Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

This is the only answer you need.

This man is abusive and cruel. You and your DC deserve and need better.

Leave him. Is it his kid?

Take this as your warning sign to leave before it’s you or your boy that is being ‘smashed’. He's shown you who he is, believe him.

edited to add - having read further, I’m assuming from your answers he is not the child’s father, in which case run even faster and don’t be so fast to bring an unknown stranger into your child’s life next time.

Please get yourself and your son away from this awful man. His reaction is bad enough on his own but now with time to reflect he still can't see how wrong he is. There is no hope, none.

This! You put your child first and leave now.

If you stay, eventually it won't just be your son's pool table that is smashed to pieces, it will be your son.
If you need support and advice, contact the NSPCC on 0808 800 5000.

Your partner is vindictive and violent.

He smashed a 2 year old's gift the next day after an accident. He wants your kid to hurt.

Get the hell out.

OP please leave.
2 year olds have accidents - they all do, whether it's spilling a cup of water or being careless with a cue.
Your DH's reaction is awful and shows he is unfit for parenting. Cruel, over the top, insensitive, attention seeking. He's dreadful.

Please don't let your son grow up with this example of manhood.

Leave him.

He's violent and behaved ridiculously.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy.

Confused.

His own child?

Yet you say he's just started living with you.

Which is it- or is it both?

Is he your child's bio father or not?

@Katie660 I’m so sorry. This is not acceptable. It wouldn’t be acceptable if anyone had broken the TV. It being your child’s toy that got smashed in ‘revenge’ makes it seem even worse - but the fact is the breakage was an accident. The ‘revenge’ was a calculated decision by a so-called adult!

i know you are sad for your son but what about you?

If someone had told you before you met him that he could do something like this, you’d have kept well clear of him I’m sure.

You don’t want this kind of role model for your child, that’s for sure.

I genuinely hate my (fellow) men when I read this. Christ, how much is a TV - a few hundred.

There is no excuse, of course.

I'm hearing the words "look what you made me do"

Kick him out and keep safe..

LEAVE

Next time it may be your son that he smashes. Your son needs you to keep him from harms way and his dad is dangerous, are you willing to take that risk ?

You leave. If this is genuinely what his friends are saying, that is worrying. Your child is only 2. Please seek help in real life.

Years ago,my Dad got a new TV,with Avatar on Blu ray and was SO excited as never treats himself.

Literally 2 weeks later DS then aged 4 accidentally hit it with a toy guitar and cracked the screen.I was mortified,DS was so upset...my Dad declared accidents as part of family life and there was no need for drama.

I could see he was gutted but didnt complain or get angry.

Yr DH is an asshole.

3 points I see..... The cracks appeared after you started living together....he broke the pool cue the following day....and he laughed with his friends about smashing the toy. All of these points show he has no real commitment or interest in you as a family. A loving partner or father couldn't behave like that. He doesn't want to be with you OP, and he doesn't want to be a father. Please consider your future very carefully.

This is so sad 😔
My mum always had a bit of a temper issue and would lash out at home if something hadn't gone right at work. She once broke one of my toys.
What I want to say is that this is worrying your partner can't control his temper but it is great your son has a loving and caring mum - you'll always be able to look out for him.

I wouldn’t leave my son with a man with that level of malice and aggression in him. Get your ducks in a row as I think it is time to leave. I’m so sorry you are going through this x

That’s horrendous. Leave the bully.

That's awful, really awful. It shows potential to get worse. My son, similar age, broke the tv, when he was watching Planes, and released his own plane toy which of course missed the wall and hit the tv slap bang in the middle. I'm a man- not that that is relevant really as no parent should act like that- and if I'm honest I was pretty pissed off as that was £500 or £750 or whatever lost- but I just said something like 'Be Careful!' You've broken the tv!' But that was it, no more. I can't imagine breaking his toys out of 'revenge', and if I had and I told my friends, well, I wouldn't have any friends any more. This is absolutely awful behaviour, beyond the pale.

Also, we now laugh about the broken tv. I doubt your child will laugh about Daddy breaking his toys on purpose because he had an accident aged 2

When someone shows you who they are, believe them!

At a similar age my DD "posted" barbies shoes into my (really expensive) multi change CD player.

Of course I was annoyed - who wouldn't be. I may have sworn to DW later.

But that is the absolute limit.

I feel sorry for your son. Not just for his rotten apple of a father.

Do they make pool cues for 2 year olds?!