Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

You leave.
If you tolerate this it will only get worse

He’s a cunt. The baby is two years old.

OP have you talked to anyone IRL about this? You're about to get a flood (myself included) of people gently letting you know that's not normal, abusive and just down right disgusting behaviour. If you have a supporting family, I'd urge you to get their views and rally them around you.

Where do his boundaries lie? He physically retaliated to emotionally hurt a 2 year old. If he had been the one accidentally hit with the pool cue, would he have hit back?

Honestly, you need to leave this man. No well adjusted adult needs to be told that behaving like that is wrong. The only ones who do are the abusers.

Well, I know what I’d have been tempted to do with the pool queue. However, you leave him. Because he’s a cunt. That’s it, everything else will sort itself out after but your son’s dad has just shown you what he thinks to his TWO year old son.

Well he's either an absolute arsehole or has absolutely zero understanding of child development - or possibly both. None of these options sound good if he is to be in your child's life.

Wow that's dreadful, please don't let him be around your son alone, I'm sorry you've had to witness this x

You are sad for your son?

SAD? just sad???

Id be petrified knowing the father id given my son. And id leave ASAP.

Also, if his friends really do condone his actions, then he isn't getting any sort of barometer of what is normal. What a complete tool.

He sounds like an angry, spiteful man who is laughing about deliberately upsetting a 2 year old.

It's unfortunate the tv got broken but it was an accident. How closely was your 2 year old being supervised? At that age they still need an adult close by to stop mistakes like that happening.

However, the TV and how it got broken aren't your main concern here. Leaving this horrible bully and keeping you and your child safe are what you need to focus on.

That’s a bit harsh. She is in shock.

And, her husband is the one who has given her son that father, not the OP.

Keeping your son in this environment is also a form of abuse. You choose to stay with a volatile and abuse man, your two year old doesn’t have that choice.

Jeez, why are you still there? Get the hell out of there! This man is not a nice person, and it will only get worse.

I’m glad your son didn’t witness the violence, but it was well out of proportion to the broken tv. Ok to be cross , but who wakes up and smashes a kids toy? Your child is two! A baby. It was an accident!

Take heed and listen. If he can react like this to an accident, what more is he capable of?

Even if he’d been sorry I would have worried about his temper. The fact he’s not even sorry? Horrific. Leave him for your sake and your son’s.

Your partner’s behaviour was appalling - vicious, spiteful and abusive. I would be very worried about what else he might do if this is how he reacts to things done by your toddler.

So what if in the future it's not a toy or object, its your face or your son? Abuse escalates OP.

I feel sick reading that. Please take on board what everyone is saying. He’s vile.

Sadly, violence towards things is the start of a path that leads to violence toward you or your child. You need to treat it with that level of seriousness.

Breaking the toy of a child who is little more than a baby as revenge for a play accident points towards him being a terrible father. Imagine how he might react to something broken by an older child or teen. Anyone who can laugh at the thought of inflicting upset on their tiny child is some sort of sociopath.

Yep, that's a leaving offence for me.

Wow…..absolute wanker.
our ds accidentally smashed our tv when he was around your DCs age and not once did I think about breaking something what was his as that would be one of the shittiest things to do. Honestly, not sure I could see a future with someone unable to control their anger like that. Not sure I’d feel like my ds would be safe with him.

Oh god that’s horrific. Is your partner your little boy’s dad?? He’s only two years old. This really isn’t normal and you need to leave this man. I feel sad for your soon too :(

I would leave over this. He’s responding that way to a 2 year old the next day after it happened so he clearly can’t control his anger well and can’t reason what is an appropriate response. He clearly thinks it’s funny to tell his friends about it instead of being embarrassed. Not the sort of person I’d want around my kids.

Apologies, I have re-read the post and note that he is!! How horrific. I’m really sorry OP, please leave this man and I hope you have other family to stay with and support you

You're sad? I'd be fucking livid! I honestly don't think I could stay with a man who did that. He's a prick.