Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

Why would a child of 2 want a pool table anyway? Ridiculous.

Leave him. This one piece of behaviour is all you need.

OP please leave this man. He’s a dangerous, violent man.
i actually got a knot in my stomach reading your post. My baby is almost 2 and I can’t imagine any right-minded person doing this to their toys. And then for your baby to be upset over their toy. And your husband’s mates also laughing at it????
Honestly, these type of people are the reason the world is in such a mess - aggressive, non-empathetic, cruel.
Has there been any similar type of behaviour from your husband? This doesn’t sound like a once-off. It sounds like it’s his character.
i would not leave my son anywhere near this man. Please leave him, for the sake of your son.

P.S. I read your other post saying you are concerned about his temper.
i wanted to add - I have a sibling with an aggressive temper and has yelled at his son since he was small. The child is a teen now and had terrible anxiety growing up and was diagnosed ADHD.
You don’t have to hit a child to cause lasting damage

Did you get to your parents' house OP?

Are you and your son safe?

He's a twat if he can't control his behaviour over an accident what's he going to be like when your son gets older and does something deliberately

This rings every alarm bell. You need to get the hell out of there before he moves onto doing more than smashing up children's toys. You need to protect your son and yourself.

Please leave. From one girl trapped with a horrid life to another… leave whilst your little person is still wee enough not to know x

Disgusting. Your partner's a bully and I feel sorry for your son. Think careful on how you respond to this or future events, if there are any. Your son will remember if his mother put up with this behaviour or enabled it.

This is the only answer you need.

This l would worry about your DS and your safety; if your DP had witnessed the accident how would he have reacted, hit your DS ? You need to protect your DS, there are enough instances in the news where children are abused and killed, tell your DP that you want him out.

Seriously? You're on here asking what to do as you're "sad" for your son?! Get rid of the "partner". What an absolute vile excuse for a human being. Get your son and yourself away from this "man" ASAP before he ends up hurting your son!

I would reasonably guess it was the DF’s idea to supply his 2 yearold with a pool table a a first step towards introducing DS to manly sports.
I agree however that giving a very young child access to stick is asking for trouble

Abit unhinged, it was accidental damage, not reasonable to break child's toy as punishment.

His son hurt his feelings accidently by damaging his toy.

His response is to hurt his toddler son on purpose? By destroying his toy.

He thinks its hilarious? And boasted to his mates?

And you want to know what to do? You leave him, quickly.

Wow! What have I just read! @Katie660 this can’t be true, no normal human being would be so cruel to their child. He’s absolutely disgusting - get rid of him!

This is terrible behaviour!! My son around the same age "threw" a toy by accident and it hit the TV smashing it well not smashing it but the screen was all over the place! I didn't get angry and neither did his dad we just told him you cannot throw things esp towards the TV lol. It's not the end of the world it's a TV for goodness sake! My son has done this twice and by accident as children are children it was not deliberate at all! Getting angry over a TV is awful amd to smash up his toy is down right disturbed behaviour......we are talking about a television here.....and you need to make that clear your child is a child they do things spontaneous and at 2 they are wild fire lol. Hope you feel better soon

I am at my parents, thank you...

I believe he is now feeling embarrassed of his actions....

I've had a lot of responses on here and it's hard to respond to everyone...
I thank everyone for their concern. I am not planning on talking to him and I am very happy and cosy at my parents

As for the people concerned about the pool cue/table he has been obsessed with pool since he first saw it..... he is able to pot a ball when setup and it brings him great joy. The damage to the TV was out of character and the que is only 40cm long, ie. it is made for toddlers... if anyone cares to look up jude owens then they will see toddlers can play

How nice that you are happy and cosy.

Ignore any of those comments blaming your little boy.

I’m glad you are ok, please don’t fall for his grovelling and begging. Stay cosy and safe at your parents. Have they asked you what’s happened?

I cannot believe the health and safety crew were berating you so much for a toddler using a toddler toy. On a positive note, he sounds like he has excellent hand to eye coordination. Let him thrive please away from his dad x

LEAVE HIM It will only get worse for your son in the future. Please protect him.

I am so glad that you and your son are safe and at your parents. Your partner will now be giving you all the "right" messages about how bad he feels, he doesn't know why, being embarrassed and anything to guilt you into thinking your reaction is not reasonable etc. BUT before you do anything please reflect and be honest about the "cracks" you mentioned that started when he moved in with you.

His actions were absolutely out of the bounds of what would be acceptable even in a one off fit of rage / loss of control (and that would be bad enough).

He slept on it and took revenge and then showed no remorse but in fact pride and laughed (not one of those things is embarrassment).

As I said there is lots of focus on the fact your child is only 2 but with this level of anger and cruelty it can escalate, and I do wonder how he would deal with an older child, when destroying a toy doesn't cut it?

Please take care of yourself and your son and keep safe with people you trust.

Also as PP mentioned ignore all the comments about the size of the cue/ pool table etc. It was very clear from your posts that this is a tiny little play table for little ones.

I'd be really careful about him having any kind of unsupervised contact too. What's he going to do when you're not there?

Youre SAD? You should be TERRIFIED for your little boy ...and yourself. He does this to punish a child who is not much more than a baby? The man is an abuser and this is only the beginning. What will he do as your little one grows and goes through the normal phases of childhood misdemeanors?
Get him out of your lives...and quickly!

So pleased you got away. I hope you think seriously about leaving him for both the safety of your son and yourself. Your son has no blame in this, he is only two years old. Have a chilled day today and rest. Sending you and your son best wishes for the future.