Im sad for my son

[Katie660]

Im feeling hurt for my son and I don't know what to do....

Last night, my two-year-old accidentally hit our TV with a toy pool cue while he was playing. The impact broke the screen beyond repair. The cue was part of a Christmas gift that included a children's pool table.

The following morning, my partner was still angry about the broken TV and deliberately smashed our child's pool table. Our son did not witness this and has no idea that his toy has been destroyed.

When I spoke to my partner about what he had done, he said he wasn't sorry and didn't care that he had broken his own child's toy. I asked him what his friends would think of his actions, and he replied that he had already told them, and they all laughed.

How do I handle this, he will not sit down and talk about it and is only caring about his broken TV.

Edit - sorry I didn't mean to send this as a response to your comment but I agree with your sentiment!

Your partner is a massive dickhead. Your poor little boy 😢. I think your partners response is rather concerning and immature . If you have somewhere to go I would take your child away from that situation until your husband realises how wildly out of order his reaction was. What a twat . I hope you're okay !

There is always at least one of these dumb arse comments . What a stupid thing to say

Putting the pool cue safely away to avoid future accidents is one thing. Smashing up a toddler's toy - and not even in the heat of the moment, but after having slept on it - is awful. This man is not safe and it sounds as if his social circle are not going to encourage him to behave in a safe and kind way to his child. Please get to safety.

Thanks. I'm sorry I didnt read your post properly. I thought he had gone up the TV and bashed it with the pool cue. Thats different altogether.

Implying the adult’s reaction would’ve been ok if the two year old had done it on purpose @Viviennemary? I think you must’ve worded your reply strangely because nobody would think this, right?

Katie, your partner and his friends are not normal people. Your partner is a vicious thug. And I’ve never heard of anyone laughing about a man deliberately smashing his two-year-old’s toys.

This story is so bizarre that it hardly seems credible. But I’m responding as if it’s true because if it’s a hoax it doesn’t matter, but if this is your real life, you must leave this violent and unstable man, for your son’s sake as well as your own.

I wouldn't count on it. This poster posts a lot of provocative nonsense.

I was trying to be polite @BettyJoanPerske That particular poster is evidently both bored and a prick.

No I did not imply that. I said if it had been deliberate then the pool cue should have been taken off the child and put away.

You don't say anything about your partner, but this does not sound like a person that any sane person would want to partner with - petty, vindictive, and irrational.

Developmentally your husband is still a child. Leave

Oh my, the poor boy is only two. He didn't mean any harm. Poor little mite. Kids accidentally break things. It's what they do. He obviously didn't mean it. Your partner on the other hand did mean it.

Not sure I could stay with such a bully. He'll only get worse.

There was nothing wrong in what your Ds was doing op.

Please take your little boy away from this man - and I would not say that lightly. There is a cruelty in the way he is acting towards a tiny child.

That is heartbreaking. I actually found that quite upsetting to read.

Jesus Christ.

I’m sorry OP, that’s awful.
Not normal behaviour & if this is how he reacts when the baby is TWO, what about when something happens when he’s 5…10…

As he's recently moved in you're now starting to see the real him and that's an abusive bully. This will only get worse. If you stay together you're condoning the abuse.

An adult has responded- after several hours and a sleep to calm down - to a two year old's accident by breaking their toy in retaliation.

You need to get yourself and your child away from him OP, that's not normal or safe. If it's true his friends laughed then he has shit friends and that never ends well either.

You feel sad because someone has deliberately done something to hurt your child, and you aren't protecting him. That's a normal response - act on it.

There's no point saying your chid is your priority. Prove it. If it's true you never need to say it.

So tired of these threads full of guff about 'my child is my world' whilst tolerating them living with abuse.

Get rid of him, totally unacceptable. Did he move into your place? Is it your TV or his? If its your place get him out now and have someone nearby when you tell him. Change the locks. Attacking a two year old's things is a massive red flag - its not far beyond that to take it out on the child.

My little dog jumped up at my TV a few months ago, knocked it over, and cracked the screen. I didn't go into her toy box and break a toy in revenge because it was an accident and she is a dog.

Your partner, however, thought it was acceptable to do exactly that to your 2-year-old son?
He is VILE.

OP, you know that there's only one way to handle this.
Just do it. And don't look back.

He’s been playing pool for over a year but is still only 2 years old. Starting young!
As for your situation, I’d be feeling a lot more than sad.
Id be making plans to leave this man permanently.

This man is a huge red flag for domestic abuse.

Sad?

Be angry! Be activated.
Be motivated to protect.
Be gone!

I work in family violence. Breaking belongings is a form of abuse. It’s actually considered one of the forms of physical abuse. Please seek support and consider creating a safety plan for yourself and your son.

Your tiny toddler 2 year old accidentally broke a tv with a pool cue (that he is way too young to use, or understand), and in response your partner got so angry that in private he smashed up your 2 year old's toy?

This man is going to seriously hurt one of you, likely both of you.

Get yourself and your small child the hell away from him.