I don't think you can 'bond' in one night of lust anyway.

If I don't like someone, then I won't even give him a proper kiss, a cheek peck maybe. I don't seem to have a grey area with fancying someone. But they are far and few between.

And if he thought of me as cheap because I 'put out' on the first night, then he's just old fashioned and not in my mind set anyway, so it;s not loss...

Nothing at all wrong with it. If he would "disrespect" me for doing it then he wouldn't be teh right bloke anyway. A good sifting mechanism then

try before you buy i say

I've slept with quite a few men on the first date and most of them buggered off so I am jealous of all those who managed to keep theirs interseted.

Mabe I'm just rubbish in bed?

PSM - its all in the blowjob [

"However, if you have been led to believe women should withold sex againt their own desires in order to obtain 'respect' and for the man to agree to a 'relationship' try asking yourself why you want to have a relationship with a sexist moron who thinks that women are either sluts or 'marriage material' anyway?"

Oh no! I don't think that at all. I heard someone say something similar and thought surely people don't really think that in this day and age?

True story here...slept with exbf (relationship didn't work out fovarious reasons) on the 1st date. The next day I remember him asking anxiously 'Do you still like me?' I said, shouldn't it be me saying that?

Cos it means you is a slaaaaaag isn't it?

That relationship lasted 18 months btw.

juicy - and how does one give the perfect BJ?

I personally never have - I don't think..... only had er 2 1 night stands as well I think?! can't recall. (obv weren't that good lol)

but first date sex - erm no, 3rd date sex yes.

belle - its rather complicated, with several techniques... very difficult to explain.

i would need diagrams, a silicone penis model and a few hrs to show you

and there are variations required depending on penis size and bell end design

Nothing. if I wanted to sleep with a man on the first date I would, although when I've done this I've usually known the bloke for ages, so not as though I've just met him. If he then decided he didn't want a relationship with me because I sleep with men on the first date then it's saved me time finding out he's a total pillock later.

:D i'm intrigued now, and have choc at the ready to listen!

Nothing, if you want to. All my long-term relationships started that way. But I am quite a good judge of men . Also, I probably wouldn't be interested in getting involved with someone who thought less of me for doing it.

I stress, if you actually WANT to though. Equally, no decent bloke would ditch you after a first date if you didn't. If he was really interested.

If your happy with the situation its no ones business but your own.

belle

Nothing wrong with it, if it feels right. And its a big if. I met someone at a hotel on a blind date and as it felt right we were shagging each other senseless within 30 minutes!!