The Dating Thread 63 Crisp air & Warm ♥️🧡💛

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

If they get annoyed then that rules them out. They think you'll be exclusive before you've met??!!

I think it is too early to mention texting, but also keep an eye on whether the messaging suits your needs. There’s nothing wrong with expecting consistency and imo 5-6 days between messages would be a turn off.

Just home from a date with Mr Handy. We met for coffee/tea and i feel a little deflated. The man is absolutely gorgeous and so friendly, seems a nice guy, but not much charisma 🙁 I feel really bad saying this but I just can’t imagine sleeping with him. We had a brief hug at the end of the date and I had no desire to kiss him (although it probably wasn’t an ideal setting for that).

I have absolutely no idea what his thoughts are on me, because he may have no interest in seeing me again. But should I persevere? See if he grows on me?

I cannot stress enough how gorgeous this man is, so what’s wrong with me? Feel quite flat.

A hot guy can be boring to you and that means he isn’t hot! Nothing wrong with you, or likely even him, he’s just not the one for you

I do think sometimes a second date is worth it to just be sure, but don’t force it if there’s nothing there

coffee date secured will call him mr Sea and still waiting for Mr Fit to sort out a meet. Both seem
nice guys on messages just normal
conversation and respectful let see if there is any spark in meeting, not sure either are my type, but maybe thats a good thing

@empirebiscuits12 maybe you feel flat because he didn't give you feedback?

Exactly how I feel about Mr Unphotogenic! He's got everything going for him - it's like my body/brain's being contrary just to spite me 😂

Thanks for your comments about my date with Mr Handy last night 😊 @Nosdacariad I guess I was just meaning that I’m probably over here fretting about what to do while he’s already got an opinion and his mind made up. It’s always difficult to tell on coffee dates, I think. Although he’s been in touch this morning and we exchanged a couple of messages last night once we’d got home. I do like a man who’s a bit of a cheeky chappy but maybe he’s shy? He did seem quietly confident though? Much confusion today 😂

@beingtakenforafool good work on the 2 dates! And yes, sometimes deviating from your usual type can sometimes be a good thing 😁

Remind me, are you going to see Mr Unphotogenic again? Still loving this name 😂 And yes to the disconnect going on…it’s a strange phenomenon!

Hope everyone is good and all the illness has passed.

I have two dates with Mr Tennis tomorrow. This may be a turning point as I like him but not sure I fancy him...I'm so weird, still longing for Crashing 🛩

Two dates with Mr Tennis in one day?

Maybe it will start to progress and let you move on from crashing ☺️

im seeing Fun Bobby again this week but im trying to view it as more of a FWB thing so I dont get invested and I think that suits me ok for now

Is it Fun Bobby who couldn't finish?

Yes a daytime one then an evening one (I have Mummy duties in between).

It is Fun Bobby who couldn’t finish! I think he’s been sulking a bit about it tbh
Apart from that the rest was good though.

Ooh that sounds like it’s progressed a lot into spending a good amount of time together. Do you feel like it could be something more?

It's hard to know, this is third date.

You know when we're unsure of how an iron feels?

I have no doubt he's keen. It's nothing he has said really, what he's quietly doing.

I have some questions, the chemistry, his intellect...but he is as far as I can tell someone with responsibilities and a work ethic and kindness. Not to mention a thriving business.

We'll see.

Eta if anyone remembers Beered, reading between the lines I think he has got it on with his "friend lodger, would never be anything between us" which goes to show deciding not to sleep with him unless she moved out was right 😁

I think third date can be quite telling so hopefully you will be clearer afterwards.

on another note what does everyone think about messaging etc after the first couple of weeks, I’ve noticed mine and Fun Bobbys has dropped off quite a lot (3 weeks since matching and 4 dates in) but I wonder if it’s just natural for it to become less intense?

How intense was it before?

Well when I say intense I mean just a bit more flirty and funny and sharing a bit more about ourselves . This week we’ve just briefly checked in every day and agreed the next time we are seeing eachother (but I did see him on Monday)

I'm not sure but you have another date lined up so that must be good?

Yes I think maybe I just worry about these things too much! 😂

@Ilovelurchers @MsJinks how are you doing lovelies?

Do you think he’s maybe feeling a bit sheepish about what happened? And you’ve perhaps subconsciously pulled back because it’s been on your mind, and it’s just a cycle between you of pulling back now?

Get your flirt on and see how he responds! 🥰

2 dates in a day, the keenness is exciting @Nosdacariad! He’s obviously very into you, amazing work! And sounds like lots of green flags also.

Just as well you trusted your guy with Beered, and it’s paved the way for something and someone better.

Mr Handy is very slowly getting his flirt on via messages. He’s a massive tea lover and seems to mention it a lot 😂 Well, he cheekily asked me to go to his to make a cup of tea 🙈 This is the extent of the flirting from him and he seems to completely miss it from me. But I’m very curious about him. I might ask if he wants to meet again.

@empirebiscuits12 so long as he doesn't ask you to make him a 🥪