OW posting about relationship

[Adviceseeker35]

My husband left me February 2026 saying I made his life miserable and he didnt love me anymore. In June 2026 I discovered hed been having an affair since April 2025. We are still living together as he won't leave until we divorce and sell the house.

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son. However in the past month she's been posting on her own website about how kind he is, and photos of their dates including images of him. On Sunday she posted a poem about their long distance relationship the day after what should have been our wedding anniversary. I've asked my husband that she stops as our son knows who she is and im worried he will find it. He claims she needs it for her work and business.

I know I can't make her make it down but does anyone have any technical advice that means I could block her on my sons device.

Thank you

I was going to say shag him so I think taking pictures of him acting the family man is pretty reasonable actually
(also dont take my advice, unless you can seperate sex and emotions no point causing more harm to yourself)

I can see why that’s difficult for you, but you and your husband are separated and he is now her partner. You can’t set boundaries for her behaviour - she’s entitled to talk about her relationship as much as she likes, unfortunately, as is your ex. It’s horrible for you, and it’s also rotten to be living with an ex, so I do sympathise, but ultimately she and your ex can do what they like with their own social media.

Presumably your son knows who she is because he’s aware you’re divorcing and that she is his dad’s girlfriend? If he’s old enough to have social media he’s old enough to be told this stuff.

Blocking will depend on what platform she’s using and blocking stops someone from accessing from their account; the actual device is irrelevant.

Oh PLEASE start posting bouquets of flowers with coy little captions like "when he'll do anything to get you back" or breakfast in bed for two. Or ask him to get her to block your son.

No, that's not always the case. People just like to say/think it to comfort themselves, or others.

We can tell you how to block on social media if you tell us which platform(s) he uses - but the bigger issue here is that it's been eight months since you split, surely your son knows that you are separated despite living together? And if he does, then he is probably thinking that it is inevitable at some point that either one of his parents will get into a new relationship. How old is he - are you protecting him or just keeping important information from him? You cannot set boundaries for what other people post online - I also wonder why you know what she is posting online as you must be following her! Before you even think about blocking her account from other people's accounts you need to block her from your own as reading her content isn't doing you any good. Believe me I sympathise, my husband cheated with someone at work - and we both worked for the same company - wish I could have blocked them in real life! But speaking of real life, you also need to get real and work out how best to navigate all of this for the sake of your son and just blocking social media isn't dealing with it.

I would do this too. The audacity of the woman posting pictures of your husband whilst he still lives you and your son.

He can’t have it both ways, staying put in the family home while his new bit of stuff posts about their love for each other.

Is it an actual website or just her social media pages? If it’s social media, I would comment on the pictures ‘LOL! He’s so in love with you but he’s currently living with his wife and child, hardly the definition of true love. In more literal terms you are just a plain home wrecker’.

Love this idea. 👌🏼

I’m so sorry that this is happening to you op.

Given that he had an affair that caused the end of your marriage, sorry but I don’t think it is remotely reasonable of him that he gets to live with you and your son now.

I know you can’t physically force him out but I would have refused to those terms, or to have him live with me, as he has made his choice , and who cares what he does or doesn’t want to do , or if his living arrangements aren’t ideal, then he’s brought that on himself. Are his parents alive? Can he go back to them?

Do you have friends or family who could move in to your house temporarily and support you and your son in this way?

I preferred not to care when it happened to me. Took some acting at times, but faked it 'til I made it to actually not caring.

Tell your son, the two of you together, so he knows you both still love him and are working through it to make him safe and secure. You can't hide this forever.

Did you actually mean to say this? Took me a couple of reads before I figured what you were probably trying to say!

Edit - agree though

So she needs her website for her work.

I'm sure her clients would love to know about her affair with a married man.

I don't know, based on my observations of people cheats don't seem to be very good at stopping the habit.

Can you leave a response or review on her website saying how much it's upsetting you and your son to see photos of her with your husband

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son.

@Adviceseeker35 - This isn’t a boundary because you have no control over it. You cannot control other people’s actions - only your own.

You can’t stop her so stop allowing yourself to be distracted by it.

It’s a bit off topic but she’s hardly got herself a prize. Once you are divorced, he’ll have lost half his assets (because he will have seen the family assets as his) and have his child at least every other weekend. His child will probably be ambivalent (at best) about her. Plus she is so insecure that she posts poems about how strong their love is. It sounds rather tacky.

This sounds a dreadful situation but emotionally it will be easier if you let go of the fantasy that you will ever be able to control/dictate/influence what your ex and his partner do.

I’m not sure if she is callous.

She is in an official relationship with exDH and they’re not technically doing anything wrong.

I misunderstood the first time I read and thought you meant she'd shared photos of your child.

How old is your child and what does he know about your relationship? My children are all teens so would be allowed on social media and they're out and about without me, if this is your situation I'd worry that he'd simply bump into them as a couple let alone seeing photos on line.

Does he still think his parents are together? Because if he does and he sees photos or even at a later date discovers the crossover he's going to feel more betrayed and lied to.

There's a way to be open and honest with him without badmouthing each other.

I think trying to justify photos of a partner as essential to business is embarrassing but I've guessed at a couple of reasons that someone would do this. This woman has already disrespected you in the biggest way so she's unlikely to adhere to any requests to keep the relationship offline. Unless her business is howtostealahusband.co.uk?

Do your family and friends know?

At the moment it sounds like your boundaries are being set between you and your husband and you're relying on him communicating your needs and requests to the OW. I would be tempted to contact her directly and be really clear.

Also, with the divorce in mind I would definitely be keeping a record of all of this, the dates, the posts etc. So no one can gaslight you in the future for overreacting or something pathetic like that.

For your own wellbeing I would stay away from her online content. But if any of your best mates happen to stumble across her accounts you can't stop them from making comments on there or screenshotting her stuff.

Like, what is she trying to sell where it would be good for business for people to know she's broken up a marriage (yes, I know this is also the ex-husband's fault)? I'd have thought that would be terrible for anyone's brand.

I think your DH is talking shit. How can ow posting loved up stuff help her business? However, how far along is your divorce? My understanding is that it can happen pretty quickly if one admits adultery. I would focus all my efforts on getting on with the divorce if I were you OP.

They’re in a relationship now. It’s all very messy, but he’s now her boyfriend so she can post if she wants to and he’s ok with it. He should be the one considering his own child and their feelings, you can’t police it. Take a step back from checking.
The sooner you’re physically separated and out of the house the better. It must be awful still being under the same roof.

I can tell you right now that if he doesn't want to see his child every other weekend, then there in no law or ruling that can make him do so.

Many of us know this.

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son

Gently, if you’re the one refusing to divorce him and sell the house - then how long are you asking him to keep his relationship secret?

You might refuse to divorce him for another 5+ years and that means you expecting him to keep her a secret from your son for another 5 years.

What if they have a baby?

I understand you’re hurt and you’re trying to protect your son but you are risking hurting him even more.

I don’t know how old he is but the best thing you can do is say how mummy and daddy still love each other etc but that you’re separating - but look how we’re still friends, living together etc
He will then process you two gently separating.

By not saying anything you run the risk of one day him thinking his mum and dad are in a happy marriage, to the next day daddy has got a baby with someone else or have been away on trips etc together.

I think now you know they are very open about their relationship, it’s time to tell you both tell your son in an age appropriate way.

Adultery makes no difference to a divorce in the UK.

OP - how old is your son? Does he know you've split up? I'm assuming your husband has had the correct legal advice to not leave the marital home until it is sold and the divorce/finances sorted so I think the only thing to do is to push forward as fast as you can with the divorce and minimise any drama. It's not reasonable for you to have a boundary that involves other people I'm afraid.

I didn't used to think that adultery made any difference to divorce in Uk either, but then I went online to get a divorce quite recently and it is one of 3 reasons that you have to tick and it says there's a shorter time to apply for divorce if you tick the adultery reason.