Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

Take no notice of that ridiculous poster. There always has to be one person posting absolute nonsense.

Yeah you don't sit down and talk to your child's abuser, you sit down and talk to your divorce lawyer.

My son is my priority and I will do anything for him.

Time to prove it.

I think you're dimwitted.

He’s an utter cunt

What’s your position - own/rent? Whose name is everything in?

Get out and do it FAST. Don’t think he won’t hurt your son next - awful awful man!

OP his temper is worrying. That is all you need to know to get away and stay away from this man.

Agreed.

RUN. LIKE. THE. WIND!!!!

I've actually tears in my eyes.. your poor little boy
. Honestly you cannot stay in this relationship.. it will only get worse..

How do you handle it? You leave. You don't go back. And a Clare's Law search might be in order too.

Dear @Katie660
i agree with the others, that he is a danger to your son as well as yourself.
I do hope you leave but if you stay, please make sure you are on water tight contraception as these men get more and more coercive each and every time you have a dc. Please don’t fall for his begging and crying when you go to your parents. If you can stay strong and get away from him now, you will save yourself years of misery, best of luck x

Leave as fast as you can. Your poor poor son. He is only 2 😔

Seriously, you need to leave.
This will only get worse in time

I'm glad you are staying with family to give yourself space to think. It took me years to leave my marriage because I had faith he would change, and then later I changed my behaviour to avoid conflict. It wasn't a healthy situation. It's smashing up a toy today, but it could potentially something much worse the next time, like hurting you or your son. The behaviour will escalate. The psychological impact will be huge. I wish you well.

He’s two! What an utterly spiteful thing to do.

What a POS.

This is awful and abusive. You need to protect your son and leave this prick.
Are you afraid of him if you tried to leave?

Honestly even if it wasn't a red flag for further violence, a grown man behaving so petulantly and pathetically would give me the permanent ick - I don't know how you'd ever be able to find him attractive again.

Absolutely no way could I be near him after seeing how spiteful he is towards my child. I'm angry just reading it! He shouldn't be anywhere near a kid.

What he did is horrible. What else like this has he done?

Leave before he hits you or your son

Of course your DH shouldnt have destroyed the pool table. But it really was quite destructive of your child to hit the TV screen with a pool cue even if he is only 2. I would have taken the pool table and cues away for a while till he learns not to destroy things with it.

Oh for heaven's sake. This is really your take on things!? That said, I have noticed you posting stupid takes before, so I suppose I shouldn't be surprised.

That is utterly disgusting behaviour. I am also sad for your son. Please seek help to leave as soon as you can and as safely as possible. This will only escalate.

What does your gut really say to you here op? I think mine would be telling me that this could escalate. What is wrong with some men. I get being frustrated at this but then the reflex being to retaliate in this way, is really worrying.