OW posting about relationship

[Adviceseeker35]

My husband left me February 2026 saying I made his life miserable and he didnt love me anymore. In June 2026 I discovered hed been having an affair since April 2025. We are still living together as he won't leave until we divorce and sell the house.

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son. However in the past month she's been posting on her own website about how kind he is, and photos of their dates including images of him. On Sunday she posted a poem about their long distance relationship the day after what should have been our wedding anniversary. I've asked my husband that she stops as our son knows who she is and im worried he will find it. He claims she needs it for her work and business.

I know I can't make her make it down but does anyone have any technical advice that means I could block her on my sons device.

Thank you

I would be very tempted to expose what they’ve done - on her website. Probably not wise, but very tempting.

God, she's really professional, isn't she? I'd be so tempted to reply with a sharp remark.

@Adviceseeker35 the good news is that crap behaviour does make it easier to move on... it really does. I'm so sorry you're going through this. One day you will look back on it all and go: "What on earth did I ever see in that cretin in the first place?!" And that's a wonderful day, believe me! I've been divorced for two decades and in the last year my ex has tried to get back in touch with me twice - what the actual?! Jog on loser!

OP I think you need to step right back. Don’t look at her website so you don’t know. If ‘D’H texts you photos - respond you have told him not to send you photos so as a result you are blocking him. If he needs to communicate re your son he can do so via email from now on. Then block him.
Depending on the age I wouldn’t try to hide stuff from DS so that you need to try to sneak block him. Tell him in an age appropriate way, trying to minimise the impact on him. As others have said, you cannot protect him from the behaviour of his father so please don’t try. Just try to minimise the damage.
I wouldn’t be pally at him either. Grey rock all the way. Only discussion related to your son or divorce matters. Stay away from him. I wouldn’t cook for him or eat with him either. Cook for you and son and eat separately from him. No washing his stuff or tidying up after him if it can be avoided. No cleaning areas only he uses. Get the house on the market if it is not already and focus on getting out.

Comment on the poem as follows.

What a gorgeous insta aesthetic!
Your soulmate, the love of your life!
But it does seem rather pathetic,
Cos he lives with me - his wife.

I'm sure your love's wholesome and pure
You protest too much, it's so sweet
But OTT poems just seem insecure
Fair enough though - you're shagging a cheat.

The heart will have what it feels
Love is known for desires and devices
But how can you tell if it's real?
Or if you're just his mid-life crisis?

Absolutely better off without them!👏🏻👏🏻 (even though you feel like it's the end of the world at the time :(
I liken it to coming off a drug....

Why I am not surprised at your ex? It's nice to have the satisfaction of knowing the way he treated you was absolutely nothing personal with him having gone on to do the exact same to someone else (not that you would necessarily wish that on anyone else....although like you say you can't have too much sympathy for the OW he left you for) ...what a knobhead 🙄

Fantastic 👏🏻👏🏻
PLEASE post this OP! 🤣

I'd advise husband that if it is not taken off in 48 hours then I will show it to our son and explain why this woman has found it necessary to publish the same.

There's nothing you can do OP but you seem to be torturing yourself.

You could be in this situation for at least a couple more years. I would move out for my own sanity.

..hes a twat
..no you cant stop her
..just get divorced and sell the house why are you not doing that

Absolutely this. After weeks of sobbing and being needy I eventually took this advice. I got dolled up, went on dates etc and my live-in-ex got so jealous that he slammed my front door and broke the lock! They don't want you (or can't decide if they want you or not) but sure as hell don't want anyone else to have you.
Find your anger OP if that's what you need to move on and break free. He's taking you for a mug. Get dressed up, go out, have fun and show him what's he's missing and that you're single and available, because as it is, nothing has really changed apart from separate bedrooms..

This may not be a bad idea… if you keep doing it and it pisses the OW off enough, the soon to be ex will have to move out. Take photos of him sleeping.

Brava! 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾

Yes, I would too. Agree it wouldn't be wise but something on her social media even about how he can't be that kind given he was having an affair with her. Assuming she knew he was married?

But wiser to just try to ignore it.

She must he a shit writer if she's this desperate she's mining her private life to post cringey content.

Sorry OP, it sounds a rough situation.

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son

gently, a boundary is something you put round yourself, this is a rule, a request, and one they can ignore.

to make it a boundary it would be if you post I will do x ie leave, tell everyone, whatever,

a rule is when you try to dictate another’s actions, which is what you’re attempting,

im sorry this is happening, but the marriage is over, you’re not in a position to dictate rheir actions or give them rules, she is now the primary relationship, so it would be best if he was now honest with your son.

Are you stalking this woman by any chance? Why are you checking out HER website? For the benefit of your mental health you shouldn't, plus one day he will do the same thing to her he did to you and you will be laughing out loud. I understand the need to protect your child but how is he going to find out of he doesn't look at her website?

Don’t do this, you will look like a right twat of an ex wife, and the cringe worthy bad poetry will make it worse,

she will delete your comment and make a pointed one about crazy eXs who can’t let go, the fact is technically you’re his wife but that’s only as the divorce isn’t finalised, you are seperated and only living together for the financials,

OP you say he left you, the OW etc, but then you say he said he 'might take you back'???? WTAF?

Have I got that wrong and, if so, please clarify because it is not how this works.

Your H is refusing to leave the marital home whilst conducting an affair. He gives not one fuck about your boundaries or his OW’s.

Well if she thinks a 'kind' man would treat his wife and child like this, she's clearly got standards lower than a pygmy limbo champion. Of course she's insecure - she's in a very precarious position.

The absolute brass neck of the man chatting to you like a mate. Mates don't treat each other like sh1t.

He left me Feb 2026 saying he needed time to think, didn't love me anymore but there was a chance he would take me back but said he wasn't seeing anyone and he had no plans to. He walked out for 2 nights and the agreement was if he came back home we'd work on things which is what I thought was happening as I was very naive.

Forward to June 2026 i discovered he'd been seeing this woman since April 2025. When I found an anniversary card in the house.

All of which show what an idiot I was to trust and defend him.

OP please don't involve your son in this mess because nothing good will come out of it. Using children as weapons to throw at each other is always a bad idea. Once the kid gets a bit older and you feel calmer you can tell him what happened.

I think it’s pathetic when people have to post their new relationships.

It’s a sign of insecurity though and the actual healthy, happy relationships don’t need to post on the internet about how happy there are.

I’m sure he’s spun her a load of lies about how OP is crazy and keeping him from his son and she’s stupidly believing it all.

How old is your son OP?

And do you just have the 1 child?

Are both sides of your family aware you’re separated and he’s with someone else?

Ah, fair enough. The men I know who have gone off with some floozy have made a bit of a point of emphasising how much of a couple they and the floozy are. Including insisting on a rigid contact schedule with the children and bringing the floozy along whenever it is their turn to have the children.

If this woman is as insecure as she seems, she won’t have the sense to make other plans during their partner’s contact time.