My daughter has made allegations that my husband in abusing her, I can't find any support on the net. Please help!!!

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My 14 year old daughter has made a statement to the police that my husband has been inappropriatley touching her and making sexual advances towards her. Please tell me where I can get some support around how this is making me feel. I can't find anywhere on the net for this kind of thing.

has he been arrested?

is he still there? and have you phoned the police?

Are you supporting your dd?

sorry, misread your post, I see you have obviously reported him.

NSPCC are great for advice etc

Sorry, not been on here before...what is dd?
yes he has been arrested and on conditional bail not to see or contact my daughter. Children and families are now involved, social workers etc

god what an awful situation, second the advice to contact nspcc and possibley visit your gp too.

Your daughter is going to need you more than ever at the moment

I am assuming that your husband has moved out

dd means darling daughter

OMG - that is truly awful and your mind must be whizzing.
Depending on whether you know or believe the allegations to be true, you are probably feeling torn between two people whom you love.

I would suggest the NSPCC, Brook and Victim Support for help.

Good luck through this.

Yes he has moved out. I am supporting my dd as much as I possibly can, just feel that I need some support to be able to support!!

your daughter can call childline 0800 1111 if she wants to talk to a counsellor in confidence about her own feelings.

how awful sorry - I have no idea where to go for support - maybe GP for referral for counselling. Is your dd getting support as well ? Is there perhaps something you can go to together ?

What a terrible situation for your daughter and for you, it would be helpful to know what kind of help you are looking for, do you want help in knowing how to support your daughter, or in how to deal with this yourself?

What a terrible situation for your daughter and for you, it would be helpful to know what kind of help you are looking for, do you want help in knowing how to support your daughter, or in how to deal with this yourself?

Yes I feel very torn as I dont know who to believe, really really cannot believe that he would do that and just as strongly believe that she would not make it up.....a real mess of emotions

Go to your GP and ask to be put on the list for counselling. This might take some time, and they might be able to recommend some helplines in the meantime. There's always the Samaritans if you really need someone to talk to.

you need to believe your daughter

and for you, what a horrendous situation to be in.

is this man your daughters father?

When I was 14 I was abused by my foster father. If there is anything you want to ask, please do.

I am so sorry for you both.

Is your husband her father?

memoo - without question?

I'm sorry to ehar you are both going through this. I knwo how you feel to some degree, as I've been in your position, though the abuse wasn't sexual in nature.

I'd ask your GP or possible the social worker if they can point you in the right direction for support for you as well as your daughter. It's easy for everythign to be concentrated on the child, and support provided for them and the parent to be forgotten and expected to get on with it.