Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

You put your child above your desire for an arsehole and leave the relationship.

I am very sorry to read about this horrible incident.
He is violent.
You must leave.
Your DS will be OK and so will you.

Your child is two. You can still protect him from your arsehole of a husband. He will not change. A man who destroys a toddlers toy in a fit of rage is not a man to stay with.

You have a responsibility as his mother to safeguard your baby.

He's violent. it was the pool table today, it's only a matter of time until it's you or your son

OP HERE...

I know everyone is right, I have never experienced any kind of violence but his temper is majorly concerning to me. My son is my priority and I will do anything for him.

I mention that we haven't lived together till recently which is when the cracks have started to form.

I plan to go to my parents tomorrow for a while

Thanks for the honesty, I have spoken to friends about this but sometimes it's good to get a non bias opinion.

Leave your partner

Doing it in a fit of frustration/rage is bad enough. His reaction, and his friends finding it funny?

Please, please take care of both of you and leave. It will be the best thing you can do for your little one and yourself.

Leave and protect your son, sending support, I've been there.

This

‘Sad for your son’ …. Omg get a grip, your poor little boy, his father is disgusting.

Leave him as a matter of absolute urgency.

Leave him, and do not allow him unsupervised access to your child.

If you stay, these things will get worse.

This level of aggression isn’t normal. Please leave.

You've a way out go to your parents.
It won't be long before the punching of things.
And that moves on to you come time and it will happen.
Men such as your partner always have an out to justify their violence/intimidation.
Lastly don't fall for the..it wont happen again.

Leave!
If he is doing this over a 2 year olds behaviour I dread to think what he would do to an older child.

So sorry OP. Get out quickly and efficiently, don’t ever go back. What’s most chilling is him smashing it the next morning, rather than at the time (which would be vile too, but I can see it happening in a rage). To do it when you’ve slept takes a particularly unhinged person. Get away from him, document everything and never allow a single regret to take root.

Another one saying - you leave.
What sort of life will your poor son have if you continue to live with this abusive arsehole?

OMG he sounds really nasty. Please don't stay with this man.

Leave, it will escalate. Just out of interest why did you not live together before? Did that have anything to do with his behaviour? Is he your sons biological dad?

I beg you not to let this man treat your son so badly ever again. My heart breaks for him. Do not stay with this monster. The fact it was premeditated and done the next day makes it even worse.

When I was a kid my dad destroyed my toys, I think to hurt my mum. I've had friends whose dads did the same.

I always thought it was just my dad being a psycho. It's such a weird thing to be common.

Exactly this.

He’s a horrible nasty cunt and if you stay not only will it continue but your son will copy him and end up the same

He's vile. An abuser. Leave before he hurts someone.

It's not common. It is, however, highly abusive.

Your partner has anger issues and is unable to work out the rationale and common sense behind the previous events. He totally overacted with the pool table, which is especially concerning whn he's aiming his aggression at a small child who made a mistake.
Are you sure that you want this man in your children's and your life?