OW posting about relationship

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My husband left me February 2026 saying I made his life miserable and he didnt love me anymore. In June 2026 I discovered hed been having an affair since April 2025. We are still living together as he won't leave until we divorce and sell the house.

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son. However in the past month she's been posting on her own website about how kind he is, and photos of their dates including images of him. On Sunday she posted a poem about their long distance relationship the day after what should have been our wedding anniversary. I've asked my husband that she stops as our son knows who she is and im worried he will find it. He claims she needs it for her work and business.

I know I can't make her make it down but does anyone have any technical advice that means I could block her on my sons device.

Thank you

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Oh calm down. Not sure why you're picking on my post out of the hundreds there. If you look at my other posts I'm full of support for op as I've had the same thing happen.

I am however allowed to laugh if someone has good comedic timing, and that poster did. That ok with you, oh great one?

If it’s for her business, post the link on here and we can all leave negative reviews 😉

So tempting 😅Though I think I might be better enjoying the view from the moral high ground. 😅

I couldn't agree with this more. All the posters saying she should be frosty/silent with him need to remember that OP has a son in the house. When I discovered my exH had been sleeping with sex workers for a decade, and he had to stay in the house because I had an acute illness, my kids had no idea that inside I wanted to kill him. They're thriving now between two households, and the divorce has done no damage at all because they didn't see hostilities. Play the long game, OP, and do what you need to do to to get you and your son through this as easily as possible, and hang on to the fact that easier times will come.

Please don't feel stupid. I don't think any of us who have been through similar thought it was possible. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Agree with all of this!

Very wise. Believe me, enjoying being dignified and having the moral high ground has a much longer shelf-life than revenge. I'm nearly seven years post discovery and it still gives me a glow that I was the better person.

The op is looking for advice, people amusing themselves and each other with outlandish suggestions which will humiliate the op I personally don’t think is helpful,

but you crack in enjoying yourself

Well I’m petty but I’d be screenshotting it and sharing it for all to see with a comment about how this wonderful man is still married to you.

Thank you. That's exactly how I feel. If I am being polite and talking to him it's only when our son is around. Any politeness is all for his sake. Even my in laws don't understand how I can tolerate him but my answer is always the same, It's to protect our son.

Sadly my ex isn't helping himself with his relationship with our son. Our son is just getting more and more fed up with him. I don't need to say or do anything.

Sounds like you're doing a grand job - you should be bloody proud of yourself. I'm so close to my kids now as they have a sense that they've been my number one priority throughout all of this. Although their Dad has upped his game significantly parenting-wise, they get on well with him but they don't have that kind of relationship.

Drop the price of the house and get it gone. All of this will be in the past then.

Why isn't he living with her?

He says their relationship isn't like that when I asked him that which I thought made no sense.

Though I think the fact she lives several hours away and has her own kids is probably more the reason.

My Dsis had similar this year. Her ex-H said he wanted space, he didn’t know if he loved her, there was no one else. Then she found out there was someone else. Now he tries to talk to her about his relationship with the OW. Like why tf would she want to hear about that? She is not your friend, you betrayed her, idiot. Men are nuts. I read the script on here and loads of it is word for word. I think he (and your ex-H) probably were hoping to keep it secret and then come back once they were bored of the OW. Scumbags.

She doesn’t want to live with him! What a moron he is to trash his marriage for her.

Give it time. She is luxuriating in being the other woman which is why she's doing it. If you rise, then you give her the satisfaction. Try heart reacting her posts!

I would be tempted to post little items about how lovely it is living with him and what an amazing family man he is …

Huh. I had this when my ex first left. The OW covered him in shag tags on his neck 🤢 (bearing in mind she was in her 30s and him in his 40s) knowing damned well he was seeing our youngest that day. Was tagging him, here, there and everywhere on fb so I just blocked her for my sanity tbh. It was obviously a staking her claim move, unfortunately it backfired spectacularly on him, as he'd told everyone we'd "just grown apart" and then it's clear, he'd cheated, so mutual friends and family, roasted him to his face, and online, and he'd been shown up for the utter prick he was. OP block them both. Don't respond. Tell DS you're not interested if he keeps bringing them up. Hold your head up, shining bright is the ultimate revenge. Either that, or spike his coffee with picolax, next time he comes round😁

You could be talking about my ex h.

Says she is long distance. I have thoughts …

I think you're using your son as an excuse. How likely is it that he would be looking at some middle-aged author's website?

@OneHazelBird where does it say OP is refusing??

I just took it to mean he’s staying while the divorce process is slowly going through.

Don't be so sanctimonious. Maybe OP appreciates a laugh?

Fight fire with fire…

He’s still sleeping on our sofa in his boxers and a vest,
A mid-life crisis on skinny legs, a most unwelcome guest.
I’ve packed his bags a dozen times, I’ve pointed to the door,
But like a stubborn piece of damp, he’s rooted to the floor.

Meanwhile, upon the internet, his mistress stakes her claim,
With rhyming poems on her feed that worship his name.
She posts a filtered selfie with a caption dark and deep.
He won’t go, I don’t want him love, he’s yours to take and keep.”

So keep on writing poems, tag him in your prose,
But come and claim your prize before the tip is closed.
You want him for your boyfriend? Well, I’ll gladly wave bye-bye,
Just take him off my sofa, because my patience has run dry.

i’m petty so would do this but the poems would be more like “dickhead cheating husband won’t move out, his mistress has the sensitivity of a trout” etc & you could do all sorts of quotes