Why hasn't he asked me out again??!

[BEAUTlFUL]

Met this bloke online-dating. He was very keen, chased me until I agreed to go out with him. We met for dinner and had such a good time. He walked me home, brief kiss on lips.

Next day he was text-happy, arranging second date. I couldn't see him for a week, and he kept in touch, even going back to the online-dating site and sending me a really sweet message to say he missed me so much, he had to look at my photos.

Second date was lunch. I felt very shy but we had a good laugh. I did tell him that I had a couple more coffee-dates with online men coming up (and was going speeddating). Maybe that was a mistake, but it was true!

That day, he kissed me on the cheek, sent a few more texts (keen ones) then... nuthin. I've had one more text and a couple of friendly but platonic emails.

WHY???!!!! I really like him, what is going on?

Please don't tell me to "tell him you like him" as I'm too cynical. Surely if he liked me, he'd ask me out again?

get on with it

"he said soon, so text him back with a cheeky, 'so how soon's soon then?!!'"

good advice

Agree with OrmIrian & pirate - one call is not chasing it is recoprocating his interest. It will also put your mind at rest and then you will know. Then having done that, I think you are right to leave the ball in his court and let him do any future chasing.

I met my DH on internet dating totally recommend it. But it can get a bit addictive and you need to try not to sweat the small stuff. Initiating one text is absolutely fine. I wouldn't bother with a second though.

Asking him out for a drink is not chasing him and using your exH as the yardstick here is bad which ever way you cut it. You're effectively allowing your past relationship and man to influence this one, just because you ask him out for a drink doesn't mean he is going to turn into your ex!

Just text him if you don't want to call, whatever you do, just do it. At the moment, the only person who is losing out here is you!

Totally agree with Ewe. What have you got to lose? If he says "no" or isn't interested you're not going to see him again anyway so why does it matter?

Hand phone to friend, tell friend what to say in text, send text before you have time to dither over send button?

Sorry, hand phone to TRUSTED friend!!

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh, I just can't. I picked up phone... then put it back down. I can't do it. This is pathetic! Am not sassy Noughties woman, am buttoned-up scaredy-cat.

Everything I think of texting just seems transparent and obvious, like I'm writing I LOVE YOU AND WANT YOUR BABIES.

LOL! Well, you could send that. Would certainly settle things one way or the other!

Leave it. You don't want to chase him, as you said. Head up- next please!

OK, BoF. Will do. Ugh, I hatehatehatehate dating, I really do. I hate this bit, before you know you both like each other.

If he asks me out, you will hear my screams of joy all over the UK. They will be made all the more ecstatic after this hideous torture.

Go on BEAUTIFUL text or phone him, pleeeease i have too know, so it must be sending you mad!!

I will convince myself that he hasn't asked me out again because he likes me too much and is scared that a woman can produce such powerful emotions inside him...

I am with the go for it gang

life is far to short, we will be a long time dead...

at least you will know one way or another

sunshine, I just can't!

Oh fgs, text him "hi it's Beautiful are you free for a drink this week". Then you have done your bit, if he replies all well and good, if he doesn't move on.

nooooooooooooooooooooooooo

You can! you are a powerful,beautiful woman! bite the bullet, go for it!

we shall hold your hand

Oh FGS get in with woman! Or I'll come round there and call him for you "Excuse meee but beautiful thinks you are really really lush..."

I will, I will......

Good idea OrmIrian, come on beautiful do it, if i can do it, you can.

My hand is kinda aching, im still holding it out for you and i shall hold it out till you make the call!

lol! Listen, I can't! if he's not asking me out, there'll be a reason for it and it's probably better if I know that now rather than down the line.

I'm just off now to kill myself instead.

But beautiful, what if he is thinking the same thing?

Come on Beauty, you can do it - go for it.