Is you dp, dh,dw your soulmate or a good fit?

[twinsetandpearls]

Just asking as dp and I are reaching a crossroads which is going to be make or break.

It was suggested on here the other week that it is unrealistic to look for a soulmate.

I have a man who is good to me, (usually but that is for another thread) , adores me and dd ( she is not his), works hard in and out of the home, would never cheat or act immorally, I fancy the pants of him and him me and we have things in common ( although perhaps more differences) Should that be enough or would you walk away from that for a soulmate?

[hammouhouseofhorror]

Our lives have crossed paths a number of times now, each time one or both of us has been with somebody. I didn't particularly believe in the notion of soulmates, and agree with the thought that there are millions of people in the world so where does the notion of a soulmate fit in? And then I met him and looked into his eyes. It was not just about 'chemistry', it is something beyond words.
Sad to say when I am struggling with life I think of him, and not my H to pull me through. I was always fairly ok with just knowing he was a part of my life, but as my life has been blown to pieces, and I struggle with my relationship with H, it has become painfull.
I am not a selfish person, H and I have two children and are close to each others families, OP has a relationship. I have no right to blow this all apart to pursue the relationship, and yet the thought of going through my life and never actually getting the opportunity to share some time with him saddens me beyond words...
I too go on auto pilot, it has always been my philosophy to live for the moment, so try to do that and not waste my life in the meantime.

My relationship with H........he treated me badly and maybe if me and OP's lives hadn't crossed again maybe I would have given 100% to putting it right but I suddenly remembered I deserved better than I was getting, and now it is all a mess.

For now, my focus is our Dc's, for they deserve the very best that life has to offer.

[twinsetandpearls]

caprica I don't think we wants anything from me, he genuinely thinks it and to be honest he is right. I am an overweight, ugly depressed single mum with loads of baggage, everyone i know says he is one of the nicest people they have ever met so I am lucky to have him. I hate that situation, you describe it very well, I constantly feel as if I am indebted to him and as a result my self confidence has never been lower.