Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

Wow, hindsight is a wonderful thing isn’t it? Kids are unpredictable and boisterous at that age fgs! Stop being so high and mighty!

What a knob of a man

Accidents happen. He will have learned from it. Hes 2. Their brains haven’t developed to foresee potential consequences,

They aren't mini adults. His brain is nowhere near developed enough..he hasn’t even experienced all emotions yet.
whereas the partner is an a’ hole , old enough to know better.

He doesn’t deserve to be near children

Sad for your son?? You need to be scared for your son. You need to protect him by getting the abusive dickhead out of both of your lives asap.

It wouldn’t necessarily protect him as he would have the right to see the child alone , even to have him 50:50 if he wanted.

The patriarchy is strong and Men’s Rights got this fixed about 10 years ago. In law mother’s are exchangeable with pretty abusive men and a young child’s possible attachment disorder after taking a small child away from her counts for nothing.

OP make sure you get advice from Women’s Aid before doing anything if you want to leave.

You leave.
When someone tells you who they are…listen!

And he didn't do this in the heat of the moment (which would not be justifiable, either) but he deliberately did it the following day. That's really evil.

Sorry, but which one’s the toddler ? The one who had the accident or the one who couldn’t control his temper, threw a massive tantrum and broke something on purpose …?

Oh for heavens sake.

i think it sounds scary. No adult should be breaking a two year old baby’s toy at any time, even in the heat of the moment. But to do the the morning after … that is scary.

Your son does not need this in his life and neither do you. Your so called partner has shown you his true colours, believe him.

If your son was 15 and it was deliberate, I could see some sort of logic. Then a punishment would be suitable. But not at two years old. Your partner sounds unhinged - he clearly has zero understanding of your son’s development and parenting in general. I think it would be wise to consider leaving as others have said and to speak to family / friends in real life.
I don’t think a pool cue is a suitable toy for a child at 2, the risk of injury or accident is huge and honestly that was poor judgement aswell whoever gave that to him.
That said , this situation has shown you the true colours of your partner and how angry he is.. it’s not safe. Best of luck xx

Another one saying to get advice from somewhere knowledgeable like Women’s Aid so you can get a plan in place to leave. Glad you’re going to your family for some space with your little lad. Your partner sounds bloody awful, OP - what he did was just mean and spiteful. Certainly not ‘a laugh’, like his friends seem to think.

I’m so sad for your boy as well - but hopefully it motivates you to make a decision on your future.

You need to work out in your own mind, what is the limit that you’ll put up with. Everyone has different expectations and experiences to what is ‘normal’ how far are you willing to let him push things if you let this go?!

This is domestic violence.

Please don't let your son (or yourself) become a statistic..

You need to leave. My Dad used to smash up our toys as kids, escalated to hitting us and violence. I wish my mum had left - please leave him for your child, no matter what he says. This will get worse - my husband would never dream of behaving like that to a two year old, and no decent man or woman would.

If it was an accident then thats different but simply to bash the TV with a pool cue. Surely the sensible thing is to take the pool cue off him.

ABSOLUTE EW!!!!

Who cares about why the son did it?! He's two, you utter weapon.

On one hand, I have 4 now adult children who never broke a TV between them because we'd never let them use such a daft toy near the TV, it's a long stick. But that aside, he's tiny. OH breaking his toy in retaliation would be non negotiable for me. And his friends laughing about it? No. Move now before he hurts someone physically.

Get out now. I'll give you a tv.

How very sad for you and your little boy. To think that a grown man and father would retaliate to this in such a way, even at all😞

He is a disgrace. I hope you're OK and able to get as far away from him as possible.

It was an accident..... he wasn't mindlessly hitting the tv.... he was playing with his pool balls on the floor and accidentally hit the tv..... he has been playing for over a year now and never has that happened before

@Katie660

I presume you've read the replies....What are you going to do now ???

Thanks. I'm sorry I didnt read your post properly. I thought he had gone up the TV and bashed it with the pool cue. Thats different altogether.