Why hasn't he asked me out again??!

[BEAUTlFUL]

Met this bloke online-dating. He was very keen, chased me until I agreed to go out with him. We met for dinner and had such a good time. He walked me home, brief kiss on lips.

Next day he was text-happy, arranging second date. I couldn't see him for a week, and he kept in touch, even going back to the online-dating site and sending me a really sweet message to say he missed me so much, he had to look at my photos.

Second date was lunch. I felt very shy but we had a good laugh. I did tell him that I had a couple more coffee-dates with online men coming up (and was going speeddating). Maybe that was a mistake, but it was true!

That day, he kissed me on the cheek, sent a few more texts (keen ones) then... nuthin. I've had one more text and a couple of friendly but platonic emails.

WHY???!!!! I really like him, what is going on?

Please don't tell me to "tell him you like him" as I'm too cynical. Surely if he liked me, he'd ask me out again?

Dont forget your umberella just in case it rains.

That photo is in a really informative Daily Mail article you might want to check out before you go out on Saturday.

Hi there.

Have you read the book 'Why men love bitches' by somebody called Sherry somebodyorother? (I've lent mine out again so don't know her surname but you can get it on Amazon.) It's a fabulous book and answers all those men conundrums in a humourous way. The title is tongue-in-cheek but the basic theme is that men fall in love with you when we go about our business in our own sweet way and don't go overboard to accommodate them and start chasing them. It's not playing games, it's about being yourself and happy in your own company and let the right one come your way and not the other way about. It would be disastrous to chase him at this stage.

This one may be Mr Right, he may have unfinished business like a demanding ex or something. It's up to him to deal with his business and make room for you in his life, and not the other way about! Just be cool, and when he rings behave as if you are pleased to hear from him but you haven't been counting the days as you have so many great things going on.

I recommend the book - lots of bits make you cringe over the mistakes we make. I'm sure I lost the love of my life from making stupid mistakes, like hanging on the end of the phone for his call, putting my life on hold just for a few moments of his presence. His love for me faded and I've seen the same happen to the most attractive women.

A friend of mine, the one that has borrowed my book, met a man on-line in June. He fell in love with her and is hinting at marriage. He's introduced her to his parents and does all these romantic things. She's playing it cool, because even though she loves him she's busy with her life. Whenever she starts getting jeolous of his ex, acting insecure, being too transparent and available to come over of a weekend, he slightly cools off.

It's not a game we need to play - we just have to understand that their idea of romance is the thrill of the chase. Men have been spoilt by women chasing them so that's where we be a little different and not be predictable. Be a princess and he'll want you in his life, and you call the shots whether he's suitable for you.

Have fun, if he's a time-waster there are many more men deserving of your time and energy!

Genevive, yes I have that book, I'm a convert!, and, funnily enough, am currently reading the sequel, Why Men Marry Bitches, at the moment.

Sherry Argov.

It's MUCH BETTER than the Rules, which are just agony (but depressingly effective).

ABD -- thanks! I loved the picture and I actually read all of those kissing tips, just in case.

Listen to you lot. Let him chase you all say but then if he chases and declares undying love you all say he is coming on too strong. If he does not call he is a time waster. Make up your minds.

BEAUTIFUL you just go and enjoy yourself and if you like him then see him again and again and again. There is no system of rules.

shineonrazydiamond - 'N' but not even DW really believes the story and she was in it.

ABD what a romantic story.
Made me smile.