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Adviceseeker35 · 29/10/2026 10:43

My husband left me February 2026 saying I made his life miserable and he didnt love me anymore. In June 2026 I discovered hed been having an affair since April 2025. We are still living together as he won't leave until we divorce and sell the house.

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son. However in the past month she's been posting on her own website about how kind he is, and photos of their dates including images of him. On Sunday she posted a poem about their long distance relationship the day after what should have been our wedding anniversary. I've asked my husband that she stops as our son knows who she is and im worried he will find it. He claims she needs it for her work and business.

I know I can't make her make it down but does anyone have any technical advice that means I could block her on my sons device.

Thank you

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moderate · 29/10/2026 10:54

Adviceseeker35 · 29/10/2026 10:43

My husband left me February 2026 saying I made his life miserable and he didnt love me anymore. In June 2026 I discovered hed been having an affair since April 2025. We are still living together as he won't leave until we divorce and sell the house.

One of my boundaries was that neither of them would post about their relationship while we still lived together with our son. However in the past month she's been posting on her own website about how kind he is, and photos of their dates including images of him. On Sunday she posted a poem about their long distance relationship the day after what should have been our wedding anniversary. I've asked my husband that she stops as our son knows who she is and im worried he will find it. He claims she needs it for her work and business.

I know I can't make her make it down but does anyone have any technical advice that means I could block her on my sons device.

Thank you

My advice would be that to block her on your son's advice would be to draw attention to it. Why would your son be looking "on her own website"?

CelticSilver · 29/10/2026 10:55

How old is your son?

jjw2002 · 29/10/2026 10:56

It would be better, if they were reasonable, that you request SHE block your son. That way your son won’t find her in his ‘blocked’ list, for example. Though this would work for social media, I don’t know about ‘her own website’

Pinadaqx2 · 29/10/2026 10:56

How old is your Son? Why can't he go live with OW until you sell the house. Hes taking the P... they are OP.

I would block her on all platforms for your own sanity. Don't mention it again to DH he's got no respect for you and that is clear. I would be calling child maintenance.

Italiangreyhound · 29/10/2026 10:57

I am so sorry.

This sounds awful.

Letstryandgetitright · 29/10/2026 10:57

Why on earth woukd she need to do this for for her work and business ? It sounds as though she is doing it to stake her claim on him. I wonder if she is unhappy about the fact he is still living in the same house as you and she is feeling insecure?
Why would your DS be looking at her website at all?

Mulledjuice · 29/10/2026 10:59

She needs to post about their relationship on her website and socials for the purposes of her work and business?

Boreded · 29/10/2026 11:03

If your son is old enough to see this he is old enough to understand his dad is a cheat.

I would tell him

Arbourimage · 29/10/2026 11:06

You can’t control what she does though, it’s not really a boundary you can set, particularly her.
Personally I don’t understand why you would go to the lengths of blocking her profile on your son’s phone. If he’s old enough to use social media he’s old enough to see his DF was happily cheating. Why would you try to protect your husband in this?

Forestoftheenchanted · 29/10/2026 11:10

Start taking pictures of your husband when he's in your home and sharing them on your own social media (public so she can see) with little quotes or nice comments and poems about him.

Obviously not really but it's the sort of thing that I would be really tempted to do just to fuck with them.

GoodGirlFaith · 29/10/2026 11:13

In my experience of this, they will do exactly as they please. When I said that it was too soon for exH to introduce our children to his new girlfriend, he did it anyway.

I would stop checking her website (I do realise how difficult this is).

I know it isn't what you asked and I appreciate it's very difficult but the sooner you properly separate, the better. I did get the the point of demanding that my exH moved out. He had told me weeks before that he was leaving me, his decision did not change and I couldn't stand cohabiting with someone who had done that to me. It's a very tough thing to live through.

With regards to your son, I would say as little as possible to him at the point but obviously make sure the knows he can approach you about anything, anytime (I am sure you do).

PressedThistle · 29/10/2026 11:13

You can't set a boundary for someone else. Confused She can post what she wants, however ill thought out it is. Would your son really go looking for her website?

Lemieux7 · 29/10/2026 11:14

Forestoftheenchanted · 29/10/2026 11:10

Start taking pictures of your husband when he's in your home and sharing them on your own social media (public so she can see) with little quotes or nice comments and poems about him.

Obviously not really but it's the sort of thing that I would be really tempted to do just to fuck with them.

lol - me too! Haha.

Lemieux7 · 29/10/2026 11:14

Also if he cheated with her, he’ll cheat on her. She’ll be the next person he gets bored of.

Noscrubss · 29/10/2026 11:16

She sounds (unsurprisingly given the circumstances) very insecure

Pumpkinsaregrowingnicely · 29/10/2026 11:19

Age depending your ds should know his df chose ow over living with his dw and dc..
Letting him live a lie thinking his df is a decent man is morally wrong imo.

trossardmartinelli · 29/10/2026 11:19

A website? Or do you mean social media?

Weeeheee · 29/10/2026 11:20

I'm sorry this is happening to you. It must be so difficult.

You can't control her, or him, but you can control you. Try not to look, as hard as it is to not.

Your XH will side with her, so don't ask him to do anything anymore, even if you feel it's in your son's best interests. He's said no already. Don't allow him, and her, to refuse you anymore.

If you're feeling you want to get a prod and poke in, then putting @Forestoftheenchanted 's idea to work might give you some satisfaction.

UnwillingAdvocate · 29/10/2026 11:22

Why are you reading her website? Surely you’d be none the wiser if you were not actively seeking it out? How is your child going to see it? Are they actively looking for her too?

OneHazelBird · 29/10/2026 11:27

How old is your son?
And is she tagging him or just posting on her story.

If they are in an official relationship, then it’s time DH speaks to his son.

You can block her from his device but then a friend might tell him etc.

Imagine how hurtful and confusing it would be to see photos of your dad with another woman or how embarrassing it is hearing it from someone else.

You and DH need to put your issues aside and tell your son asap before he finds out himself.

ThatCyanCat · 29/10/2026 11:29

I am really sorry you're going through this. I don't think that's the kind of boundary you can set, though - it's her social media account, you can't set a boundary on someone else's platform. I also don't really understand what you're hiding from your son if you and your husband are definitely split and are now just navigating the divorce and house sale. If he's old enough to potentially find her online then surely he's old enough to know the situation?

Horses7 · 29/10/2026 11:29

I’m so sorry - she sounds callous and your ex is too.
Just block and ignore - it is the only thing to do if they won’t listen to you.

Savlll · 29/10/2026 11:36

You cant tell her what to post. It isn't anything to do with you and you don't get to set any boundaries with her.
Just block her.

Absobeautely · 29/10/2026 11:39

Does your son not know you're divorcing and selling the house?

French69 · 29/10/2026 11:42

Mulledjuice · 29/10/2026 10:59

She needs to post about their relationship on her website and socials for the purposes of her work and business?

I was wondering about this. Pound to a penny she’s some sort of “lifestyle influencer” and wants to create the narrative that she has a wonderful, loving relationship (whilst carefully not mentioning her partner was married to someone else when it started).

OP - I get why you’re angry. But unfortunately I think you’re on a hiding to nothing trying to insist she takes these posts down. She didn’t care enough about someone else’s feelings to not sleep with her husband; there’s no reason to think her attitude will be any different now.