Should I tell

[handmedownqueen]

My lovely DH that I went to bed with an old friend. I love DH and have no excuses for it except a mini midlife crisis and feeling a lot of stress at present with work kids etc. Drank far too much and succumbed. It wasn't even much good and certainly made me feel I was missing nothing. I'm not going to benefit anyone by telling am I?

Funny old world 'eh?! I'd actually prefer the boys of McFly over Take That but alas, they are just about young enough to be my sons. That's just not right. Is it?!

hels,your dp wants to watch himself...

D'ya think?

OFFS Mark Owen is the only one of Take That who looks like he even knows he has a willy, let alone what to do with it...

< gasp >

sgb, how can you say that ??

Mark Owen still looks like a prepubescent schoolboy at the age of 30+ !! He would rather snog you than shag you

howard has a knowing look, I raaather like, and a dancer's body to die for

The Owen lives in my postcode, , and I have seen ladies dress up all special just to go along to the same singalong class as him and his son, only to sit agog at the celebrity in their midst...

howard could definitely have it

Have what exactly?

Would you prefer him to, take it/that??

lou, you stick to short-arses

howard is mine

J.O would so get it,he'd be bounced off walls and begging for mercy when i've finished with him-however i suspect the begging for mercy would be as soon as he laid eyes on me and unfurled my breasts...

pmsl

I don't think breasts hold much appeal for him....

he could take anything he liked without even saying please

you cant have howard, i already licked him so noone else can touch him

So having wrestled with my guilt am I allowed to join in the take that debate?!! Coz I have to say it's always been reject Robbie for me though the strange staring eyes on x factor did put me off a bit!!

no lou, you have the little welsh boy

howard is mine

you are being a greedy mare now

hmdq, since this is your thread, you may join in

I tell you what, lets all have all of 'em

that could be good

Sorry no time to read the whole thread but I read the first couple of dozen comments.

As a woman who has twice taken her husband back after affaires I would say TELL HIM. We had the worst year and a half of our whole marriage whilst he kept his second fling a secret.

Just because something is unspoken, doesn't mean it isn't the truth. I happened. You need to give him the respect he deserves by telling him so that he can make real judgements based on actual life - not some fantasy world you are attempting to create.

If you lose trust, what's left in a relationship?

No could never do it with anyone called Gary.... Howard - go on then u twisted my arm!

< starts furiously de-fuzzing and toning up >

HMDQ you are reverting to type i see...

has any of this ranting and raving helped with your original dilemma?

yep, didn't take much to twist your arm did it ??

joke

Oops sorry spidermama having been hung out to dry by a couple of posters on this thread I've decided it's better to do fantasy shagging with take that instead of real shagging.
Now Simon cowell that's an interesting question. I find him physically repulsive. But a good friend says she would go for him and she swears she is physically attracted to him not his money...

i heart simon cowell- big time...

he has very short legs

and wears high heels

See if you can find that book - Good People Have Affairs. I really think it will help you both to make informed choices and perhaps forgive yourself. Then you will be in a position to improve your relationship...

I am sure that you don't want to keep discussing it on here - you have had a very bumpy ride. But very happy to tell you from the perspective of someone whose husband had an affair and whose confidence has been destroyed what I think if it would help!

PS I DO think good people can have affairs and make mistakes without becoming automatically bad!

af i like to keep s few in reserve