following on from the what are you good at thread - blowjobs

[namechangenamechange]

Yes I know it has been done to death and I remember reading ExPat's tutorial on here once about the perfect BJ, but I can't find it now through search.

A couple of people on the what are you good at thread claimed to be especially skilled at blow jobs and I'm after a bit of advice. I am rubbish at them, I mean really awkward and bad. Please help. DH would be so happy if I could just get the technique right and neither of us has any experience with anyone else to bring to the disucssion (childhood sweethearts).

Please help and offer your hints and tips Thanks!

Why don't you ask him how he'd like it?

I'm not the person to ask- I can't breathe through my nose if I've got something in my mouth . I make short-lived efforts though, and they're always appreciated!

I think the main thing is enjoying them and showing that you enjoy them iyswim.

NO more technical help than that I'm afraid, I do remember Expats extensive tutorial, what a gal!

Oh and don't be too rough

i haven't got the patience

I do, but we can't come up with the perfect technique. I know some people who claim to excel at this but I'm terrible.

... patience to do bj's, didn't mean patience to write about them
realise how that reads when i read it back, oops.

Where is Expat? I must see that thread.

It was a classic thread - she's a lady with a plan that one!

Off to search...

think ice-lolly
accompanying hand always helps
ps why do i feel compelled to always put after sexual posts?!!

Do you entoy giving the BJ?

Not particularly N1, I don't hate it but I don't love it because I don't feel confident in doing it.

N1 - i think i like the thought more and the first 5 minutes. tbh, i get a little bored after this ... does that make me a bad wife?

Sorry, that should have read - do you enjoy giving a BJ?

If you are doing it just to please the bloke and not because you enjoy the activity, You are doing it for the wrong reason.

namechange - i don't necessarily think it is down to technique is it? i think the enthusiasm and actually being willing to do it is 9/10 of the way there. have you asked what he likes?

How about watching some explicit porn? I have learnt a lot that way

I really should namechange but I can't be arsed ...

DP says there's no such thing as the perfect blow job, it's down to the individual.

Things I have found to be helpful are:

Use your hand to stop yourself gagging [theatrical wink in direction of DP]

Cover your teeth with your lips

If you can get the rhythm of a hand job right then copy that for a blow job

Ask him what he likes and make sure he's ok with telling you to do things differently if he's not comfy [DP says this should be top of the list but I think the things which ensure a woman's comfort are definitely much more critical ]

You can't really go far wrong with lots of licking, tbh - he might not come but he won't be fighting you off

He likes it if I can get quite a lot of it in my mouth. Trouble is either I have a small mouth or he is well endowed because I always end up wanting to retch - kind of spoils the mood a little!

Have you tried getting something like The Lover's Guide dvd? I second the idea of including hand work - lessens the load

crossed posts - just read makkapakkas thread - right, got it, hand to stop the retching - check

oh good idea with the DVD - will look into that one on Amazon.

Ok just googled 'How to give the perfect blow job?' and got www.adultsx.co.uk/htm/guides/blowjob. Seems pretty explicit. Sorry can't link as on the iPod.

If they're large enough, try and position yourself so boobs brush against his balls, vary speed of up/down action (as in, stick to one speed for a bit then slow it/ make it faster, note reaction...), flick tongue against head of it while you are doing the rest, try not to think of washing up / possible contents of sandwiches in dcs' school lunch for the next day....

Christ almighty abedelia, exactly how well-endowed is your DP?

pmsl at thinking of sandwiches/washing up etc