Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

Why is everyone talking about the two-year-olds? The real problem is your partner heis not a partner just an oaf who treats a tiny little child is an equal opponent. Pathetic. I’m glad you’re going to stay with your mum.

Others have said this, but your partner is a violent cunt. Get out, and get rid. For your safety and that of your son.

I think I'll just save this so I can paste it in where needed

Why do you stay?

Leave and never go back
Men like that only get worse.

It's quite possible she didn’t live with her child's father until recently. You don't have to live with someone to get pregnant. It's not at all confusing.

100 per cent you need to go.

But if you are honest with yourself there must have been signs before.

I say this kindly but women do themselves no favours by getting together with sub standard men.

And men's attitudes won't get better while women tolerate sub standard men.

None of this remotely excuses your man's awful behaviour but your story exemplifies this wider truth.

Oh my god. Have there seriously been no red flags until now? I wouldn't believe so. This would be the end for me.

Also not too important but a baby pool set? The idea of such a thing makes me laugh 😂

Just adding my voice to the choir, your partner's behaviour is inexcusable. I'd consider living apart again.

The shitty thing is that a bad temper remains a problem even if you split from him, since unless he blows up spectacularly before witnesses he'll have the right to to see his son, including by himself.

But actually it's the vindictiveness and lack of remorse that I find even more worrying than the violence. He din't smash the pool table in a temper, if I read you right, he thought about it and decided this was an appropriate punishment?!

Pretty vile. And what sort of friends has he got who think this is funny?

Leave, is it your house or is his name also on the tenancy/mortgage. If he has no rights to be there you can kick him out.

This was my first thought. You need to leave now before his behaviour escalates. You and your son are in danger.

Save your son the heartbreak of an abusive and unloving “father”, and leave that man before your son becomes old enough to be aware of your partners hateful nature OP.

What a lovely father he is! His son is 2, was no one watching what he was doing to cause this much damage?

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

He retaliated against a 2 year old baby! You need to leave immediately.. X

Omg op how awful your husband is a twat how can he do this over an accident if he’s willing to break his toy to retaliate he needs mental health care. Op a 2 year old will do other things over time imagine if he did something deliberately he would probably get a beating. I hope you get out for good before he does something much worse a tv can easily be replaced. Op his mates are all cunts too how can they think this is acceptable get out while you can op.

Leave immediately. He sounds unhinged.

My eldest accidentally broke the tv doing a similar thing when he was little. He was horrified. I had a conversation with him about being careful and then said we now don’t have a tv for a while.

His Dad went a bought us a new one. Wasn’t ideal but he never did it again.

Getting angry with a child who didn’t mean to do something is OTT. Breaking his toy is foul behaviour. Has he done this type of thing before? Or had this reaction?

I urge you to contact women's aid to get advice about leaving this man. Your child is two years old. He did not do this on purpose and at 2 years old, cannot be held responsible for his actions.

If you do not make it plain that this is unacceptable behaviour, what will this immature man do next?

Please do not tell him that you are getting advice as studies have shown that this is the danger zone for women. Many men become abusive as they feel they are losing control.

What do you do? Put the whole selfish chilish man in the bin. Your poor wee son.

Glad you're getting you and your boy away from him.
He sounds dangerous. And childish.
Good luck

Well if you've not had any previous incidences, this is a wake up call to what kind of man you are with. Don't let matters slide. Get yourself out of this relationship asap as everyone else suggests. btw have you household insurance?

What a bastard.
It was a freak accident, buy him a new pool table and ltb. He's only 2 poor little one.
Adults need to supervise and take responsibility for these things. No playing with the pool cue around the tv in future.

Call the police as that’s scary and domestic violence and make him leave !! Do you think that is far on your child ? Growing up around an awful guy like that ? What will he do if your son accidentally breaks something else ? How long until he hits you or worse your child ?

I’m in disbelief that anyone could do this. How fucking evil

Slap some sense into the idiot. Tell him to confess and apologise to your son and make him replace the toy. Once thats done give him the silent treatment and refuse to do anything for him until he is genuinely sorry, once he gets hungry and realises he has run out of clean clothes he'll come crawling back. Make it very clear that he was unreasonable and unloving. Any dad who deliberately and unashamedly destroys their childs toys doesn't deserve kids.

Not uncommon, sadly. Someone shared a story on here once of a guy who deliberately popped his toddler's balloon and gloated about it because the child accidentally broke something. My father once took the hat I was wearing off my head (we were at an event and they were being given out to all children) and threw it in the bin because I didn't want to be photographed.

Some people think they own their children, and by extension their children's possessions, and they have no maturity, grace or just common decency, so parenting to them is an adversarial game of winning and losing, and if a child who doesn't know any better makes a mistake, it's totally their right to destroy that child's belongings... knowing full well the child can't replace them.