There We Are Then - part 4, but episode 278946, probably.

[mummy917]

For anyone who is still offering messages of hope, wisdom and general loveliness 🥰

Also. Can you find a way of recording the conversations next time. An old iphone that you don't use? Or your tablet?

This... with knobs on.

There's no need to record conversations. Just tell him that you will only have a phone call if there is a life and death situation regarding the children. Advise him to use email only to contact you, since he refuses to use a parenting app. I heartily recommend the never-speaking-to-him-again approach. So much peace.

My son must’ve let slip to him that I’m going out this weekend and that I’m staying out on Saturday night and I’ve had the 3rd degree via text (none of which I’ve responded to). Part of me wishes I was staying in some luxurious hotel with a hot, rich man, but I’m going for bottomless brunch and then staying in a travel lodge with my friends rather than getting Ubers an hour back home. I don’t feel like I need to justify it with any response. It’s none of his business anymore.

Exactly so - what a colossal cheek to even ask you about it 😡

Just tell him you're getting an all-night tattoo.

🤣🤣🤣 absolutely love this

What an earth did he say? The mind boggles. I don’t see what he possibly had to say about something that’s none of his business whatsoever.

”You forgot to mention you were staying out Saturday night. Are you staying somewhere local, incase I need to contact you about the kids? I have Ellie’s (not her real name) number still, if I can’t get hold of you and it’s urgent. I don’t understand why you didn’t tell me you were staying out, it seems out of character for you to stay out rather than just going home. All these bank shifts must be coming in handy!”

The slimy, sarky little shit.

They're his kids. I'm sure he can cope with whatever crops up.

Is he suggesting he will never go far from the kids in case something crops up? No holidays?

Apart from anything else, all he needs is your mobile - which he has.

seems out of character for you to stay out

So he knows that you normally don't get any time to yourself? Controlling c that he is.

He has absolutely no right whatsoever to ask you what you’re doing. But how the tables have turned. He’s sensing you’re out of reach now. Your silence will drive him mad.

HA. OP You MUST enjoy this. Look at him absolutely panicking. Sorry I thought you were the controlling one?!

You're doing this all wrong OP. It’s HIM who is supposed to be released from your control and live a life of single freedom. YOU are supposed to stay at home, provide him with things he needs and be there at home where he left you whenever he needs extra help or more time off.

“Not to worry—they’ll be with their capable (snort) father while I’m away, and you can always lean on your mum if necessary.”

I just wouldn’t reply. That’s the best reply as it will drive him absolutely mad. Oh how the tables have turned.

Indeed. OP is at bottomless brunch and Twattoo is home alone with 4 kids and no pennies to rub together. This can’t be the footloose single life he envisioned.

I mean, it's always been obvious that he was projecting - that HE is the one who was/is busily trying to control you, not the other way around.

This is 100% evidence of this.

How dare he?! Why would you need to tell him where you are sleeping?! And to try to guilt trip you implying you're not being the usual dependable mum etc. He has your mobile number and that's enough. Cheeky twat. Well done for not replying.

I’m so conflicted, I’d actually be inclined to say I always have my phone with me for emergencies! But I also think the silence is good too, let him fill in the gaps 😝

If you remind him that you have your mobile phone for emergencies, I guarantee that he will fabricate an “emergency “.

I’ve got no intention whatsoever to reply to him. The audacity of him is half funny and half infuriating, but not enough for me to want to respond to him.

Yes. The sanctimonious little shit would try to spoil @mummy917 's time away.

And the “you forgot to mention”…. No I didn’t forget, I just don’t tell you about my life because it’s none of your business! These men literally don’t have any shame whatsoever.