Partner says I am too vanilla and expects porn-style sex

[Mummysclubhouse]

I don’t even know how to write this, how to word it etc

Been with partner 13 years, 3 kids, ones on the autisim pathway.

sex life is usually ok, not great but as can be expected with 3 kids.
For a while he’s been on my case that I’m not exciting enough or I don’t surprise him enough. Basically I’m too vanilla for him and he wants more exciting stuff .

the thing is , I’ve tried to explain to him, look we have 3 kids , I can do things as and when the situation is right but you have to understand I’m a mum First and they come before anything.

When I say tbis I’m usually met with ‘so there’s time we’re you could do loads of things’

🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

He.does.NOT.listen!!!
i think it’s cos he’s watched porn most of his adult life and obviously it’s very different for them. I’ve said porn is fake.
I am not quite sure what he means also? Unless he wants me to give him a full role play upstairs while the kids are downstairs?
My youngest is on the pathway and he is hard work. He doesn’t sleep, doesn’t eat , general autistic traits and is hard. When he finally gets down to sleep the lash thing I want to do is prance around pretending I’m some porn star for him.

this is what he means by ‘there has been loads of times you can do stuff’

It used to bother me but after him huffing around all morning cos I didn’t give in to his advances or hints last night (had a crap day my 3yo has been lashing out loads, I have a split lip!)
Ive literally gave him an ultimatum, either start being more realistic and realise life isn’t a porn video and I am not a porn star or we split , we co parent and you find yourself a nice woman who has no kids who can be your personal porn star 24/7

He hasn’t replied yet and don’t even care if he doesn’t but it’s getting too much now and quite frankly gives me the ick and makes me not want to go anywhere near him!!!

sorry this is long but just wanted to see if anyone had anything similar happen or is it just me who is in a shit show 😂

also sorry , he has been known to talk to other women etc if he feels his needs aren’t met

So this man who ignores you for a day if you fart in your sleep also thinks you should be fantasising about fucking his stepdad to turn him on?

Do you know how unhinged this all sounds @Mummysclubhouse?

Oh yuck. Leave him. Any man who wanted me to sleep with someone else would be kicked out. He would disgust me and there’d be no going back. He doesn’t respect you.

The man’s a sleaze. You take him off OP’s hands and sleep with his step dad if you think he’s worth compromising for.

Keep on farting OP, the smellier the better!

Tell him you’d like to try being a dominatrix, dress up in latex and whip him whilst he does all the housework.

on a serious note, my ex was like this and it was only when I left I realtor was sexual abuse, ignoring you for sex is coercive behaviour.

Every fucker farts. Where do you want her to do it if not her own house?

OP, he's revolting. Tell him he makes your vagina clamp shut and it's all his fault. Then run!

He’s a gross immature twat. Feel free to go.