Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

Such an abnormal reaction from your partner, you need to get your son away from him as he’s not safe to be around young children from what you have posted here.

He’s 2..he accidentally hit the tv , but even if he had whacked it, he’s 2. He would not foresee consequences. That’s how children discover stuff . They are born knowing nothing. Just have a few reflexes once essential for survival.

Nice if we can guide them away from learning so dramatically, but at the end of the day, …he’s 2. And it was an accident.

I’d have laughed to myself and ordered a new tv .

How childish. This I think will be just the tip of the iceberg. Be careful and keep your son safe.

Something about your husbands actions have made my blood run cold. It feels extremely violent

Awful! Awful! Awful!.
Completely unacceptable for him to behave like this. Just shows his character and it's not that of a loving caregiver.

Run, right now - not tomorrow or the next day, but NOW. If this ( not really a) man inflicts destruction on a toddler’s precious item simply because of an accident , and then claims other people he hangs out with think it’s funny , either be prepared for you AND your young son to spend your lives treading on eggshells to avoid poking the bear - or know that it could ( and most likely will) be you or your baby the target next. He has zero control, empathy, maturity; and not only has he shown he is incapable of understanding that children make mistakes- but also that he clearly found it funny and took pleasure in actively hurting your child ( hurt feelings and emotions can sometimes do even more damage than physical retribution).

You know in your heart that you should not stay with this man. Your son deserves better than this man as his main male role model, and you and your son will be safer and happier away from him.

My son broke the tv when he was 2. It was brand you. he took a toy car and threw at the tv. I told him off gently but it never occurred to me to take revenge on him. This is totally unacceptable and a an absolute red flag. I dont easily gets shocked but your story is wild.

I wonder how your partner would have reacted if it was you who had broken the tv?
It doesn’t bear thinking about, get out of this relationship now and don’t look back💐

I can't help thinking that this cruel, immature, selfish man could just as easily have done this in front of your son. Get him gone now! You said he moved in with you? Sell up, get a new rental, whatever, but move on

That is appalling behaviour and the fact that he doesn’t realise it would seriously concern me!

Leave him, he's not fit to be a parent. We all get annoyed when kids break things, but breaking something of theirs in retaliation is unhinged. It also wouldn't teach anything to kids except that it's actually okay to destroy other peoples' property.

So glad you have left. Please don;t listen to his apologies or his assurances that it will never happen again because it will. It is his nature and he won't change.

Not speaking to him but hiding out at your mum and dads while he performs remorse…
i hate to say it but I suspect you’ll be reconciled by weekend.

OP. hope you and yours are OK .

Is this you Katy? if so could your parents help you to get away from this man with your son as he (the dad) has serious mental issues.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/parenting/5525918-feeling-so-sad-for-my-son-whose-dad-does-not-give-a-fk#:~:text=dad%20does%20not-,give%20a,-f^*k%204

So glad you are at parents safe.

That was absolutely shocking behaviour from him.

You haven't been negligent, kids play and accidents happen. I hope you will end the relationship and not allow him back ever, because what could happen next time.

He has shown himself to be an unreasonable and violent man incapable on rational reaction or being able to control his temper. He takes pleasure from hurting a two year old, Leave, this will almost certainly escalate

edit just seen you have left. Well done and stay safe

What a despicable man.

I would break something of his and see how he likes it.

Put it in writing to him. Write what happened. Tell him it’s your son’s property, he has intentionally destroyed it in a rage. You’re worried about 1. His anger management and 2. He needs to replace the property and this is criminal damage.
this will be good evidence for you when you need it later in family courts.