Do you check your husband/partner’s phone?

[Marissa270]

Does anyone check their husband/partner’s phone? Is this considered normal and for the ones that do are your husbands ok with it? Thanks!

Absolutely not. I don't open his mail either.

No! Only times i’ve ever seen his messages they are so boring. Just ‘what time shall we meet up’ or ‘beer?’

Never have. Not once. Can't be arsed with all that. I sometimes think if youre checking your partners phone, that the trust is gone but thats just my opinion.

Wouldn't dream of it. Same with post.

No, I'd consider that a massive invasion of privacy and would not expect him to be ok with it, but I have no reason not to trust him - if I suspected he were cheating I might be tempted to do it.

Not once. There is either trust or there is not.

No as I wouldn’t dream of it. I know his PIN and he knows mine so if I ask him to look for something he can and vice versa but I would never look and neither would he.

Had too much of that in a previous toxic relationship. Never again!

Personally I don’t but most of my friends do and tell me I’m crazy not to. I just believe if there’s no trust you shouldn’t be in the relationship honestly

I don’t check his phone.

he does sometimes hand me his phone and ask me to do something for him. I might see things when that happens, but I am not seeking them out

we both just open all the mail when it arrives unless an item looks particularly personal like a birthday card. We are far too busy to worry about who opens which bill.

No, don’t look at his emails or open his post either

Never. Why would I? Plus, I don't know his pass code. (And he doesn't know mine, nor would he check mine).
Obviously, don't open his mail.
A mobile phone is someone's personal property - it would be the modern version of reading their diary!

No. I might glance at it if someone phones him and he’s not in the room, to see if it’s one of his adult DC. Then I’ll answer it / shout for him / ignore it as appropriate at the time.

I think we’re pretty normal, really.

Yes but he’s open with his phone. He’s bad at communicating plans so sometimes I go to the source and see what has actually been said.

We don’t have trust issues though and I’m not doing it to catch him out. I’m also honest and will do it right in front of him.

My emails are logged onto his laptop and when he’s sorting out life admin that requires an email to my account he log on and do it for me without me knowing. But we’ve always been like that and trust each other.

I find it strange people feel so strongly over privacy between them and their partner. I share my life with DH, children, finances. We don’t keep secrets. I wouldn’t like it if he was reading my messages behind my back but if I’m laughing at a message he’ll often pick up my phone after to see what was so funny. I don’t care. Means I don’t have to explain the joke!

Absolutely not. If there’s no trust in a relationship then it’s over. It’s such an invasion of privacy.

No I never have and never will. The only time I’ve ever checked a partners phone was when I was in an unhealthy, toxic relationship in my late teens/early 20s. If I felt the need to snoop through my husbands private phone it would be a huge indicator that our relationship wasn’t ok.

Of course not.

No I don’t and never have. I have his phone password and he has mine but only for potential emergencies.

No… I don’t need to know that he ordered charcoal and new toothpaste and there’s nothing else on there lol.

We have access to each other emails, bank accounts etc though. We pretty much share everything.

No, of course not. That's like reading someone's mail, an unforgiveable intrusion.

Any man who did that to me would find their arse on the pavement pretty quickly.

If I couldn't trust them, they'd already be history so there would be no need.

No, i have no reason to. Why on earth would I?
If you don't trust your husband and think you have to check his phone you have more important issues

Of course not and I wouldn't know how to has don't know his PIN. I'd be livid if someone was snooping on mine or considered that to be a reasonable thing to do. Reminds me of couples who had shared email accounts.

My phone has my work Teams and email on. I would be seriously unimpressed with any partner who went into it!

No, I ask to use his phone sometimes to google things and he gives it willingly. He uses my computer to watch TV which is linked to my Facebook, WhatsApp etc. so we could check them if we wanted. But we trust each other so don’t want to. If he actually asked me if he could check I wouldn’t be very impressed as I don’t give him any reason to think I’m hiding anything

No. But he has offered on the couple of times I’ve challenged his behaviour. I know his code and I believe he would let me if I took him up on the offer to look

Nope.