There seems little reason to lie about this, but if she is, so what?
If you don?t believe her, just walk away from the thread (figuratively speaking) ? why do you have to continue debating whether or not she is making it up? Are you really that insistent on being right? If you?re angry because you think she?s wasting your time, then stop replying. Problem solved.
If you give your sympathy and it turns out to be a troll case, what have you lost? You?ve showed your compassion, and trust in human nature. If you?re wrong, you?ve wasted 2 minutes of your life. I?m sorry, I only just stumbled across this thread, I?ve almost never posted on mumsnet before (although my own mother is a regular poster), but the way some of you are acting seems frankly, rather juvenile.
Also, some people in this thread seem pretty intent on being smartarses ? no one likes a smartarse. It doesn?t matter what the statistics say, it doesn?t mean whatever is more likely is true in this case.
My own personal insight is this ? I had a friend who, when she was about your daughter?s age, went through a phase of telling some terrible lies. She?d tell people her dad had been hitting her. When the police got involved, she finally admitted to having lied for attention. I am in no way saying this is what is happening, it is merely something to consider. Also, the fact that she told the nurse, who then went to child protection suggests this may have been a cry for attention that got out of hand.
I?ve been told that many of your concerns come from being sucked in by trolls yourselves, and I?m sorry people would be so manipulative, but I say again ? if you don?t believe them, don?t answer. Because if you are wrong and cry ?TROLL?, and punch holes in her argument, all you are doing is frustrating and upsetting an innocent and already distressed lady.
OP - If your daughter is telling the truth, my own most utmost sympathies to your situation.