Why hasn't he asked me out again??!

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Met this bloke online-dating. He was very keen, chased me until I agreed to go out with him. We met for dinner and had such a good time. He walked me home, brief kiss on lips.

Next day he was text-happy, arranging second date. I couldn't see him for a week, and he kept in touch, even going back to the online-dating site and sending me a really sweet message to say he missed me so much, he had to look at my photos.

Second date was lunch. I felt very shy but we had a good laugh. I did tell him that I had a couple more coffee-dates with online men coming up (and was going speeddating). Maybe that was a mistake, but it was true!

That day, he kissed me on the cheek, sent a few more texts (keen ones) then... nuthin. I've had one more text and a couple of friendly but platonic emails.

WHY???!!!! I really like him, what is going on?

Please don't tell me to "tell him you like him" as I'm too cynical. Surely if he liked me, he'd ask me out again?

It's so daft as I only met him once, but I keep thinking about him. I'm meeting someone else for a drink on Wednesday night, but not with the same amount of enthusiasm.

why haven't you asked him out?

Only met him twice, I mean. Gah! See how bad I am?!

cos he just aint into you

Wouldyou... Because I'm too shy and terrified he'll say no (or yes, but not want to). And I do think that if he liked me, he'd ask me out again. He was in full-on pursuit mode before.

He's met someone else, doing the 'coffee thing' with someone? like you have.

You've had one more text and more emails? So why did n't you arrange another date, the bloke might think you don't like him?

DanDruff - bugger. That's what I think too. Shit.

Just text him, and ask him out, then you'll know.

rubbish teh ball is in your court why should he ask you out when you told him you are merrily meeting other men. no point in playing the field and then coming over all victorian

sorry! if he did he would be like a bad smell.

but he aint , so move on

I think maybe he didn't think you liked him that much because you mentioned the dates thing. I think life is too short to play games if you really like him I think you should chase him a little bit

I think you have put him off by admitting to dates lined up and speed dating. Probably thinks hes in a queue, though not sure why he wouldn't expect that seeing as he met you online.

Next time try not to be too honest. Good luck with it. It's a minefield. I've met a couple of men online but no-one I really liked so have given up with it.

Unfortunately (arrrgghhhh) I agree with DnDruff, deep-down. And I just can't chase another man. I chased DH, who recently moved out! So I just can't.

What a bugger though. I wish there was some way of finding out what happened without having to ask him outright, which would be crippling.

You told him you're going on more dates with other guys - he's probably off doing the same himself and is waiting for you to get in touch.

Embarrassingly, I looked at his online profile and he hasn't been on there in 2 weeks.

Do you think he might give it one last shot? If I sit tight, he might ask me out again? His text said he'd like to do it again "soon", but then didn't specify a day.

I bloody hate dating, I really do. I'm crap at it.

just call him....what is the worse that can happen?

he blows you out ..so what... his loss

you might miss a great thing if you never call

Oh, sod it. Sod him. If he's too wet to ask for another date then he's not my type.

I echo the cries of 'just call him'

What have you got to lose? You really made sure the ball was in your court when you told him about the dates you had lined up, so now it's time for you to throw the ball back at him. If he says, thanks but no thanks then you have lost nothing.

OR
send him a 2 page A4 checklist about what was " wrong "2 with you

tee hee - thatll freak him

was i:
A) better looking than you thought
B) minging
c) ok

did i talk:

a) too much
b) not enough
c) in txtspk

Ring him! Can't hurt. One call isn't 'chasing' is it?

he's not too wet, don't allow your misgivings over your ex dictate how you will deal with a new man.

I know it's hard cos i was let donw big time by my ex dh, and it's very easy to just sit there and put thoughts into your head about what he may or may not be thinking.

he may not be 'out to ruin your life' you know!!!

he said soon, so text him back with a cheeky, 'so how soon's soon then?!!'

go on!!

I'm in so many different minds about it, it's ridiculous. Argh!